at kindergarten. This is her 2nd week and she has complained for the past few days that she does not like school, it is boring. This morning on the way she started crying and said no one wants to be her friend and all the girls ignore her. She will be 6 in December, and is usually a very confidant child. I left her crying and I cried all the way home- what can I do to make this better for her?
2006-08-28 07:15:44 · 16 answers · asked by Smilingcheek 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Kindergarten is often harder on the parents than the children. Look closely at what you are doing and saying. Often children do this for parents. Do you say that you miss her, etc. if so stop.
First of all the teacher is already aware of it, I am sure. Secondly, I bet when you leave it stops. No child will continue crygn the entire day..........twenty years of teaching, here.
from the time you pick her up ask her to list three good things that happened in school. f she can't list any at first, list them for her...you had lunch, you went to recess, you got to play with......,
you were with a teacher that loves you, etc.
Ask the teacher if you can have your child call you at a break on a day when she doesn't cry at all. The first time she goes to school without crying and handles the transition well..........have the teacher allow your child to call at recess. Compliment and praise her for being such a big girl and tell her you will have a special prize for her at the end of the week. You don't want this to become a habit. She is getting extra attention or something from acting this way and needs to learn that there are better ways to handle situations than crying. Kids always say nobody wants to play with them. It is so funny when parents come in and say that. I immediately ask the kids.......who would like to play wth Emily at recess time and all the hands go up! that is just her perception. there may have been one person who said that and now she is sure that no one wants to play with her. Relax, mom.
It will all work out. Listen, give her love, don't buy onto the crying, communicate with the teacher and come up with a plan to help her with the transtion...a buddy at recess, etc.
2006-08-29 04:28:35 · answer #1 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to her teacher? See if there is something more challenging for her if she is bored. If she is to far ahead try to move her to first grade. Or try and drop by the school and see what is going on in the class. Look through the door window. You really do not want to let her see you. I am truly sorry she is having problems. My daughter started kindergarten this year and I thought I was going to have that problem. We had it all year to the last day of Pre K 4.
I do make a point of helping in her class and other classes at her school so she knows mommy is close some days. Maybe you could volunteer an hour out of the day or when you have time.
2006-08-28 14:23:06 · answer #2 · answered by Sonya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, get to the know the teacher well and what is going on with your daughter in class. Don't be afraid to want to know all this going on. My first daughter went through this all too, and she's a very confident child also. It took a couple of weeks and her finding a friend, and then all was better. Kindergarten is a huge change for little ones, very hard to adapt to being away from mom and dealing with another authority (teacher) and so many kids. Talk to your daughter, do things with her after school.
Good luck to you, I know it is so hard. I was the one crying also.
2006-08-28 14:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by sistermoon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.Do not show fear, kids can smell fear a mile away.
2.Talk to her teacher and find out about your daughter’s day, does she play with other kids, does she look happy, etc.
3.See how your kid acts when you pick her up, and also for the rest of the day
If everything seems to be fine then ignore her. My mother told me that I cried for almost the first year of kindergarten, from the moment I woke up and saw my uniform waiting for me. Actually, I remember even lying to my dad and saying that someone was hitting me at school, but the truth is I truly liked it, I was the teachers favorite!!! I don’t know what I was thinking…
Just make sure your daughter is O.K., if she is just be patient, it will go away eventually.
2006-08-28 19:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by Karla T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 6 and in 1st grade, she started this last week also. Try a reward system. If she doesn't cry, reward her with something, like a sticker. At the end of the day, if she remained calm, give her something, I use slurpee's or trips to the park. Keep a calendar at home and put smiley faces on the days she did good, sad faces on the not-so-good days. Also, if you can and the school allows it, offer to have lunch with her if she goes to school without crying. Hope this helps, it worked for me!
2006-08-28 14:24:58 · answer #5 · answered by duckiejunkie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Find out if "all" of the girls are ignoring her or if just one is being mean to her. Talk to her teacher and see what is going on. Talk to your daughter and tell her the importance of school, suggest to her that she invite several of the girls over on the weekend for a back to school party. And getting to know some of the moms helps a lot
2006-08-28 15:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by sexyheater 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maby have her just start talking to the other kids. The other kids are problably going through the same thing and are thinking the same thing. If there is a certain girl that she seems to get along with have her ask her for a sleepover or over for a playdate after school with her parent, if they don't work.
2006-08-28 14:24:24 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT let her see that you are upset also. Children feed off of their parents actions and feelings. She will know if you are upset. She will be fine, and she will make friends. Just let her know that you love her and will be waiting at home for her. Ask her about some of the kids in her class, what their names are, etc. Sounds like she is giving you a guilt trip for leaving her at school. There is nothing you can do about it, its the law, kids have to go to school. She will get over it and make friends eventually.
2006-08-28 14:22:13 · answer #8 · answered by trebobnagrom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I used to volunteer in my sons kindergarten classes once a week and I found it really helped him in making friends and also brought me closer to the teachers and other parents. You could also try to set up play dates outside of school with other kids from her class so she can make friends. Try to stay strong for her sake, it will pass eventually.
2006-08-28 14:27:57 · answer #9 · answered by twocurious2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw, that must be awful for you! I'm sorry! Talk to the teacher and ask how her behavior is, along with how well she gets along with others, and what you can both do to make her feel better about going to school.
2006-08-29 13:57:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋