I've been seeing this young lady for about 9 monthsIm 23 and she's 21. I have a daughter and she has 2 sons. I have my own apartment, My own Car, I work a full time and as of recently I have a partime job as well. She lives with her mama, Dont work or go to school, Drives my Car all day, Then complains about me not spending time with her. She accuses me of cheating with women I dont even Know. My full time job is in a corprate setting so its not proper office behavior to have Getting some Head blairing from your phone so I put it in manner mode and it stays that way because In my PT job (In retail) you cant have you phone ringing either. She has her phone on silent all day and do do nothing all day. AM I wrong because I feel like she is not on my level as far as getting something out of life? I love her but I'll be damned if I'll be her meal ticket, or have her accuse me of things when Im working 15hrs a day between 2 diffrent jobs and she just sits at home all day with opportunity
2006-08-28 06:58:42 · 28 answers · asked by Dr. Love 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like the two of you have different priorities. Don't let anyone hold you back on what you know you need to do or want especially if it's positive. Sounds like she'd not very positive or goal orientated at all. Move on! Lifes too short
2006-08-28 07:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by justme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
did you both just argued? Anyway are you really sure she doing nothing at home everyday? Don't she need to send your daughter or her 2 sons to sch? Don't she need to do housework? Don't she needs to cook? Don't she needs to make your life happier? Think of what she is actually doing at home first before you make your choice. Anyway Both sides the child needs another parent.. it is bad to grow up with only 1 dad or 1 mum. Plus you are always working and unable to take good care of your daughter.
Not sure about your relationship. But if you think she is unsuitable for you, then just give up. Or tell her you are both having relationship problems. She might change when she hears that. Maybe you are just easily pushed around, thats why she pushes you around like a boss. Anyway, all women need time to be with. Your daughter as well. If you don't believe, go watch the movie "click" with adam sandler. Made me cry... though i am a man.. not cry.. sobbed...
2006-08-28 14:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by Monkit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you're with her, you ARE her meal ticket; you should've seen that 2 kids by age 21 is a BIG RED FLAG for any educated, self-respecting guy who has ambition.
Run away. Run far away.
Sounds cold, but you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else; if everyone took care of themselves and were responsible, most social problems would melt away.
2006-08-28 14:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are her meal ticket.
You should alwasy wonder about girls who don't want to work
(girls not grown woman) she's a girl. She sounds like she doesnt have the motivation or inspiration to do anything, so isnt that clear
that your with the wrong girl? You should find someone who respects and can't wait to see you at the end of the day.
You can do better bro..
2006-08-28 14:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by unique 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an immature relationship, you need someone who is going to offer benefits to your relationship and help you guys grow as a couple not TAKE TAKE... but if she is using the pregnant thing to try and keep you then she is a CHICKEN HEAD! Leave the girl alone, commit yourself to your job and surround yourself with good people, GHETTO is no fabulous anymore!
2006-08-28 15:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ ღAngelicaღ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you did the right thing.
You are close in age, but that doesn't always matter. It sounds like you have your stuff together, and your life on track.
If she were making SOME effort, such as going to school or something, then it might be nice to help her while she got on her feet. But she doesn't even seem to be getting on her feet.
You are not wrong. You are an adult with responsibilities. And you expect to date an adult who takes care of their responsibilities as well.
2006-08-28 14:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by AnswerMom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that you need to tell her to get her sweet little butt to work because she has toooooooo much free time on her hands. If your working 15 hours a day you don't sometimes probably have time for yourself little only two women.... Either that or KICK HER *** TO THE CURB MAN
2006-08-28 14:04:07 · answer #7 · answered by James Dean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out fast! She sounds lazy and is looking for someone to take care of her. Relationships only work when both people contribute to it. You can do much better. Tell her goodbye. Besides, if she doesn't trust you now, she will never trust you.
Good luck!
2006-08-28 14:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by Blue Eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont understand why or how you ended up with a loser like that. She is not even setting a good example for her children. Hell even if she had a job and lived with her parents she would at least be more appealing; at least you could see she was supporting her kids...but it is YOU and her parenst supporting her and her kids. DUMP that loser!
2006-08-28 14:07:04 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your decision was right, if you love her truly then you would let her go so she can learn how good you are to her and how difficult she has been.
She's not appreciative to what you do and don't trust you, you're better off with somebody on the level.
2006-08-28 14:14:32 · answer #10 · answered by thsiung 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋