He took her to a child molesters house..what do I do?

Question

I am raising my 20 month old cousin...I have her from Sunday to either Friday or Saturday. Her father has custody and gets her on the weekends because he drives a truck. When they came back this weekend I found out that he took her and spent the night at his brothers house who is on parole for child molestation and not suppose to be around children. If I raise too much hell he may take her from me , I have no legal custody...I don't see any signs that anything happened to her but I am uncomfortable about her being around him.

Answer 1

Document everything. Start keeping a journal of what you are doing to raise the baby and how dangerous you think it is for your cousin to take the baby to his brother's house.

Next thing you should do is to make sure that there is nothing in your home or about yourself that would prevent you from having custody...pay any parking tickets, or anything that could be considered a legal roadblock for you to get custody.

Then contact the department of social services to see what you can do. Your cousin might be fine with you having regular custody because he would be off the hook for certain aspects of the baby's care. Approach him gently and only after you know the procedure and know the rules, etc.

You might also want to take the baby to a doctor asap to make sure that there are no signs of abuse. And document the nature of the visit...explain why it's happening. On second thought, do this first! It's in the best interest of the baby and it really will ease your mind. And if you are truly concerened, then this is the thing to do first.

********PLEASE ignore the person who went on and on about "maybe he's innocent....maybe he won't molest again...you could put an innocent man behind bars..."

That is all total crap. Odds are this goof is closely related to someone who was or is a molester and they are choosing not to believe it. The few who are wrongly convicted do suffer but the majority are guilty and no child should be endangered because of you being afraid you'll wrongly accuse an innocent man.

****another last note. Anyone who thinks the father of th baby could protect the child from a molester...that is the wrong attitude. Nobody "lets" a molester hurt their child. And the majority of kids who are abused are abused by a close family member....NOT a stranger.

Kids, from an early age, need to be told over and over that if anyone hurts them in their private parts, even mommy or daddy or uncles or grandmas, etc. they need to go and tell ANOTHER big person about who hurt them. Tell the kid that the person who hurts them needs to go to a doctor to get better. Believe me, this works. Nobody ever tells kids that someone close might hurt them, but most of the time, that is who does it.

Think about it.

Answer 2

You need your rights soon and then you can have some say about what's going on, but sorry to say until then you can't do much about it but report it. But if the child was not harmed you could be putting a man behind bars that hasn't done anything wrong. Just because the man has a past it doesn't mean he's going to do anythign to the child or his brother would ALLOW him to do anything. You need to speak with the father about the situation and let him know how you feel though. Just because this man has been accuse dof molestation it doesn't mean he can never be around his family again. And like it or not the baby is his family.

Answer 3

All you need to do is to quietly (anonymously) notify the parole officer; they will take care of the rest.

If the dad accuses you of anything, ask him if HE feels ok with a molester in the same house as his daughter...other than that, there's nothing you can do except wait for the girl to get molested and then sue the idiot dad for custody AND have him put in jail for child endagerment and negligence.

Answer 4

First, to say anything to an official could cause CPS to get involved and could take her from both of you. From him for abandonment and you because you are not a legal guardian. Talk to an attorney about custody rights to the child, with out the father knowing right away. or you can set an appointment for a doctor and let him know that you need power of attorney or joint custody to care for her properly while he is gone. Then after you get it, call the parole office unsuspectingly for suspected children at the guys house and let them bust him. but truthfully I don't think he would let his brother hurt her. In fact I think he would be more protective over her than usual.

Answer 5

call the local police department,State Police or County. Don't bother with the town cops, they usually need to talk to a state cop anyway. Call and tell them exactly what you said here, they will help. You could save this child. Tell them that the child will be taken away from your safe home by the father if he knew you told on the molester. Daddy will be relieved of he daddy privlages for endangering the welfare of a child.

Answer 6

Well, you need to raise as much hell as possible regardless to if they "try to take her away" or not. If you don't you are just as guilty as the father is for letting it happen and not saying anything. You need to call the proper people and get the ball rolling in your court to get custody of her if you really do care about the kid...
where is the mother?

Answer 7

I would try to come up with proof or find out when he goes over the and call the authorities he can get into a lot of trouble and you will probably end up with full custody plus its whats best for the child. If hes taking her over there he can't really care for her that much to put her in harms way like that.

Answer 8

I suggest calling CPS and ask them what you can do to get some custody situation in order if you have the child that much you should be able to protect the child from that environment... Apply for Protective Custody and the will report the brother for parole violation for you Good luck But at all cost protect the child

Answer 9

i think you need to call "child protective services" in your area and report your concern. you can probably call them anonymously and explain the situation without revealing who anyone is at first to get an idea of what you need to do for your little cousin. you have grounds for getting full custody if his brother is on the books for molestation. the father should only be allowed supervised visitation. there is probably free or sliding scale legal advice in your area to help guide you through this. i know it seems like a lot to undertake, but its worth it if it saves your cousin from harm. i commend you for being a responsible parent to your cousin, its not easy. wherever/whoever the mother is, she's lucky its you. ;)

Answer 10

Make an anonymous call to the police in whatever city he lives in and say you have seen this child over there. The father will never know it was you and the police will investigate and watch that person a lot more closely.