???????WhY CAnT I BE HApPY???????
i asked this question 4 months ago and im asking it again ****in every relationship im in, i cant stay happy! im with them for about two months and i loose intrest! i find things i dont like and I TEND TO LEAVE THEM why?they ARE awsome guys very good looking/wealthy the whole 9 yards ANYONE HAVE THE SAME PROB IS THERE A CURE??? AND WHY????
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4 months ago
IAM VERY HAPPY WITH MYSELF I THINK THATS THE PROBLEM I THINK I COULD DO BETTER! THATS THE PROBLEM THANKS EVERYONE
4 months ago
NOW HELP ME FIND A SOLUTION PLEZ
2006-08-28 06:34:35 · 12 answers · asked by HOTBABE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hun, there is nothing "wrong" with you persay, If you feel you can do better than you probably can. I used to have the same problem until I finally said to myself " I am not going to destroy myself any longer" I would date these wonderful people but "they just weren't good enough" for one reason or another...When you are at a point in your life you realize that "perfect" is not going to happen. There will always be something wrong with a man whether it be an annoying habit or weird tick....its a matter of sitting down and asking yourself. "can I get over the little things and accept the little quirks and love this rich, handome, kind....nail biting man" or whatever may be bothering you. I am not saying to lower your standards but just when you are in a relationship and you start to lose interest, just ask yourself what you are losing interest in...is it him? or is it what we do when we are together? is it the sex? if you can pinpoint it, then you can try and fix it, if you cant then maybe you should move on. But no matter how great you are, "perfection" is not what you are going to find. So see if you can deal with the little things and love the man you are with forever and then you will know. Good luck
2006-08-28 06:43:30 · answer #1 · answered by no one important 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because you don't WANT to be happy. For some reason you set it up so you find something that sets you off and keeps you from having to deal with whatever it is that frightens you.
The thing with love is actually not about "doing better". We are not animals looking for the most acceptable "mate" in order to advance our particular genetic line. Love is about connection. You will know it when it happens. You can only control you and how you act and react to things (consciously and subconsciously). Figure out why you are going for guys who aren't going to make the cut down the road. Look for a common thread and that might help you figure out why you don't want to be happy.
2006-08-28 06:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by thebuffettour 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The problem is that as soon as you find a "flaw" in a person, you consider it reason to move on.
When you grow and mature, you'll realize that it has less to do with "finding a perfect mate" and more to do with understanding that NO ONE is perfect - including yourself. At that point, you'll be more willing to compromise on what traits you'll live with and what you won't, which will help you decide which mate you're looking for.
Until then, you're going to be in a long string of unfulfilling relationships unless you slow down and "squeeze the melons" a bit before jumping in.
2006-08-28 06:40:53 · answer #3 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be that you feel you are perfect and are looking for the same in the guys you date. There are so many women out there with the same problem. The only time they are happy is when the guys abuse them either physically, emotionally or mentally. Until you accept that there are imperfections in everyone including yourself you will end up a lonely, old bitter person.
2006-08-28 06:39:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you dont really love them thats why its always end up with nothing....my only advice to you is try to read the book 'the purpose driven life" it will help you answer your question,believe me..i forgot the name of the author but its very popular book it has a subtitle "what am i living for?" we have the same situation that is why i have an idea about your dilemma..
2006-08-28 06:59:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you look for the "whole 9"? Or for a guy who shares your interests? Sounds like you're being shallow, but I could be wrong.
Look at your interests & who might share them. Forget the looks & money.
2006-08-28 06:53:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hotbabe....see...you may find what you're looking for...but it might take an awful long long time...so in the meantime i say to you:
"Let me take you down, 'cause I'm going to Strawberry Fields.
Nothing is real and nothing to get hungabout.
Strawberry Fields forever."
2006-08-28 06:51:46 · answer #7 · answered by Sheefa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be affraid to commit to one person. People with that affliction tend to lose iinterest in relationship early. They will dump there partner first because there so affraid of it happening to them. Is that happening to you? It sounds like maybe your looking for reasons to leave them. Everybody has there quirks, there's no escaping that dear.
2006-08-28 06:39:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you re happy with yourself, why do you need someone?
If you need someone, why do you look for the good looking/wealthy guys. Seems like thats not your kind of guy.
2006-08-28 06:51:34 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. E 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like fear of commitment. Maybe you are not ready for a long-term relationship. Nobody is perfect.
2006-08-28 06:42:21 · answer #10 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋