My husband and I made a decision for him to join the military right before we got married. He'd asked me about it every few months for over 5 years until I said I was ok with it. Well our families STILL say something about how unfair it was of him to do that to me and the 2 kids we now have. I love him dearly and support him no matter what. He always took my feelings into consideration and says he won't reenlist if it ever bothers me. It's not so much I care what my family thinks...it's not their life. I just don't know how to respond when they start in about how he could do better outside the military.(He loves his job) By the way they are all republicans and support the military and all that could've served have done so willingly. They just worry about us. So how do I get them off my back without telling them to **** off?
2006-08-28 05:55:49 · 8 answers · asked by . 6 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Tell them that both you and he made the descision together and that you no longer want to hear any critism about the choices that was made by both of you , If they want to worry let them but tell them that regardless of how they feel it will not change anything and is causing hard feeling in you towards them.
2006-08-30 16:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by iamright2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is really hard on you and your kids. I have kind of the same problem with my family. The way i handle my family is nicely tell them that it was a joint decision between you both and that you support your husband 100%. Right now that is the biggest thing any of us can do. And also the way things are going it will not a decision for many more people. Than just ask them to put there worring aside and support him and you though this hard time.
2006-08-28 06:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering he asked you, you accepted and are OK with it... tell your family to piss off, lol! I understand what they're getting at... tell them this:
1) If not your husband, then who? A Frenchman?
2) Practically a free college education coming if he contributes to GI bill.
3) He's doing what he enjoys and it IS a career... considering he can retire after 20 years and start on a second career... how many of his family have two careers? Retire at 38... YEAH BABY!
4) Money isn't everything... honor and respect come first!
5) You support one another and that's a very rare thing in most marriages today!
6) It looks great on a resume!
7) He selflessly has given his time to a country he loves and believes in
Give your husband a HOOYAH from me!!!
2006-08-28 06:09:29 · answer #3 · answered by MadMaxx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to stuff it. If they don't listen to you write them off I know it is harsh but it is better for you and your husband. I have a few family members and Friends that got all mad when I joined the Army. I told them it was my decision and that if they don't support it then I am through with them.
BTW your family isn't supportive of the military if they can't respect your husbands wishes. they are the type that would rather some other person do the fine job your husband does. I say tell them "Your welcome for your freedom my husband gives you we are now through."
Sgt. Rob
2006-08-28 07:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by leedo2502 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off thats awesome that you support your husband for joining the military and that he takes your feelings into consideration, and its awesome that he's serving. But with your family just stick to your guns and say "well we decided upon this and I support him in it." As far as the rest of the if they really have a problem with it tell them to stuff it.
2006-08-28 06:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to a Military Recruiter and find out if they have a video or DVD about the Military and proceed to show your family all about the military and the families of the
troops!!
2006-08-28 06:01:37 · answer #6 · answered by Vagabond5879 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS IS A BIG DEAL IF THEY MAKE IT OUT TO BE, TELL YOUR FAMILY AND STRESS IT WITH EM THAT THEY ARE STRESSING YOU OUT OVER WHAT YOU SHOULD DO WITH YOUR OWN FAMILY. LET THEM KNOW THAT YOU LOVE THEM AND YOU HATE IT WHEN THEY START GETTING ON YOU ABOUT A CERTAIN SUBJECT LIKE WHAT YOUR OWN HUSBAND SHOULD AND SHOULDN'T DO BECAUSE HE'S GOING TO DO IT ANYWAY AND THEY SHOULD BE MORE SUPPORTIVE OF YOU AND HIM! LET THEM KNOW THAT IT IS YOUR LIFE STYLE AND THAT YOU ARE FINE WITH IT AND THAT YOUR HUSBAND IS SUPPORTING YOU THE BEST THAT HE CAN AND KNOWS HOW TO DO AND THAT THERE ARE MANY BENEFITS OF BEING A WIFE OF A SOLDIER THAT THEY PROBABLY DON'T KNOW ABOUT. BUT YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE TO EXPLAIN OVER AND OVER ABOUT IT, AFTER YOU LET THEM KNOW THIS JUST POLITELY MOVE ON TO A DIFFERENT SUBJECT WITH THEM AND IF THEY STILL DON'T GET THE POINT, SAY," I REALLY DON'T CARE TO TALK ABOUT THAT WITH YOU RIGHT NOW"! IT'S AS SIMPLE AS THAT. JUST DON'T ARGUE ABOUT IT AND IF THEY WANT TO ARGUE THEN JUST LEAVE OR IGNORE IT AND DON'T STRESS THE ISSUE. THAT'S WHAT I WOULD DO. IT'S ALRIGHT, I KNOW IT'S YOUR FAMILY AND EVERYTHING BUGGING YOU, JUST TAKE IT AS IT COMES. IT'LL BE OKAY SWEETIE!
2006-08-28 06:18:19 · answer #7 · answered by Baby 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sometimes you just have to be rude. when they say something about it say "you know what, i support what he does, he loves his job and we are happy, why do you have a problem with that?" maybe that will shut them up.
2006-08-28 07:48:12 · answer #8 · answered by krystal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋