Do you think grandparents have rights?

Question

I am the mom not the grandmother. My mother and family are extreme TOXIC and I havent talked to her since I was pregnant. She is telling everyone I am keeping her from HER grandchild. She treats her other grandchildren like crap and I will not allow my baby to be in the middle....

If she is alive when my daughter is older I will tell her just that she was not a nice person and then SHE can make the decision if she wants to make her a part of her life.

Answer 1

They have no rights over your child..period.. You are doing the right thing. If more people chastised people when they behaved badly, there would be less of it.

Good for you!!!

Answer 2

It completely depends on the relationship between the "grandparent" and the parent of the grandchild. There are some situation where the grandparents are horribly abusive and becuase they don;t like their son or daughter's spouse, they go out of their way to critisize them in front of the grandchild and to insure the breakup of the couple. Should THAT grandparent have "rights' and I assume you mean-visitation rights-? If I were a judge and I saw abusive grandparents, I would only allow supervised visitations.

If the grandparents were mentally stable, supportive of both parents and their presence was a healthy situation for everyone involved, then yes, they should have the right to visit their grandchildren.

Answer 3

Ebonee Beautee - Don't listent o her. Keep your child away from her. YOU are the mother and grandparents HAVE NO RIGHTS... Most courts agree unless abuse or neglect is involved.. The next time I see my mother will probably be at the cemetary. We are moving and I would not waste my time for coming home for a funeral. My daughter is almost a year and she has never TRIED to make contact.




I have a selfish totally narcissistic mother. First she can't afford the legal fees and she knows I would win. I have witnesses including doctors of the treatment I received during my teens and now she has favorites with my niece and nephew. She like to belittle the ones of the family that are normal... Example: my brother abused me when I was young and is a womanizer. He is her favorite.... I have another sister that gave her kids up when I was in my teens and freeloads off the government. She also put her up on a pedestal. I use to cut myself as a teen and was very depressed. I never got any attention from her....

So I guess it depend on the situation.

Answer 4

Patricia C get a grip. How could you want a child to be in an abusive environment? Not all grandmothers should be allowed to see their children. Not all grandmothers are kind and loving and bake cookies. My mother is also narcissistic and there are members of my family that abused me as a child and I would NEVER let them around my baby girl. My mother never wanted to hear about the abuse because it was from my brother. She always loved to it when I was weak and had issues. She loves to minipulate and control. My brother is a womanizer and she feels in control with him and my other sibblings that live lives that I would not subject my daughter to... The next time I will see my mother will be at the cemetery when I tell her how good my life is. I don't wish her death but I will not waste my time going to her funeral.


My baby has her grandma the woman who took me in every time my mother let my stepfather through me out, the woman who rescued me when I couldn't afford to pay my rent in my studio apartment at the age of 15. Due to a nervous breakdown from PTS. We are moving 500 miles to get away from my toxic family so this won't be an issue and so we can be closer to my baby's "GRANDMA"


GET REAL.

wiserdaddy and mommy471

Answer 5

That's a tricky one! It depends on the situation. If a grandparent starts being a grandparent while you are pregnant, then yeah, maybe. But in my situation, my bf's mom completely shunned me from the entire family and pretty much has made me feel like a big fat nothing the whole time I've been pregant. I've only got until October left, and if I have anything to do with it, she won't see my baby. She has actually saw me out in public once, and didn't speak. I guess because she was embarrassed to be talking to me. So, it just depends on your situation.

Answer 6

you may not like the way your mother treats her other grandchildren, and no you don't have to subject your child to the same treatment, but your mother has a right to spend time with her grandchild . . even if you take her there, stay a couple of hours, and then leave . . don't deprive your baby of the love of a grandmother . . .

Answer 7

Yes but....
My mom does not see my kids much because I cannot trust her. She is mentally ill and I would fear for my children's' safety. This is nothing against the mentally ill. My mom refuses to get help. My father smokes like a chimney and has a bad potty mouth. I don't want my kids exposed to that. My mother in law is old and frail and would let the kids do whatever they want. She has an adult son that lives with her who I don't trust for other reasons.
So yes grandparents do have rights but they need to be good caretakers and trust worthy.

Answer 8

I think they do to a certain degree. I mean they dont have say so in what the parents do they just cant come and get them when they want but I feel that the grandparents have a right to see that child (s) because it is there blood. But really in the state of Ohio anyway you dont have grandparents rights unless one of the parents is dead. I guess I feel in a way that they do have rights but in many cases they only want rights to be the bad guys they arent out for the safety of the child they only what they think is best for them so to answer that questions its ify there is yes and no answers to it

Answer 9

well it all depends on the situation such as abuse or even neglect but it also depends on wether or not they are maybe from a father or mother who have never been married and are having problems and their parents are interfearing or you are a grandparent who has your grandchildren from result of death or any other form of thing like that such as incarsaton(jail or prison) and or the parents fo not want the children or children do not want to be with the parents but yes as far as i know grandparents do have rights in i think every state in the united states in other countries i am not sure

Answer 10

They do. Get on your local court website and check out the grandparents rights page. They can't take your child away from you or anything like that, you are the parent after all. If they wanted to pursue something, they'll have to take you to court to do so. Unless the children are in danger with their grandparents, they shouldn't be kept from them. If you have beef with them (grandparents), and you don't want your kids to have visitation with them, you don't HAVE to let them see each other. As I mentioned earlier, they can take you to court...but of course, that's gonna be a long over-drawn process that none of you probably have the time for.

Answer 11

Legally, depending where you're from, they do have rights, but if your mother is causing dysharmony with your kids, maybe your kids, with your support, need to tell her what the problems are.By the way, grandparents rights have more to do with divorce, so she might not actually have legal rights to see the kids. I would first try to solve the problem with clear boundaries defined, and if that doesn't work, explain what your demands are until she can see the kids.