Sex question for the guys?

Question

What are some reasons you might not have sex with your gf for 2 months? I have been dating my guy for 4 years, but for the past year he never wants to do it anymore. Do you think he's not interested in me anymore? Can guys really go that long and still be faithful?

Answer 1

Well, if you look at most of the answers to your question, you'll certainly see the "best bet" is that he's having sex with someone else.

Although, I'd love to take a poll of those that gave that answer and see how many of THEM have been in a long-term relationship [4 years, like the one you're asking about...]

Contrary to what you might see on comedy central, guys are not all wired the same. It's really common for a guy to have a "dry spell" during a long-term relationship, and here are some OTHER things that could be-

-He's become attracted sexually to someone else, but he may have acted on it or not.

-Somethings taken away a chunk of his confidence, either you said something during a fight you were having, he's suffered a setback at work that's made him not feel like "the champ" anymore, or SOMETHING that's chopped off his emotional phallice.

In either case if you want to restore this, I recommend a big pumping of the male ego. Remind him that he is in fact, "the champ." And only you know the best way to do that. You know what pumps his rooster-side up the best, and you should start pouring it on.

Always remember - MEN ARE ATTRACTED TO WOMEN THAT MAKE THEM FEEL SEXUALLY ATTRACTIVE. This is men's weakness. A cute girl comes on to a man, and we're putty. It makes us feel good, like we could have a harem of satisfied, sighing women, all pining for our malehood. If you want him, tell him, show him, and I DON'T mean subtly.

Hope it works out.

Answer 2

One of the difficulties that you have as a couple is that you are asking the question here instead of setting a quiet time for both of you and discussing this issue. It is the inability to communicate that breaks people up. This issue isn't about sex as much as it is about open communications.
Sometimes I think God has an excellent sense of humor in relationships; sexual relations often blind us to various other facets of the human being with whom we are in a relationship. In the modern age, somehow you aren't hip if you aren't having sex, so it oftentimes makes becoming friends that much more difficult.
Sex with the most gorgeous person in the world becomes commonplace after a period of time if love isn't at the foundation. It is all too common for people to replace that boredom with another person rather than open new avenues which aren't as intuitive as the sex was in the beginning. People keep changing partners because they never want to learn how to communicate on a more intimate level. Each of you has to ask where you want it to go and then you have to tell each other.
Ask him to set aside some time when you can talk to each other without interruptions, like phone or TV or other people. tell him how you feel, without being judgmental. Express your concern in non threatening terms. Then listen to his response and discover what it is that both of you want. It may be the beginning of a new part of your life. Whichever way it turns out, you know how to help yourself to grow in your relationship without depending on sex.

Answer 3

I would hesitate from assuming your boyfriend is cheating on you or that he has someone else with whom he's having sex. After four years in a relationship, he is obviously committed to you and you should give him the benefit of the doubt. Have you asked him why tyour sex life has changed? He may be able to tell you exactly what's on his mind. I recommend you attemot to open a dialog with him and be honest about your concerns. As for you, try to shake up the routine. Dress sexy one night and turn off the TV. Take him out to dinner and show off for him. Cuddle and remance him. Perhaps experiment with sex aids and toys. Bring in a vibrator into the bedroom and masturbate in front of him. Men a very visual and he may be simply bored. Ask him if he has a fantasy that you can make happen for him. There is a lot of stagnation is sex if you don't shake things up. Be on the look out for opportunities to create pleasure-experiences in your sex life and he'll perk up, metaphorically and physically. :) Good luck.

Answer 4

yes the ycan remain faithful without sex .... If a female can then guys can ... if you and he are not having the sex life you want then I would ask him why , but remember you might like what he has ot say .

Also stop and look at his life , has stress made him less active towards you ? Are you and him fighting ? is he happy with school , work friends family ? this will play a role in his moods just like it does wit hyou. Talk to him and find out.

Answer 5

You might be doing something that he doesn't like

He might be doing someone that you don't like

Guys can go that long and still be faithful but they aren't always.

Sounds like there is an issue you two need to talk about.

Other possibilities - he is having some problems and is embarrassed

he is depressed

he is on drugs and has lost his libido (beta-blockers, commonly used for blood pressure, will do this)

Answer 6

I'll be the one perhaps to give you some hope....

Yes guys can go that long and still be faithful and still love you.

But, something is bothering him...could be stress at work, school, family. Talk to him, if he resists be a little strong..you may anger him some, but if my first statement is true he will get over it and realize you are just concerned for him and your relationship.

Answer 7

it depends on how much hes working and how much he sees you. If you see each other for 1 hour a week because your schedules dont match up and hes always working its because hes too damn tired to do anything. If he only works 40 a week and so do you and they are on the same schedule, hes off with someone else when you arent looking. Look for excellent reasons such as, Im going out with the guys, im going out to bang your sister, im going out to find a hooker. There are many other excuses, not all work equally well, but just remember, dump his *** and move on. :)

Answer 8

To some people, sex is taboo - very personal in nature. They
do not want to talk openly about it. Yes, it is very difficult to
control sexual intercourse with someone you love and for the
past year he never wants to do it anymore. This is something
surprising. As far as I'm concerned, good sex bonds the
intimate relationship better than anything else.
Maybe you should talk sexy with him, arouse him again with
your charms and think positive about him. I hope that, with
the right timing and mood, he will respond to your sexual
desires.

Answer 9

If you two havent 'Done it' in two months, only two months, he might just need a break. If you two were having sex all the time, he might just need a break from it. Are you presistant about having sex, bothering him all the time about it? Just leave it alone for awhile and if you two dont do it within about 2 weeks, I would talk to him about it.

Answer 10

no sweetheart he has another gf on the side and wont tell u and might look better than u that is why he is not giving it to u anymore but if u need it i will give it to u.