i'm 21 years old, and i'm not allowed to drink. does anyone besides me see something wrong with this? if i even have a beer my mom chews me out! she drinks also! what is up?
2006-08-28 07:08:54 · 25 answers · asked by moneymakerchic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to move out and be on your own.
Even at 21, you are still at home and must abide by her rules
2006-08-28 07:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she sees what it has done in her life and wants to spare you from some pain. There could have been some really bad experiences because she drank when younger and wasn't able to make good choices. If she is still drinking maybe she is afraid you will become addicted to it also. Help her to quit and have a good life together.There is no need to move out for a simple reason like she loves you and wants to protect her. Talk and I mean really talk to find out what her reasons are. Maybe you can work something out somewhere in the middle if she is unwilling to stop drinking also. In years to come this will be just a little nick in the grand canyon of life!!!That is unless you move out and make a bigger issue of it than it is.
2006-08-28 14:20:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 21, eh? Well, you are closing in on the age where many people move out of home. Since you are living in your mother's house at the moment, you must abide by her rules. Move out on your own and then you can sit around and drink beer or whatever. It's that simple.And to the poster who told you that sincce you are 21, you don't have to listen to your Mom, WRONG! If you live in her house you most emphatically DO! Like I said, get off your *** and move out!
2006-08-28 14:11:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her deal is she has been drinking beers for some time now, and she knows that there are pitfalls that come with it that she does not want you to face. Unfortunately, you can't tell someone not to do something and do that thing right in front of them, which she is doing. But she made the mistake of saying one thing and doing another. Now you are grown, and she does not want you to go through what beer put her through. But it sounds like you will both learn the hard way.
2006-08-28 14:15:31 · answer #4 · answered by stick man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's always going to be there with advice and frowning on the things she knows are wrong. SHE'S YOUR MOM!! She loves you and won't stand by to let you get hurt. My mom was the same way and still is the same way and I'm 33 years old!!! Get used to it. I think you are lucky to have a mom that cares, alot of kids your age do not. The only thing I can tell you is to reassure her that you are going to be responsible when you drink like designated driver, be home at a certain time, etc...
2006-08-28 14:14:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a long talk with her and let her know legally you can do what you want. She needs to understand it is better for you to drink with them and experience your levels than go out to learn too late what you can handle. Parents do not like to think their little ones are adults. I had 4 children who were told about the evils of drinking but also allowed to try various drinks out. The boys learned the hard way that drinking heavily does not pay. Now all of them are over the binge drinking age and manage booze nicely. I tolerated occasional drinking but never permitted drugs experiments. Life is full of experiences and having someone that really loves you to guide you is better than falling prey to strangers.
2006-08-28 14:14:25 · answer #6 · answered by hardnose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well legally you can drink. maybe your mom started drinking when she was young and realized that drinking is bad. maybe she needs to see that she can trust you. how about if you sit down with your mom and get her side of why she doesn't want you to drink and you tell her your side of why you want to drink and maybe you can come up with a compromise. like for instance if you can drink a beer in the house and show her that you are responible.
try it and try to take into account what your mom has to say.
2006-08-28 14:14:08 · answer #7 · answered by gousa1991 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont Drink in her house go to that bar or something you are 21 the Legal Drinking age and also an adult your mom cant run your life anymore
2006-08-28 14:12:25 · answer #8 · answered by HunnyBunny 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmmmm....maybe she thinks if she allows you to drink that you just might enjoy it to much and have more than you should consume and you can drive so she is scared is what I think. Just tell your mom that you are a considerate adult and that you know your own limit. Also tell her or make a promise that you wouldnt even think about driving home when you have had a drink.
2006-08-28 14:12:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what your mom is like but, maybe she had an bad experience because of drinking and she doesn't want you to have one......don't know the full story and I don't think moving out will solve it....talk to her and don't get into a arguement over it and avoid yelling....don't press the issue---if you have to wait and asked again in a couple of weeks, then wait.
2006-08-28 14:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by tabby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do know how you feel i am 32 and my mom gives me a hard time if i even wanna go out at nite i live with her cause she is helping me raise my son and i feel like i am on parole and i am not sure why i even feel like i am not allowed to drink i have to go out with friends and i have to actually stay with them out of town to even think bout drinking and that is not fair to me and i know i am only living with her till i get married very soon cause she has been like a big weight on my shoulder i know you are like me probably you love your mom but you honestly have to say hey it is my life and i will live it the way i want i am not drinking all the time and i want to go out and fun and i am not a little girl anymore and i want freedom before you drive me to leave and never come back and you probably do not want to do that but it might take something like that to make her realize it is time to let go and let you live your life
2006-08-28 15:03:32 · answer #11 · answered by skyppolar_green 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋