what would you do?

Question

i found out i was adopted 15 years ago as it turns out the person who i was led to belive was my big sister was indeed my biological mother,and the person that i thought was my mother was my grandmother anyhow ,we have not seen or heard from my sister/biological mother in a good 20 years should i look for her or should i leave well enough alone

Answer 1

Leave well enough alone. If she wanted to be a part of your life, she would be. She knows how to find you.

Instead, concentrate on what you HAVE. You have a wonderful mother who raised you, who cares that by blood she was Grandma? And you can be grateful that the woman who gave birth to you didn't abort you.

Answer 2

This is so hard, and I can actually tell you that I know what your going through. When I finally found my biological mother, she pretty much told me that I was a mistake, and that she wouldn't know my father if he was standing in front of her. Advised me not to call back again that part of her life was over. I didn't have time to ask any family history or ask about my half brother. So then again I have a brother, adopted into the family also that recently found his mother and father, and brothers and all stay in contact and are happy. The ball could fall either way. This is a decision that only you can make, and it is one that not many will ever understand. Be prepared though if you don't hear or see the reaction that you want. Some people are so cold hearted, and don't feel the love of family that you or I would. I know that I am thankful for my family and for the family that adopted me, So look at the positive side of it all.
Good luck

Answer 3

You have to do what you want to do. Is your heart telling you to go look for her? If so, do it. I know it's a risk, but that's what life's all about. Are you going to be able to look at yourself in the mirror everyday if you don't look for her? Chances are that she just may be scared how you'll feel if you ever found out the truth and it's probably the reason she's staying away. Do what you think is right, but make sure you'll be able to live with you decision the rest of your life.

Answer 4

First, I'm really sorry. It must be really stressful to have found that out. Secondly, do you want to see your mother again? If you do, then go out and find her. But don't do it just because you feel that you need to to be a good daughter. Do it if you really want to see her.

Answer 5

I just wanted to say good luck in whatever you decide to do. It's not up for us to say, because you know in your heart what you need to do...

Answer 6

I would look but if she doesnt want to talk just let it go

Answer 7

IT'S UP TO YOU. MAYBE SHE DOESNT WANT TO BE FOUND..FOLLOW YOUR HEART,BUT BE PREPARED FOR THE REPERCUSSIONS