Is it REALLY better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all?

Answer 1

Life is about the memories we have lived the people we have loved and yes the ones we have lost. To never have loved at all would truly be the worst thing, because the one thing that distance and not even death can take from us are the memories and feelings we have or had for another.

Answer 2

I use to have a saying that it was better to not love than to have loved and lost.

Cuz loosing people was very hard for me. It still is. But having that love in life is rewarding.

I was married before and in that marriage I had a step daughter living with me. When we divorced that hurt BAD. Since I have never had children of my own. I am glad to have had her in my life

So now I do believe its better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved at all.

Answer 3

In my opinion it's not, only because if you've never loved before then you don't know what you're missing. If you've been in love before and then lost, then there's a lot of pain, trust issues, and all this B.S. involved. Then you yearn to love again and more then lkely the cycle repeats. But it really is a great thing to be in love, but always remember it's a thin line between love and hate.

Answer 4

Alfred Tennyson:
I hold it true, whate'er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
'Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.

Of course it is. I'm 59 years old now an married for the last 27 but prior to that I had many girlfriends and fell in love with most of them. In each case I thought they were the one but due to circumstances they all failed until I met the one who became my wife. But I'll tell you something, I wouldn't have swapped any of those girls for anything. Obviously we broke up in the end, an nin every case it was painful and hurt, but during my time with each of them I had some wonderful times that I will always remember. I am friends with all of them now, when I see them that is, and I thank each and every one of them for the love we shared at the time.

Answer 5

YES. because u learn about yourself in the process. how to love, how it feels to be loved.... how you handle the situation when you lose love... it is all a learning process about Yourself. and the more you experience, the stronger of a person u are. but the key is to *apply* what u've learned in a Healthy, Positive, and ultimately Happy manner.

for example, when people on Yahoo Q&A ask "i was SO good to my boyfriend/girlfriend, they left me, what do i do".... the first thing i say is, if you were Loving, Caring, Committed, Trustworthy, Honest... a GREAT partner...be PROUD of yourself!!! (see, it is a positive thing!) what that person did was not appreciate you (negative), did not treat you right (Negative), did not respect you enough to communicate w/ you and try to fix things (negative).... but that's not Your fault. that's not what You did. you tried. u tried ur hardest to make it work, and that person didn't try hard enough.

but it's OK. it proves to you, that when u meet the right person, U are Ready and Willing and Deserve Appreciation. u just have to give your love to someone who Deserves it, and who is Able to give it back to you. =T it's really hard to think that way, but when u practice thinking positively about yourself and your life, the way u treat people, the way u treat urself, then u will realize that anything negative or bad or sad is just not worth keeping around. good luck, and be positive. always work on urself; make sure that You are a GREAT partner; beautiful, smart, happy, healthy, positive, and u will be WORTHY of some awesome guy! and if someone treats u badly, u'll know that he's not worthy of you. u can wait until u find someone that is just as healthy, positive, happy and Good as you are trying to be. :)

Answer 6

well.. what kind of love you are talking about then. If it is true love. It just never breaks. because both sides will compromise. Arguements will turn into more love. And they just love each other as much as they love each other.. lolz it is like giving in and taking back the love you gave 100%. Nothing can kinda stop this.

While the other love is just immature love? just having fun and getting the taste of it. It will always break though.. nothing much... I rather not have that...

But fear not, love will come to you one day :)

Answer 7

Yes it is! Everything happens for a reason. I know it may not seem that way, especially after a break-up, when your heart is shattered in pieces, but there is always something positive to learn from every experience in life. It simply wasn't ment to be, and better things are yet to come. Just remember: "Time heals all wounds".

Answer 8

Yes. One True Love, even if it's only for a few years, is worth anything.

I'll probably outlive my husband, but our love is so deep, so true, that I think I can be satisfied with it for the rest of my life, even if I have 20-30 years alone at the end of it.

Answer 9

This saying suggests it is enriching in some way to love someone then get dumped. I think it is ridiculous. It is like suggesting a dose of the clap is better than never having the clap at all. Yeah, right.

Answer 10

No it is not. Especially if you have issues getting over the person.
To me it's better to have never loved, so you wouldn't think about someone who doesn't deserve any good thoughts coming from you.