how do you....???? very very important qn!!!?

Question

get away from your MAJORLY overprotective parents (to the point that they cause you to have the symptoms of clinical depression) when everyone else is very very much more likely to believe them rather than you..... especially as your parents are very good at turning on the waterworks or putting on a "im soo caring" front so that everyone else will feel sorry for them when in fact its them thats the problem...
and a psych may see it as you being the one with the problem especially when you dont trust psychs and when they have the upper hand as they can put you into a mental hospital if they see fit or if the parents complain enough only giving the parents more power over you, labeling you as the problem cz your the one displaying the symptoms and giving them the power to do this to you for life cz psychs can label you for life...
and giving them the opportunity to look like saints while they will only make you worse and worse...
PLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLEEEEEASEEEEEEEEE HELLLLLLLLLLP

well im already seeing a psych and he thinks that if only i take the anti-ds it will make it all better ... bull it will only give my parents more of an excuse to dominate me.... plus anti-ds have horrible side effects and ive heard a lot of people say they dont work and even if they did my parents would only make me feel worse... im abroad now and will soon have to go home argh!!!
i feel so helpless and the psych sees it as part of my depression instead of the truth... aint no way im getting over how i feel if i cant get away from my parents... they will then label me paranoid or something to get me back anything to get me back.. basically chase me down if they have to ... this is possibly the worst situation you can ever be faced with... any advice at all is welcome...

I AM OVER 18 IM 22!!!

I AM OVER 18 IM 22!!!

Answer 1

Have you done a reality check lately? Everyone seems to be wrong except you! There's a really easy way to get from under "over-protective" parents. Get a job and move out and live by your own rules. Unfortunately, without parents to care about you, just who will you have if you need moral/financial support?

Answer 2

I understand that your parents are overprotective...unfortunately b/c of your age and the possible maturity level are the reasons for why they are overprotective. This is something that needs to be discussed with them -they will only listen if you have a mature and civil conversation with you. You basically would need to be the adult in this situation. THIS makes it REALLY hard for I was also in your shoes. Believe me I thank my parents for helping me as much as they did. I am the youngest of both my sister and I and am 25 now married and have a 4-month son. I think when you get older realization sets in that your parents really do care about you and felt this way since you were born. They want to protect you but then again they need to let you grow up at the same time. They may be just as confused as you are b/c they don't want anything bad to happen to you....yet, that is how you learn from a lot of your mistakes is experiencing the world. You may be too young right now but when it comes to the time of 18 when you can move out-I would say do so...Get you an apartment and a good job that pays well. Once you are independent it is both scary and wonderful. You will know what I mean once this happens...but for now must tell you that you will need to toughen it out and have a heart-to-heart talk with your parents. They SHOULD know whats best for you, but also not hold on so tight that you can't have your own life either...Best of luck and I truly hope this helps. There are two sides of every story and sometimes it helps to think what it's like for them and from your actions as well as your own side.

Answer 3

I suspect you don't need the meds but a good counsellor who will help you work through the issues. See, if you parents have issues, it's easier for them to send you to a psych & have you put on the meds rather than sending you to proper counselling because they know that the counselling will reveal their problems as well as yours' (even more so).

If you are really in a bind (ie. they won't let you do counselling & just insist that you do the drugs), and you are quite sure that you can work through it without the meds, get some good books and do self counselling. I would recommend "Analyse Yourself" by Karyn Gordon.

Edit - oohhh, you're not a child. Get yourself to a counsellor & stop playing the victim. Get a job or go to school and get some independence.

Answer 4

what is your actual question here? where is it that you see your parents as overprotective? (In what instances?)

Some parents are just going to be like this. the good thing is, you only have to deal with this for a few more years, and then you are on your own. How old are you?

I'm not saying that you are not "suffering" right now, but how realistic is it for you to "move away, and stay as far away from them (your parents) as possible?"

the best thing might be for you to sit with them and talk to them about how stifled you feel. write down a list of things that are bothering you and some suggestions as to what YOU feel should be the way they can react to certain situations. in other words: "mom, can I sleep over at _____ house?" your parents would probably not agree to sleep-overs, but tell them that they can drop you off, they can have a phone number to them, they can meet this girl's parents, anything so that they have contact with you in this home. You need to do things that will allow you to gain their trust. Parents KNOW what kids (teenagers) are capabale of doing. We know that there are parents out there that allow their kids to stay out later than is usual. Parents know that there are also thoes parents who would be willing to "cover" for their children and someone else's kids. They might be overly paranoid, but you HAVE to understand: they don't want you to come out pregnant or with some disease, or hurt or even killed.

I know it seems to be something that you can not deal with at the moment, but again, you will only be under their wing for a little bit longer. hang in there and try not to be rebellious to the point that they feel like they need to take you to a psychologist/ psychiatrist.
good luck

Answer 5

I too have an "extremely dysfuntional family" and since my family is so small (there are only 5 people) it makes it very difficult. Everytime I have moved away to NEVER speak to them again they track me down through car dealers,D.M.V or any other public knowledge info. So I DEFINATLY feel your pain. The only thing you can really do is learn to ignore them...Let ANYTHING they say go in one ear and out the other, As awful as it is (and I know it's AWFUL!) They will all eventually die and you'll be done with them! They used to send me to shrinks too..But all the Dr.'s said the same thing to me..It's a visious cycle. If I don't break the mold it will NEVER end! So for your own sanity just ignore them...pretend like you care and do your own thing!

Answer 6

well tell them. ok i had that problem once and i talked to them and it really helped u can also you can talk to a doctor for that kind of thing. There is a doctor who specializes in giropathenetic overprotecting parents who have problems letting go of there kids now it depends how old u r because if you are young it is more of a diffuculty. And also if u have any grandparents aunts or uncles you could live with. I hope this helps you

Answer 7

You could try calling a kids help phone, and tell them your story. They are very helpful and confidential. You can get the number from the operator.

Answer 8

yeah, i know what you mean, you have to consider age, and gender and the fact that the world evolves around sex and drugs your parents just want to pro tect their baby , show them that you are responsible and that you will make the right decisions and they might realize that they can trust you more.
good luck

Answer 9

NO one can label you for life.

Get treatment, your pyschologist ought to be an unbiased person who can talk to you about these things.

And tough it out until you are 18 and MOVE THE HECK OUT!

Answer 10

make a myspace blog about it and blast emo music in ur room. or you can just live a double life and please them and still do what u want.