My best friends sister is getting married and I usually give me friends a $100 check. Is it ok to give less because it is her sister. I don't want to be cheap but we have to drive 8 hours for the wedding and get a hotel so its going to cost a lot. Her sister was at our wedding and gave us a $25 giftcard to target (she does not work).
2006-08-28 06:59:04 · 13 answers · asked by Tazaor 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The travel expenses shouldn't be a factor when choosing the amount of the gift. You agreed (maybe not verbally) to pay them when you agreed to attend the wedding. It's an unspoken rule that guests pay their own travel and lodging expenses for events like this.
The amount of money should be based on
1. How much you can afford to give.
2. How close you are to the bride and/or groom.
Since you two aren't all that close, you shouldn't spend as much as you did at previous weddings. I would say around $50 since you usually give a check. That's still a good amount, since the rule of thumb for giving money is the cost of a dinner for two at a restaurant.
2006-08-28 07:07:31 · answer #1 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't base the amount of YOUR gift by what someone else gave YOU! Grow up, dear. You give what you feel you are able to and frankly, if the cost of attending this far away wedding is going to be that great of a hindrance on you, I would merely stay home. I have to tell you too, that today, if you are attending a reception with a sit-down dinner, the going rate is $275.00. However, again, if you cannot afford that then really, I would think about staying home.
2006-08-28 07:18:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Generally the rule of thumb is to give enough to cover the plate per person. Since she already set the precedence in gift giving by giving you a $25 gift certificate, you can give her the same. It's not like she could say anything! :o)
2006-08-28 07:05:06 · answer #3 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give a gift that is the same value as the reception that you go to. It is hard to do sometimes but if you go alone $50 should cover it or if you know the reception is at a really nice place then you can go bigger.
2006-08-28 07:07:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a brat! You and your fiance could desire to tell her that by using area obstacles and funds, she will carry one centred visitor. while you may elect to incorporate all of her buddies, you purely can't. there is no longer adequate seating, nutrition, beverages, etc... planned and paid for. Remind her which you won't have the capacity to even invite all the human beings you may elect to have. If she nonetheless persists, then remind her that that's your wedding ceremony, no longer hers. while she gets married, she will invite whomever she needs. that's undesirable manners to ask diverse visitors no longer on the checklist. that's rude to you, and her buddies. Remind her that any visitors are estimated to purchase a contemporary. Why could desire to her buddies could desire to purchase wedding ceremony presents for those that they do no longer understand nicely, or in any respect. If she does not fall in line, threaten to take her out of the marriage social gathering. i could think of that that's greater efficient to get harsh now than to have a team of girls take place, merely to could desire to tell them that they could desire to depart. In case any uninvited visitors DO practice the day of the marriage, have the superb guy and/or ushers recommended that those human beings will could desire to be bumped off. i'm particular that they could handle it. Enlist the mothers and fathers help if mandatory. They spoiled her first of all, so enable them to handle the tantrums. enable your fiance tell them your area of the story, you merely won't have the capacity to accommodate her buddies. maybe they're going to step in a tell her themselves that she will't have her way.
2016-12-11 16:45:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't even spend $100 on my friends. I think they are happier that I am there at their wedding. Give whatever you can. Don't worry about it.
2006-08-28 07:25:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you could give a $50 dollor gift card to a store that they like to shop at. or you could just give them $50 dollors to spend on there honeymoon.gppd luck
2006-08-28 07:57:40 · answer #7 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her $50
2006-08-28 07:04:36 · answer #8 · answered by chaand5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give a $25 card to where ever they are registered so they can get what ever they wanted that they did not receive
2006-08-28 11:04:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer to this question in an ettiquette sense is that the gift from you and your date if you have a date is the cost of the meals that you have. . . kinda stuffy but that's what they say.
2006-08-28 07:04:37 · answer #10 · answered by sweets 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋