Long story short, neighbor is a drunk, gets disability so his rent/util/everything is paid by government, fights with his wife, and does not speak English. Have had many situations arise w/ him, involving insulting me and screaming at me when he's drunk...landlord still hasn't booted him. Now he's being a lot nicer, since cops became involved, but keeps asking me for money when I come in or leave the house. Lately, knocking on my door, but I don't answer. Boyfriend feels bad for him, and pities him. BF speaks Spanish and won't tell him to leave me alone. So problem not solved. Still plays his music loud during the day and basically I just don't like being around him. Feel uncomfortable, that doesn't suffice to complain about him to Landlord or have him kicked out.
2006-08-28 05:55:13 · 16 answers · asked by Jazy 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Every single time he annoys you, call the landlord to complain. Tell them you have started a log of these incidents and calls to them for help in case you need it for "future legal actions".
They will tell you to stop calling, but tell them "Now you kow how I feel".
Got a video camera? Video this guy as much as possible. Make sure he sees you. He will quiet down.
Call immigration on him, anonymously of course.
Call the police every time he does something illegal...loud music, drunk in public, etc. etc. etc.
2006-08-28 06:05:28 · answer #1 · answered by DJ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, talk to the boyfriend. Point out that it is a matter of time before the guy trys to hit you, or worse. Tell him you are frightened. [If he doesn't step up to the plate and protect you, what good is he?] He should be escorting you in and out of the building. Does he give him money? He should stop, that's why you are being harrassed for it. He should say to the guy, no more money for you, because you are bothering my girlfriend,she doesn't have any money.
Call the cops and/or the landlord every time you are harrassed. It will stop. Move if you can, and consider leaving the boyfriend in your old apartment, with his buddy the drunk.
Get the landlord cornered, and tell him the same thing. I am frightened that next time he will want more than money. If he doesn't do anything, lose him, too. If he will intervene everytime the guy acts out, gets loud, if you complain, if the boyfriend cooperates, if the neighbors cooperate, the guy might leave when his money source dries up. See, lazy landlords might not consider people like the drunk to be the problem, they just ignore them. To the landlord, you might be the problem, you might be bothering him by complaining. They do not stop to think that all the nice people will leave because of the bad ones, and all they will have left is bad ones. And then they do not care, they will ignore them, too. This is especially true if the landlord is the hired help, not the real owner. And he might be frightened of the guy, too. And find out what language he is speaking, and learn a few words, like : leave me alone, I don't have money. go away, like that.
Good luck, I lived in an apartment once, it was not fun.
2006-08-28 13:32:22 · answer #2 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel your pain. I lived in apartments for years and had to put up with untold abuse. Your boyfriend is either a sweetheart with lots of compassion or he is afraid of confrontatation so either way he isn't going to be much help. Have you tried befriending the wife? If she doesn't speak English either, maybe you could get an English/Spanish dictionary and phrase book to assist you in communicating. I had a downstairs neighbor once who played the stereo at top volume all day and into the night,keeping me awake and ruining my workday. At Christmastime, I took a plate of cookies down to them and was invited inside. We chatted for awhile and I asked them if we did anything that bothered them. They did have a few complaints so that opened the door for me to voice my complaints in a friendly,helpful way. Peace came to the building more often after that. I'm not saying this will work for you but opening a pathway for communication can't hurt and may bring some surprising results. A wise person once said "You cannot change another person,you can only change the way you react to them." I use that philosophy as much as I can.
2006-08-28 19:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by jidwg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. If the landlord won't do anything, then look for a new place to live.
1.A Ask the LL if he has another apartment in the building, so you won't need to hire a moving van.
2. There may be a group of lawyers or law school in your town that may help you 'pro bono' by writing the LL a letter explaining his responsibility to keep his property peaceful.
3. It would help you if you had a video recorder to tape this annoying neighbor's behavior.
2006-08-28 13:07:40 · answer #4 · answered by SPLATT 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Asking your neighbor for money more than once (especially after being told no) is harassment. You can call the police and complain to your landlord about the harassment. If the landlord does nothing, then the apartment management becomes a party to the harassment and can be sued. Something to remind the landlord of if he feels that "nothing can be done."
2006-08-28 13:02:53 · answer #5 · answered by wizard8100@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you sign a lease for your apartment? If you did, look in it. Usually in a lease there is a part about your right to enjoy "quiet use" of your apartment. If you bring this to your landlord's attention, he is the person responsible for seeing to it the conditions of your lease are met from his standpoint.
If this man asks for money, firmly but gently say, no and please don't ask me again. I would also appreciate if you could try and be a little quieter, we need to rest (in the evening, whatever) because we work. Thank you for being considerate. You would be surprised how calmless, kindness, really trying to reach a person on a personal level, can reach even someone who looks like they couldn't care less about anything.
2006-08-28 12:59:35 · answer #6 · answered by Esther 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't speak english then chances are good that he's illegal. Find a way to report him! Also check your rentors rights. I doubt having to put up with someone that is panhandling and disturbing the peace finds a way into your Landlord's policy manual. If all else fails, hire someone to scare him, or check into a revenge website on tactics that will chase this creep away. No one should have to put up with that kind of crap.
2006-08-28 13:08:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your non-caring BF to go live w/the neighbor. Next time neighbor gets drunk, pour some marbles in front of his door so he'll slip and fall and get more disabled than he already is.
2006-08-28 13:47:54 · answer #8 · answered by duvaldiva.com 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ummm...get rid of the BF if he won't deal with this! After all, he is your BF and he is responsible for making sure that you are safe and comfortable in your own residence! I mean, c'mon...
I strongly suggest that you find a new BF, and with that, a new place to live. If your BF won't deal with this small situation, he won't be much help the rest of your life...
2006-08-28 13:00:46 · answer #9 · answered by The ~Muffin~ Man 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you able to move?
If you do get him booted out I'd be afraid he'd retaliate.
Work on trying to find another place to live. Sounds like the land- lord doesn't care either way because he gets paid steady rent.
Be careful.
2006-08-28 13:25:10 · answer #10 · answered by paintressa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋