My bf and I love each other alot. He went to a friend's party and was drinking. He didn't get drunk, but was getting hit on by another girl. The girl kissed him, but he didn't push her away right away. He called me and told me within half and hour of it happening...what do you think?
2006-08-28 07:35:45 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He actually wasn't drunk, he never gets drunk. He had only had his first beer.
2006-08-28 07:41:08 · update #1
I think he was very honest in telling you this. If he wasn't honest about this then he might have kept this to himself and hope it happened again.
It appears that he wants you to trust him by him telling you what had happened almost immediately. I am a guy and that's just what it seems like to me. If I was in your shoes I would want my partner to let me know as well. He's a good guy for being honest with you.
2006-08-28 07:41:04 · answer #1 · answered by Michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he told you about it right away because he was afraid someone else from the party would tell you first and he would be busted.
I think you should have a meeting with the woman in question and discuss this as two mature adults, and see if she tries to make out with you. If she does, and you don't push her away, then you're just as bad as your boyfriend. On the other hand, that may mean that you found someone you like more. Good luck to the three of you.
2006-08-28 14:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by mikky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a tough situation cuz he wasnt drunk so he knew what was goin on and didnt push her away right away. but maybe while she was kissing him he knew it wasnt right so thats when he pushed her away. That probably made him feel guilty so he called u and told u.
p.s. just remember he didnt keep it a secret from u instead he told u straight up and u didnt find out by someone else. just talk about it and let it slide because after all u guys love each other just make sure it doesnt happen again
2006-08-28 14:46:49 · answer #3 · answered by jelly1505 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sister~ his desire to be honest is a "good" step, but if you are involved in a relationship where you are physically intimate, you leave yourself open to alot of things. I dont know if you are christian or not, but when we "walk in sin" we are living according to satan's rules. And he has none, amen? You cant go into "his house" and then start laying rules down. What we are really saying to our boy/girl-friends is "sin with just ME!"..and the enemy does not honor that. My husband and I dealt with this when we were still just engaged. Whether he was drunk or not, his spirit was compromised/overwhelmed by the influences around him. He seems repentant about it (and honesty is an important foundation towards marriage) so I encourage you both to first, turn from sin, then take the love you have for each other, and learn to focus it on God. He will show you how to bind your love closer to each other, and beat back the spirits that are seeking to divide you even now.
God Bless you and keep you...
2006-08-28 14:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was only his first beer then him having any achohol in his system shouldnt be the issue..cause 1 beer is nothing. i think he if really really loved you...it would have been repulsive for him to even think about kissing another girl...im not saying this will turn into him cheating on you...but make sure you know that the stuff he did at the party is like a gateway cheat...once you do that who knows what else he might do. but considering he called and wanted you to know...id say cheating isnt gonna be the issue. you cant force him to want to only kiss/etc stuff with you....either he doesnt feel it and doesnt push the girl away..or hes in love and he doesnt want anyone but you...he has to make that choice.
2006-08-28 14:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thnk he did the right thing by telling you and if he was drunk then the girl kissing him and him taking a sec or 2 to push her away may of been his reactions delayed a little bit but I admire him for telling you so soon!
2006-08-28 14:39:39 · answer #6 · answered by JWO teddy bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should forgive him this once. He was drinking and he did call you right away. That means he felt very guilty. But he has some serious making up to you to do.
2006-08-28 14:47:23 · answer #7 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let it go. If it comes up in conversation, thank him for telling you and for not giving into temptation. If it happens again, however, kick him to the curb.
2006-08-28 14:40:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that my boyfriend would not be going to parties without me. But it was good that he told you. People usually just go to parties to get laid anyways. I wouldn't be letting him go as long as he is my man! (well, your man, in this case)
2006-08-28 14:40:25 · answer #9 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look you're lucky to have a guy who is honest enough to tell you what happened and who was loyal enough to push her away! so just talk it out with him!
2006-08-28 14:53:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋