My boyfriend and I are basically arguing all of the time. He and I both have bipolar disorder, but he also is a recovering addict. For the first few months of our relationship he lied to me and conned me out a bunch of money. Now things are thousands of times better but still not good enough. He lives with his parents and hasn't had a job in over a year. I buy him things and pay for everything and he is still ungrateful for everything i've put up with. He is great sometimes but most of the time he acts like a little kid. I want a man but I myself am like a little girl. I also get lonely and don't want to take the energy to find someone else. He is holding me back in my growth. Everytime we try and break up we end up back together again. I don't have sexual chemistry towards him and want to have a sex drive again. He makes me feel guilty about a lot of things and myself and who I am. I am a ***** so what do I do? Will anyone else want me?
2006-08-28 07:20:49 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the reason y he acts like a little kid is because u treat him as such u r not his parent and should not take on a responsiblity to take care of a grown man that was mistake 1 and the he stole from u mistake 2 and he is a recovering addict mistake 3 he still lives with his parents mistake 4 should i go on....no because u know in ur heart this person is using u. tell him that u can't continue to have a relationship with someone who is not doing his fair share. and u wish him luck in life but he will no longer be in urs. change ur numbers do not let him back in. if there are no emotional ties that shouldn't be very hard to do. good luck!!!
2006-08-28 07:31:24 · answer #1 · answered by ndemby05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok ive been in the same kind of relationship so i know exactly where your coming from....First off dont sit down and have a long "talk" to break up with him, tell him straight forward and be harsh if you u have to, remember he's put u through hell so y not be a B***h, Now after thats done yea your gonna be a lil sad, but hey he was holdin u back get together with your g\friends and get all pretty and go clubbin have fun dont let him t ake over ur heart oh and if he calls try ur absolute hardest to avoid him for the 1st month then hopefully ull be A.O.K!
2006-08-28 07:29:58 · answer #2 · answered by Desilou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will anyone else want me? Yes, there is always other love for you.
How can I break up with my boyfriend? Be direct. Be honest about why you're breaking up with him. "John, The relationship is not what I need and I'm breaking up with you because of ??? (give reasons). Be complete, do not say that you can still be friends, because you can't. Just end it, no calling up to see how he is doing. break all ties and communication. This way hurts the least and you get over it faster.
2006-08-28 07:33:37 · answer #3 · answered by David 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have given yourself four good reasons: (1) he's holding you back from growing, (2) their is no sexual chemistry with him, (3) you want your sex drive back and (4) he lays a guilt trip on you.
Those are three very good reasons to finally break it off and NOT get back together. Everytime you get back together, the chance of you gaining your freedom is lost. Be strong, and let go of this guy.
2006-08-28 07:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is scary, your b/f sounds like my Son.
Either way, move on why tie yourself down. He's not a responsible person. Being bipolar is no reason not to work or be a responsible person.
Move on, find someone who is active and more mature, you will see how it will help you out emotionally and physically.
good luck
2006-08-28 07:26:01 · answer #5 · answered by elguzano1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump something on him and break up with him. Then whenever you want to get back together insult him and say never. If you do get back together dump him. Look for the man your boyfriend hates and if your boyfriend chanes dump the man he hates. If not go out with the guy.
2006-08-28 07:28:02 · answer #6 · answered by chirosefan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I would explain to him how you are feeling and explain that you would like to move on right now. Don't blame him for anything or make him feel worse. Blame it all on your self like this:
"Honey, I don't really think i can hold on to this relationship right now because i am having problems with myself and i would hate to take it out on you. Right now, i would like to break up with you and move on"
2006-08-28 07:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the perfect example of women dating only trash men. Both of you should stay single for a while. I have dated a bipolar chick, it was almost perfect, I would have married her if it wasn't that she was also unbeliavable jaelous.
So there is hope for you
2006-08-28 07:26:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
someone else will always want you and even if you find it hard to get into another relationship...that is not a reason to stay in an unhealty one. Let him go and move on.
2006-08-28 07:25:03 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call it off with him i was in the same position as you they don't get any better i can tell you that and yes there are guys out there that will love you and give you the same things in return and not use you good luck
2006-08-28 07:26:59 · answer #10 · answered by carolea_lamblin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋