My wife and I have argued for a while whether it is harmful for the guy to look at porn, or even just naked pictures. My wife thinks it is wrong, I think it is normal for guys to do so. Any thoughts?
2006-08-28 05:54:39 · 30 answers · asked by tmess9 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Take my word for it, porn can hurt a marriage. My husband has watched porn for years and it has hurt me, makes me feel that he is unsatisfied with me. If I am not enough then I don't want him aroused by anyone else. To me it's the same as cheating. So, make sure wife soesn't feel the same because if she does then your marriage will never be happy.
2006-08-28 21:09:38 · answer #1 · answered by Glenda 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, it really depends on your morals. Some people don't see it as wrong because to them, it's just watching people have sex and they get a thrill out of getting turned on. A lot of women see it as, their man is mentally cheating on them with fantasy images of other women with perfect bodies or whatever their fetish is.
What ruins marriage is disagreement. Your wife wants to be the only one who turns you on. Consider this. Is porn worth arguing over?
Your marriage comes first so you have to decide what's more important to you. I'm not saying you shouldn't look at porn but if it comes down to that for the sake of saving your marriage, is there any way you can put it aside?
2006-08-28 13:21:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's PERFECTLY NORMAL for a guy to look at porn. What is ALWAYS WRONG it's to share YOUR REAL THOUGHTS with your wife/girlfriend/significant other.
Did you just got married? The rest of us know quite well by now that life goes much better when you just agree with them, even if you think it's all bull****.
These are also some things you should agree:
-Guys dont check out other women
2006-08-28 12:59:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn most diffidently can ruin a marriage but most important it can ruin the one who is interacting with it. Porn is a spiritual habit. At first it Can be innocent as just as pictures but it soon will turn into an addiction. Also porn can start having a major influences on how one looks at the opposite sex or what real sex is. Remember having sex is not just a physical thing but an emotional one to.
2006-08-28 13:16:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its gotten out of hand. There is way too much "I'm a guy so its normal" sh*t going on. I dont think watching porn with your spouse is wrong but spending hours on the computer downloading them or standing in the newspaper store thumbing through Playboy is just tacky. As a women I just get sick of the fact that men HAVE to look at naked women all the time. Its like damn dont you guys ever grow up or change ?
2006-08-28 12:59:20 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it bothers your wife you should try to quit it or at least watch when she isn't there. If you are willing to risk your marriage for porn-- that means your addicted or self centered or insensitive. Not good!
If you and your wife enjoy watching it together then it isn't a risk to ruining your marriage
2006-08-28 12:59:17 · answer #6 · answered by lipvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn is potentially dangerous. Even if you wife were to be ok with it, there is a very fine line between addiction and passing curiosity. Bottom line, if it is causing friction between you and your wife, I think you've got your particular answer right there --- it could certainly ruin yours.
2006-08-28 12:57:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's a womans perspective. Yes it is fine for a guy to do this, but try to make an open forum for her to look t them w/ you, the same goes for pornos, if you are going to watch them in private - DON'T!
She will be madder than hell. And if you watch them w/ her look at her 75% of the time and the prono 25% of the time. Woman typically dont like to see other woman like this becuase we judge ourselves. We are comparing our body to the porno chicks body. We are comparing our skillz with her skillz. Then we pull a total mental mind game on ourelves thinking.. hmmm.. why does he likes this porno... does he like the way that girl does this... or that.... OMG - what if I can't do what he's looking for.. SO, you see, just be normal with her, and try to make her feel extra comfortale, then she'll come around.
2006-08-28 13:03:00 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
morally you are wrong. Your wife suppose to be the one and only. Come on, don't let your wife know you are googling other naked who*res.. But from the mans point, I think it's healthy to get some appetizers.. but eat the meals at home.. ehh.. Oh how would you feel if your wife is googling your handsome, hunk neighbor(assuming he moves in soon).. and let her imagination go wild with him while she in bed with you. Is this o.k. with you if she gets hers..
2006-08-28 13:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I enjoy porn myself and I think it is normal. Guys are turned on visually. My wife doesn't disapprove of me enjoying it, I guess as long as I don't ignore her needs. Alot of women think it is wrong, probably because they think men are comparing the "porn women" to them. Hope that helps.
2006-08-28 13:01:29 · answer #10 · answered by Polrky1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋