My mother in law???

Question

My mother in law is very different. She talks about her daughter and son in law behind their backs. I have tried to be different and almost like I dont care. She doesnt do it often but when she does its awful. I thought about the next time she does is to stand up for the sister in law or brother in law. I am also depressed and going threw a point in my marriage where I want out. He is a great guy other than his mother, but I am so bored and I see everyone else having fun. I dunno is this just a phase or should I really get out???

Answer 1

If she is talking about them then she is telling them aabout you! Stay away from her! Simple . Work on your marriage though! Talk to hubby dear and tell him you need to be away from his mom and that you need some excitement or something new in your life.He should stand up for you to his mom and so should his siblings for thier spouses! Especially if you have kids, you need to keep working on the marriage.Marriage takes work every day! You both need to make each day as bright and as free from stress and be as happy as you can for the other one.To be considerate of the other first! Romance each other and have date nights a few nights each mo. to keep it special. Every marriage has trials and boring times and you could get a really bad mom-in-law next time! But really, you fell in love with this man for some reason. Go back to that reason and build it up right from there.There is no perfect man or woman so do the best with the one you chose!Best wishes!

Answer 2

Everyone hits a dry spell in their relationship. That's because everything takes work.
Are you going to go out & buy a new outfit or 2. Get dressed up & put some make up on possibly go to the salon & get a new hair doo maybe nails done?
You'll look & feel great for some new guy. You'll get into a relationship & realize the same bumps are still there a year or 2 down the line.
Why not go buy that new outfit get your hair & stuff done & make a date with your husband.
Better yet set everything up get a babysitter & you go to that quiet intimate restaurant leave him a note or phone him from there asking him to get dressed up & join you for an exciting evening. Then if that fails have an affair. No just kidding but exhaust all avenues before calling it quits.
Sounds to me like you just need to put some desire back into your relationship. You would do all this primping for a stranger you haven't met yet why not your husband.
Create a little desire with a little teasing.
Just ignore your mother in laws behavior. Believe me her kids know what she's like,...it's their mother. Watch what you say around her, for the words may get twisted. Just be respectful so you'll never have to be ashamed of how you've acted. She knows what she's doing. While alone she has to live with what she says & what she does.

Answer 3

Don't know what to say about your M-I-L except that maybe you could try changing the subject or stating that you really don't like to pry into others lives. Politely of course. On the other matter, I would try to find a way to spice up the relationship you have. Maybe you two just need a vacation, some place neither of you have been and always wanted to go. I would try to fix what you've got before trying to find whatever is missing somewhere else. Remember....the grass is always greener on the other side.

Answer 4

whoa, this was a loaded question.....First things first. you don't know what your MIL says about you either. don't say anything to her about what she does, or she WILL be talking about you for sure. keep the peace, just ignore it.
As for your marriage, find out what it is you think your missing. Do you and your husband not have anything in common? try setting up a date night for yourselves once a week to go out and try something new. movies, dinner, bowling,dancing....ANYTHING you wouldnt normally do to see if you two can come up with a new hobby that you both like. how long have you been married? you may just need to spice it up a little.....and if you feel that little changes will not help, seek help from a counselor. But try every last possibility before you give up. if you love each other it can work in the end.

Answer 5

I agree with Joane(except that my in-laws are not like that). You should definitely focus on your marriage. If you feel that you need to say something to her when she's talking about your bro/sis in-law, tell her that you cannot listen to gossip any more and leave the room if she continues. But really, focus on your marriage and make into what you want. You are half of the marriage, you should talk to him. If I've leaned anything in the last 10 years of being married, it's that COMMUNICATION is key. Talk to him about what your feeling, missing, etc.

Answer 6

hi look i am about to get married to a great guy he has a son with a crazy mom .mothers tend to keep a finger in their kids relationships and marriage you need to talk to him about that is going on .And how it make you feel don't give up on love because it is just like you are saying you are giving up on your self.As for him mother space your self from her you can be nice and you don't have to kiss up just be your self you know if she sit back and talk about them she talks about you to.If you love him then try to make it work plan little things like if you come home early cook dinner and get you some little notes to set around for him to find like when he first come into the door.To tell him what to do next then at the end it should be you with a rose some body oils and something sexy spice it up a little honey and good luck..

Answer 7

sounds like we share the same in-laws. forget about them and take care of your marriage. i promise you that it only looks greener on the other side. you say you are married to a great guy, well, that's more than most people can say. be grateful and know that this phase in your life will fade and hopefully you will come thru it with a stronger marriage. good luck and be happy

Answer 8

I would just come out and ask her why she talks about them like that, either that, or you could tell your husband to do it. Try to do things exciting, don't give up just because you're bored, all realtionships go through this time. Women love to fall in love, and when we get married, we get upset because we'll never feel that new love feeling. Just do something you would never do, find new things to love him for, and remember why you fell for him in the first place.

Answer 9

Do we have the same mother in law by chance. Ignore her and try not to indulge in what she has to say. I would focus more on my marriage and not get wrapped up in what she has to say. If you really don't participate in the conversations, she'll stop. No one wants to feel like they are talking to themselves. If you get involved expect for it to become worse and you may find yourself in the midst of drama. She'll get it one day.

Answer 10

i think you should stand up to your mother-in-law you have a freedom of speech tell her what you think about it ! and your husban concept.. did you ever think he might feel the same way? i dont think its right just to leave the marriage because your not having "fun" mby you should plan something fun and see how it goes before leaving him ! just some ideas you might want to think about ! i hope everything works out though