I am a formerly fat wellness teacher at a middle school in Indiana. I have decided that I don't love my husband anymore and I found love with another teacher. What is the best way to tell everyone? I had a neighbor decided the same thing, it really messed up her family. I want to spare my two kids a lot of problems later down the road.
2006-08-28 07:18:39 · 16 answers · asked by Tara B 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
just open the door and step out
2006-08-28 07:24:55 · answer #1 · answered by sweetiepi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is a 'fat wellness teacher'?
There is no GOOD way to do what you want to do. It's like saying how can I hit may hand with a hammer and not break a bone.
About your custody of the kids. Get a home near yours. Move into it. Instead of having your kids switch homes, you and your husband switch so your kids have as 'normal' a life as possible.
Remember. This is YOUR problem, not theirs.
2006-08-28 14:32:50 · answer #2 · answered by SPLATT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure this isn't just a fling? If it is, you don't want to risk losing everything over it. But if this is seriously what you want for the rest of your life, I'd first talk to your husband and ask for a divorce. Explain to him that you don't love him anymore. He will be hurt and angry, so I'd hold off on telling him about the lesbianism. (he might try to use it against you during custody hearings.) Also, you need to talk to your kids one on one, depending on their ages and closeness to you, they will react differently. Divorce is a traumatic thing all by itself. Trying to understand that your mom wants to be with a woman and not their father is a totally different issue. I think you should hold off on coming out for your kids sake. When the time is right, you'll know it.
2006-08-28 14:35:57 · answer #3 · answered by Mother of 1.5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a selfish twit! Stay married, don't "f" up and embarass your kids because you decided you want to have fun. Keep the promises you made to others and stop being so damn selfish.
Worst case - see the teacher on the side. You may not end up liking her in 6 months and then where would you be?
2006-08-28 14:27:50 · answer #4 · answered by Billy! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think if you tell everyone, that will somehow make everything right and prove you are proud rather than ashamed of your newly discovered persona?
it won't prove anything of the sort except that you are selfish and vain. You are not so important that everything about you has to be explained to everyone else.
Two women who have become close friends do not need to reveal the intimate details of their friendship except on a NEED TO KNOW basis.
2006-08-28 14:29:46 · answer #5 · answered by Grist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you are not going to spare your kids problems down the road. You might want to try family counseling. Because this is going to screw up your family.
2006-08-28 14:22:19 · answer #6 · answered by sheeny 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to think very carefuly about how much you want to disclose all at the same time.Move out and get your own place,divorce youur husband,then ask a Therapist how to disclose this to your children.If you disclose this before your divorce you are going to spend alot more money and may have huge problems.
2006-08-28 14:25:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that there is an easy way out of this one. You just have to follow your heart. if your heart tells you that coming out is the right thing, then do it. Just come right out and tell your family, you can't deny who you are.
2006-08-28 14:26:41 · answer #8 · answered by rocker_chick_729 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am straight but I know there is no right way or wrong way. People will be hurt by it (usually the parents) but they will get over it if they love you for you.
2006-08-28 14:34:30 · answer #9 · answered by saucylatina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come right out!
better to get the pain over with
2006-08-28 14:22:14 · answer #10 · answered by Xae 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way would be with a counsler to help with and advise the children. You didn't say how old they are.
2006-08-28 14:24:58 · answer #11 · answered by flip103158 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋