I have been friends with this guy for five years. I loved having him as a friend I would talk to him about my guy troubles and he would talk to me about his girl troubles. but he admitted to me that he has liked me for these 5 years and honestly i kinda like him to but i dont want to ruin our friendship!!!!
what do i do?
2006-08-28 06:59:52 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You both like each other,so what is the problem? Become gf and bf,it'll be fine. Just before that tell him that you want to keep the friendship at all costs,even if you don't work out as a couple. AND as a bonus,you know each other really well and you will be able to confide in each other. I think that this would be a great oppurtunity for you,so take the risk and go for it!
As they say,"The brave do not live forever,but the cautious don't live at all."
Hope I helped you and good luck!
2006-08-28 07:05:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why people always say they don't want to ruin the friendship. If you have a great friendship, that should become a great foundation to your relationship, should you start one. It is possible to have a relationship and if it does not work out to still maintain a friendship. I have done that before and now our friendship is a lot better than before. Since you already know so much about each other in a 5 year period, give it a try. Maybe that is why you both have problems with other people because you are probably meant for each other, but you are both looking in the opposite direction. How would you both know if it was meant to be unless you try. Good luck.
2006-08-28 14:09:19 · answer #2 · answered by killerlegs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see that you like him as a friend. Ask yourself, see what your heart says, do you like this guy more than a friend? If you do, there is no stupidity in taking it further. Besides, if you have known him for 5 years and have discussed all things under the sun with him, your comfort zone is so open and trusting now. You can take it to the next level, one step at a time. Do discuss with him what it will entail. And once you know if there is chemistry between you two, who knows where the ride will take you? I wish you the very best. And believe me, people become more than friends after any given point of time - more than 5 years too. So there is nothing stupid in that. You can take it beyond friendship but do check your heart and feelings toward this guy first. Be honest with yourself if you can take it to the next level and enjoy it. There is no harm in trying and letting him know if it doesn't work.
2006-08-28 14:05:47 · answer #3 · answered by ilovegr8food 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendships are usually not for a lifetime anyway--so don't worry about losing him--it could happen, but it could happen anyway for some other reason. If you've been friends so long you probably have enough in common that you could make good lovers. Since he had other women in his life while he knew you, I'm not worried that he is an idiot for chasing you--he probably just wants a good woman and knows you are one!
Most of the time you have to date for two months to figure out if you will be friends as well as lovers. You have a much easier job with him--you know you can be friends, so you just have to see if you are attracted to each other.
The toughest thing will be not taking each other for granted, since as friends, you probably already do to a degree. Be sure that if you pursue a romance, that you let your passions run wild--don't let things be boring just because you already know each other so well.
2006-08-28 14:10:22 · answer #4 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it isnt. i have been friends with my boyfriend for the last ten years. you see we have been friends since our tenth grade year of school. we would go out to the movies and hang out just as friends. as the years passed we grew to love each other but kept it as friends. we would talk about our relationships and share secrets with each other that we wouldnt share with our girl/boy friends. so one day we were talking and we told each other that we were gonna get married. so three months before my wedding he got married too. well needless to say we are both now divorced. one day we began to talk about the past and our relationships and our friendship, and we decided to explain to each other how much we loved one another. And no we have been together as a couple living together for 6mths and we are getting married in 2009. You see must be friends before you can be lovers and to tell you the truth he has always been around and in my life because he is my soulmate. Go ahead give it a try. If you are really friends you will remain that way no matter what. Good luck
2006-08-28 14:11:55 · answer #5 · answered by missplj1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say NO only because I think that being friends is a very important part of a relationship (but that's only if you both like each other in that way). Because of the fact that you both can talk to each other about the things you say, THAT IS A GREAT START. Give it a try. Whats tha absolute worst that could happen? Then on the other hand, what's that absolute BEST that could happen?
2006-08-28 14:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by Phenom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You greatest relationship could be with your best friend. Would you rather take a chance at losing the love of your life and keep him as a friend. Guess what if he finds another your friendship will slowly go away.
Date and see where it goes. You both might be very surprised and happy you took the next step to a great relationship.
Friends come and go but true love last forever.
2006-08-28 14:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a list of the pros and the cons of both being friends with him and being together with him. Try figuring out what you are both after. If it is a jump in the sack then that will get done and your friendship will probably be ruined. If it is more then you could have a wonderful relationship and spend the rest of your life with your best friend.
2006-08-28 14:02:44 · answer #8 · answered by Tazaor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? You are one of the luckiest people on the planet! Why do you think it would RUIN the friendship? That is crazy! I married a man that was just my buddy for over TEN years. TEN YEARS we were just friends. I am so very glad that I "ruined" our friendship, because now, I have the best husband a woman could ever hope for. Go for it and don't look back.
2006-08-28 14:03:59 · answer #9 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are interested in him, pursue it! My current boyfriend and I were friends for many years when we finally got together. We've been together for a few years now and I will probably marry him. Things with your friend may get serious more quickly than other relationships have in the past, though, because you already know so much about each other.
Good luck!!!
2006-08-28 14:03:22 · answer #10 · answered by Colleen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋