i am way old enough to have children - but still feel like i couldnt give up my time to have them! is their ever a right time??
2006-08-28 07:50:19 · 25 answers · asked by yobogirl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
no! never is a right time.you will cope though trust me. i am a bloke of 41 yrs my eldest child is 7yrs. me and my partner have struggled from time to time,but believe me it is oh so worth it.my other 2 are 3yrs and 1yr.
2006-08-29 11:33:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well after 35 is risky but this designer on project run way is pregnant at 42. you sound like me and the only thing preventing me from having kids is my education and finding the right man. but really it was my education. i said i am not having kids until i 've reached my goals. have you reached your goals yet? if not this is why you don't have kids. if have accomplished your goals, sweety you have time and it is the right time to have kids. it can be fearful. i worry about finding the right babysitter. anyway, take a calendar or a notebook and right all of your appointments and the time you will conceive, when you will have maternity leave and a nanny and etc. what are you waiting for? don't wait until you are 50 because it would not be fair to your child that he or she might have birth defects. our eggs do deplete after a while. i will have my kids in my 30s because i want my master's degree. think about. poor people, rich, and young with 2 or 3 jobs have children all the time. there is not excuse. you make the time.
2006-08-28 15:01:58 · answer #2 · answered by averilyn06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you this the time never seems right to us. You will always have a thousand reasons why the time is not right. It depends on your age and your ability to take care of your responsibilities. Are you married? I am 30 and single. I am waiting for a husband and then I will have children. Make sure that when you do have children that you choose to be with someone where you can provide a loving home/atmosphere for the child.
2006-08-28 14:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by DaddysGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a perfect time. I was 21 when I found out I was pregnant, decent carrer and in the process of buying our first home with my partner. It felt like the worst possible time but my son is 10months old now and I think it was as close to perfect timing as possible.
When he's at school and I have more free time I will only be in my mid 20's I can study again or start at the bottom and work my way up.
I also think I wasn't set in MY ways so found it easy to adapt for baby's needs. I have seen this first hand in older parents and they are so set in their ways they go into shock at the prospect of giving it all up for a baby.
Whenever it happens we have to make the best of it and be the best mummy you can!
2006-08-29 17:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your ready to give up your time is the right time to have children. Don't feel pressured by age.
For some it's right to start a family whilst still being very young, then there are the more mature who want to do everything first before the patter of tiny feet. What feels right for you will work for you.
2006-08-28 16:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by Candy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my son at the age of 25 I was in a high powered job and living the high life in Scotland (originally from Sheffield) I did it alone and it was bloody hard but the best experience of my life he's 8 now and I have my independence back I have returned to work and am getting married next year to a wonderful bloke who dotes on my son..... at the time I thought my whole world had crumbled but you get on with it and although there were many hard times it was definitely worth it..... the moral is there is never a right time but when/ if it happens it will change your life forever
2006-08-28 15:05:51 · answer #6 · answered by Berrylicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if everyone waited until there was a 'right time' tp have kids, there would be very few people.
I had my first at 27 and second @ 29.
I feel great. I went and live my life, did the things I wanted to do and have no regrets or blame my kids for the fun I might be missing!
Enjoy your life, when it is time you will know
2006-08-28 14:57:07 · answer #7 · answered by kaseyinjax 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll never feel like it's the right time. There will always be something. My husband and I were ready financially and that's when we decided to just do it. It's the best decision we ever made! The fact that you are thinking about these things means you are probably close to ready.
2006-08-28 14:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Yobo,
I think the right time is anytime under 40 really. If you have them over 40 you risk your health and theirs, also if you leave it to long you may not be as fertile. Fertility wise it's supposed to be up to your late 20s middle 30s. Also you may want to take into consideration that they need LOADS of care 'n' LOADS of DOSH (money if your American). And can i just say, Children NEED mums and dads or other family members, and not to be sent off to loads of other child minding sorts. Children are people too innit. Empathy is needed to raise children. AWWWWWWWWWW lil babies awwwwww i hope you enjoy em i dooooooooo xxxxxxxxxxxxx
2006-08-28 16:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that there is ever a RIGHT time, other than what feels right to you! If you always wait for the right time you will never have a baby.
2006-08-28 14:54:00 · answer #10 · answered by stangwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will know when the time is right. Age is not important. I am 32 and still don't have children but the only reason i don't is cause i haven't because i haven't met the person i want to have them with.
Good Luck with your decision
2006-08-28 15:10:56 · answer #11 · answered by whatdoiwant?????? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋