If you have been abused and desided to forgive but can't forget.
And you meet someone you really like should they know about it! because they always run away when you tell them!!!!!!
2006-08-28 06:49:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Okay this is a really difficult thing to deal with. It's very hard to learn to trust after being abused. Take it slowly. Maybe at first let them know that you've been hurt badly before. You can go in to details as you feel okay with it. Abuse can effect your habits and the way you treat people. Take it at your own pace and no one needs to know everything all at once unless you are ready to share it and believe that they are reasy to hear it. If they really like you they'll stick around. If they don't, they aren't worth it anyway.
2006-08-28 10:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by storygurl_05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know this is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with.. then he should be of support.. and won't run. If his feelings are mutual.. why would anything scare him off.. he'll want to only protect you.
Keeping it honest now.. will only allow you to be yourself when the pain hurts you later.. and you'll have him there for you.. always better to have a shoulder to cry on rather than a back to turn from.
2006-08-28 13:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by Min 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't tell them, except maybe much, much later in your relationship, and then only if you're sure they can take it. It may be best to not ever tell them. Just because you can't forget doesn't mean you need to impose your story on other people, even those who care for you.
2006-08-28 14:27:43 · answer #3 · answered by yahoohoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u can never forgive if u cant forget.. its not a good combination anyway... u either forgive and forget or u dont!!
anyway being abused is a very bad thign that any1 can go thru/ and yes if this guy is serious about being with u 4ever then y not, u guys have to share all ur negative and positive things that happened in ur lives, if he loves u hell support u.. if he doesnt he will leave u.. anyway think of it.. gr8 opportunity to know if he deserves u or not!! Honesty and respect is the key to a gr8 life..!!
2006-08-28 13:53:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am not sure I follow but you should not tell anything about yourself to others until you are completely secure about telling and have a good sense that the other person will understand and support you.
2006-08-28 13:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by Signilda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That depends on you if you want to share what happened to you...if they always run away will then they are not the right person for you. You should be with someone who will be understanding with your situation and what you have to live with every single day of your life.
good luck!
2006-08-28 13:56:00 · answer #6 · answered by Moni 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why should tell something ; which is not your mistake .
Keep living like nothing happend : It's better ; because if you keeo it in your mind ; it means that the abuser has won !!!!
2006-08-28 13:55:40 · answer #7 · answered by citizen high 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not open your talk with another person about your history. There is a time and place to talk about your past and it is only when both you and your friend is ready.
2006-08-28 13:54:48 · answer #8 · answered by Inuchan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if the person you meet is "the one" then he wouldnt run! if he stays then you no you have a good one! for a man to run shows that he aint mature enough to cope with what you have bravely gone through...well done for getting through and good luck on your relationship.remember if he runs then look for someone else!!all the best
2006-08-28 13:58:11 · answer #9 · answered by sammydeea 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not really, You just have to learn it.
2006-08-28 13:59:52 · answer #10 · answered by Moises R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋