2006-08-28 07:54:49 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I can only answer this question based on my Christian & moral upbringing. I think it's best to get married before you have children.
BUT......
If you already have the children, just do the best you can to provide the children with a stable and structured life. Not all families are alike:)
2006-08-28 08:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by Proud mother! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I have been together for six years now and we have a four year old daughter and I am due to have another child here in a few weeks. If we had the money to get married we would. We are saving for it. But marriage is about being in love with each other. It doesn't have anything to do with a peice of paper. In the old days before there were courts did people get married...of course they did, it just didn't have to be documented by a court house that wants to charge you an arm and a leg.
2006-08-28 09:17:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am single and I have no children. I am waiting to get married b/c I believe in abiding by my spiritual concepts. If you are pregnant by all means keep the baby. My thoughts will be geared basically towards my spiritual beliefs. I am practicing abstinence. Often times children grow up with all type of complexes b/c their siblings have different fathers. If you have a child by someone now and you are not married to them, will you have another one w/o being married? The answer to this question really depends upon your beliefs and values. If so, you could end up with 2-3 children with different fathers. I think it's better for the child to be birthed into a home where there are strong parents. It's detrimental to that child's growth and well-being. Be sure to make the right decision.
2006-08-28 08:19:41 · answer #3 · answered by DaddysGirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I asked this same question last week and if you were confused before you probley are now because people frown upon baby's before marriage. I have 2 children both out of wedlock now their father is gone. Now Iam with the greatest guy in the world and we are trying(we are not married) so it's your life the hell with everyone else
2006-08-28 08:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by crystalzabia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but then again I don't believe in having children after marriage either.
2006-08-28 08:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by Martin523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe people should have kids when they feel they are ready. Many people do not wish to get married but do want kids and I am perfectly fine with that. Marriage is not what it used to be. People should not be allowed to get married at all with the way it goes now. Marriage is pointless except for the tax privileges (sp).
2006-08-28 08:18:15 · answer #6 · answered by Chelle's Belle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people say no but these are probably the same who had kids before marriage. lol ANYWAY, millions of people have children before marriage EVERYDAY. lucky for me, i will be getting married and then i will have my children. oh and one more thing, people who don't believe in having children before marriage forgot that they HAD SEX before marriage, this is just as bad. there are a lot of hyppocrites in this wolrd. but i guess since so many people are having sex before marriage, it became natural and a tradition that people forgot. however,getting married gives you and your children financial benefits.
2006-08-28 08:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by averilyn06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im having a baby out of wedlock... i dont think theres anything wrong with it... now a days marriages dont even work... so why let a child live through a divorce? i think that if both parents arent married but have a strong either friendship or relationship they can do it... marriage in this century only means what.. .your off the market so it makes other people look... and even while many people are married they still are looking for someone who is a "better pick' than the one they already have. id rather have my baby alone any day.
2006-08-28 08:04:40 · answer #8 · answered by charlena 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think sometimes it works out for the better. Some people say it's not fair to the child but is it fair when the parents go to get a divorce after years and they're reason for being together is the children? Me and my daughters father have been together for 11 years and its worked out fine not being married.
2006-08-28 08:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by DA MASTER 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nope!!! You get married first then kids. I also don't believe in sex before marriage.
PS~ I was a virgin bride at the age of 28 and we had our son when I was 30 and we are haiving another child in Jan. when I am 34
2006-08-28 08:21:16 · answer #10 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋