ok my girlfriend and i got together only a few days ago, although we have been mates for years, but closer mates in the last 7months. She told me today she doesnt trust me, i was a little shocked and am thinkin if thats the case should we be together, or am i just expecting too much so early in our relationship???
2006-08-28 06:13:47 · 16 answers · asked by Tom1983 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just to clarify, i asked her why and she said lads are all the same and always hurt her, i explained that if i hurt her then it would hurt me and thats summat i never wnna do to either of us.
2006-08-28 06:19:26 · update #1
she prob just been hurt before..if you were friends for a while before she agreed to see you there should be some element of trust
2006-08-28 06:16:52 · answer #1 · answered by English Rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you have know each other as mates for years, the relationship has now changed. Like any other boy/girl relationship trust has to be built up. You know her better than most, and you would know if she has been hurt in the past. I don't think you are expecting too much as I would have thought the trust was there after so many years, but as I say, the goal posts have now moved and it is a different senario. If you really want this to work, then stick with it and hopefully the trust will grow. If it doesn't (and give it at least 6 months) then I think you should cut your losses.
2006-08-28 06:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been "mates" for years, and she just now doesn't trust you??? Something is fishy with that. There is some reason she said that, and it is probably because she has seen questionable behavior out of you with girls in your past, OR she doesn't really want you. Ask her which it is. If there is no trust, then the relationship is doomed.
2006-08-28 06:19:33 · answer #3 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have known her for years then she should trust you by now. A relationship will not last if there is no trust. It'll lead to arguments and it's not worth it.
You might want to finish the relationship and just continue being friends with her.
2006-08-28 06:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The proper question is what do you want from her that made her say she does not trust YOU rather than males in general?
As a sex, men are not to be trusted, but there are a few who can be in some situations.
2006-08-29 22:40:24 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if think the best ships spring up from a long term freindhsip where you know your buddy in/out before those feelings start to creep in and u fall in love.so if you guys have been longtime buddies,she should have no reason to doubt you if you are frenz for real from start.well, but you gotta do the things that will make her win your trust than trying to figure out how wanna convince her get your trust,or see reason why she should trust you.so u gotta chill and be yourself and love her genuinely...that's it.
2006-08-28 06:39:50 · answer #6 · answered by kiki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may think if she trusts you completely, she will allow herself to be vulnerable to heartbreak if anything goes wrong with you 2. I wouldn't take that too personally. Women have strong intuition about these things and when are ready to trust you fully... if ever, it will come naturally. Be thankful that she is honest with you and isn't lying about how she feels about trust issues.
2006-08-28 06:30:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is natural may b bcoz she has seen guys ditching on gals aft sex and so she is being extra cautious in her case,what she said doesnt mean she do not trust u but it means that she doesnt trust guys in general.slowly and steadily make her feel spl. and let her understand that u love her and wont ditch her and as the time passes by she ll trust u.let the bond strenghten
2006-08-28 06:23:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, thats crazy! But, ask her why and answer her. Reassuring her that you are trust worthy. If she insists on feeling that way, then move on before you get too deep into it.
Key is communication, then protecting your heart.
2006-08-28 06:19:48 · answer #9 · answered by onemillion_n1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may know some of your past exploits and this is what is causing her to have a trust issue. She probably just wants reassurances from you.
2006-08-28 06:17:04 · answer #10 · answered by barter256 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋