I have been dating this guy for a few months now and we have had sex. The first time was horrible I chalked it up to nerves it being new blah blah blah.......well this weekend same thing horrible!! He is a wonderful man and I have a good time with him but sex is a very important in a relationship. Should I talk to him and how can I do it with out hurting his feelings????
2006-08-28 06:48:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is this the same guy that you said is hairy? I think that you guys aren't going to make it. You need to have magic. Move on, go find someone that you are insync with, with natural physical chemistry. Theres nothing like it!!!!
2006-08-28 06:52:46 · answer #1 · answered by applecheeks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time is always not the best, maybe he is nervous when it comes to sexual intercourse, just make him feel comfortable when you and him are together. Maybe you can do something to spice it up(think about it). It doesn't hurt to talk about it. Let him know how you feel that he a wonderful man and sex gots to be good.
2006-08-28 07:02:19 · answer #2 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try telling him what to do. I don't mean I a step by step guide. I mean along the lines of "I love it/would love it if you touch me here""it makes when want you so bad when you (fill in the blank)" You get the picture. If it is a matter of staying power, you may want to get a product (condom, liquid, gel, whatever) that desensitized the penis. No matter what, you never want to just come out and say the sex was awful.
2006-08-28 06:57:14 · answer #3 · answered by blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are veeeery sensitive when it comes to their egos!If you wanna keep seeing him, you should avoid being too direct because he'll think that you consider him bad in bed and he most probably won't handle it very well!
But not saying anything isn't the right approach either.What I would do if I were you is,to somehow guide him during sex- tell him what to do,what i like.Maybe even get in charge...
2006-08-28 06:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by Agnes M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you should let him know what you like to do sexual in a way that is seductive yet caring and loving. If you love him, sex is something that can be worked on. Read up on new sexual positions, and engage in foreplay more. Talking to him is the answer though! It will definitely play out alright.
2006-08-28 06:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be very open and honest from the start. Show him what you like. Teach him. Instead of focusing on the things you don't like about it, tell him what you would like and let him try to do those things. That way you don't hurt his feelings by saying "I don't like the way you.... " or " I don't like the way it feels when you... ". Once he knows what you do like, he will continue to do those things. If he really cares he will want to please you. Plus, pleasing you is really good for his ego! Good luck!
2006-08-28 07:13:29 · answer #6 · answered by Lyrical Goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very important and if you can't talk to him about it you don't have much of a relationship now do you. Be honest and tell him want you like and what you want he can't read your mind
2006-08-28 06:53:29 · answer #7 · answered by freeatlastboone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with him about it sincerely. Also, instruct him as to what you like during the act.
2006-08-28 06:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by Wayne 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a sex manual to read.
2006-08-28 06:50:21 · answer #9 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rent a porn and watch it together. That is the best way to open up conversations about what you like, don't like, expect.. etc.
2006-08-28 06:50:42 · answer #10 · answered by angielynn219 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋