Ok so my friend moved out of his rented house into his parents house, whre he couldnt bring his cat with him...so my finace and I go the cat (along w/ the one we already have) How long is to long for him to get his cat back, he says he wants it back, but we have grown to love it, and our other cat has a friend now...what do you think...i think the cat should be ours, its been more then 2 months now
2006-08-28 08:02:39 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pets ➔ Cats
He said he would get his own place within a month, knowing my friend, that wont happen, (sadly said)
2006-08-28 08:07:07 · update #1
in his eyes, wwe are "catt sitting"
2006-08-28 08:11:31 · update #2
Ask him what his timeline is to find his new place. If he's not even looking to move, and he can't have the cat where he's at currently, then IMHO he's kinda screwed on the "I want my cat" thing (if he's not even trying to do what needs to be done to get the cat). Actions speak louder than words.
Talk it out with him, and if he is adamant that he wants the cat, put together a boarding bill - food, vet expenses, etc. Tell him that's how much it will cost for you to "temporarily" take care of the cat while he's getting his act together.
2006-08-28 08:06:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was nice of you to agree to help your friend out with the cat. So , you must be a good friend, an animal lover or both.
If you did it because you are a good friend, then - is the cat worth loosing that friendship over? If you did this because you are an animal lover, ask yourself; Is he a good and responsible pet owner? Is there any reason why this cat wouldn't be taken care of well with it's original owner?
Please don't hold the cat hostage and loose a friendship over this. Tell your friend how you feel, and if you really really want to keep the cat, be very honest. Stop short of begging! Tell him that you have really grown attached to fluffy. Beg him, offer to pay him for the cat, or draw up some joint custody arrangements!
2006-08-28 08:16:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should keep the cat as he seems adjusted and happy where he is.
How you would handle it with your friend is another matter and that would depend on how much you value his friendship as keeping the cat will make him angry with you.
If you agreed to just "cat sit" with the assumption that the cat would be returned then it's not fair to keep it.
Depending on your funds you might offer to go to a shelter with your friend when he gets settled and help him find a new cat needing a home and pay some or all of the adoption fees.
2006-08-28 08:32:11 · answer #3 · answered by old cat lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you agreed that you would watch the cat for him then give it back. Did you have a time frame. It is still his cat. Who has been paying for the food, litter ect.? He probably still loves his cat also and would miss it as much as you and thought the best place at the time was your house. If you didn't make an arrangement that stated it would be yours after a certain period of time give it back and get yourselves another cat.
2006-08-28 10:12:16 · answer #4 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by all rights he gave up the cat. If he really wanted the cat he would have looked for a place that allowed the cat. Cats are tempermental, they do not take changes very well. If the cat is comfortable with you , then keep it.
2006-08-28 08:09:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think it is too late for him to want the cat back..you, your fiancee and most importantly your kitty have all bonded with the new cat, and it could *hurt* both kitties...they might become depressed leaving each other. He gave you the cat. Maybe you can offer to get him a new kitten?? So that you can keep the kitty in good faith, without any negative feelings.
Good luck with that!
2006-08-28 08:08:29 · answer #6 · answered by JeWelz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he gave it up to a shelter he wouldn't be able to get it back after 2 months so why would it be different for you, you have a nice happy family there. he can have visiting rights but not ownership rights if he wanted the cat he should have kept it.
2006-08-28 08:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by macleod709 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you keep the cat if your friend was a cat lover he would have his cat back no matter what, just lay your cards on the table and tell your friend the score and get it sorted!
2006-08-28 08:24:46 · answer #8 · answered by Little miss naughty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a long time for cat sitting.
Buy him a new cat.
2006-08-28 08:53:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah! What Cislojedno says!
Cat sitting my heinie---then SEND HIM A BILL!
Cost me 25$ a day to board my small dog--send the jerk a bill!
2006-08-28 08:14:13 · answer #10 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋