HOW MIGHT HE REACT IN PRIVATE ?
2006-08-28 05:51:57 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok I'm a guy and I know how wrong that was! of course he realizes that he might deserve it but a guy is too proud to be humiliated in front of his friends. I'm sure he will react and badly. Just keep your head low and for Christ's sake apologize when he starts yelling! I really do comprehend that he might have been wrong but you don't say to a guy to shut up in front of his friends and I'm sorry to say this but even between friends shut up is not appropriate. So now it seems to everybody's eyes it seems as if you are wrong-even though you are not, you lost the game. So you should be the one to apologize. Good Luck!!!
2006-08-28 05:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can really do other then say sorry ... if he accepts your apology ... just let him know how bad you feel, you disrespected him & you'll work on your anger ( since I'm sure you said it out of anger - why else would you say Shut Up ... )
Take this as a life lesson ... treat people the way you want to be treated ( all the time ) doesn't matter if he deserved it or not ... be the bigger person .. if he made you mad .. deal with it later .. not in front of others .. that's a big no-no I think in a mature relationship. Have enough respect to bring the issue home .. where both of you can deal with it in a calm cool manner ... !
Good luck and be very senser ... you should be .. it was very disrespectful ... !
2006-08-28 06:23:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well c c,
You know that you screwed up big time. He gave you "the look" instead of kicking you to the curb right there in front of his friends, which maybe is what he should have done to you. Now he's not only angry at you, but he's taking a lot of cr@p from his friends too.
If you want to stay his girlfriend, you'd better be prepared to do some hardcore apologizing in private. It may even include a BJ. If not then you at least learned a valuable lesson about relationships for any future boyfriends.
Good luck.
--Rick
2006-08-28 06:15:24 · answer #3 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on what he was saying when you told him to shut up.
If he's anything like most guys I know, it will not be pretty. He will sulk and get angry and other lame stuff guys do. If you believe that you were right in telling him to shut up (if he was saying something bad about you for example, or embarassing himself or telling something you thought was private) you have to tell him that you stand by your statement and that his crying won't change it. If you are sorry you said it because it wasn't really called for, then you have to apologize most vehemently and promise it will never happen again, and make sure it never happens again.
I hope that helps :)
Edit: regarding all those answers about how a guy must appear respected in front of his friends, you can safely disregard that. He may feel that way, but at the bottom of his heart, every guy knows that his friends are the people who know he deserves no respect and like him anyway :)
2006-08-28 05:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will not discuss the issue but it bothers him (we males seem to have very fragile egos).
he will respond passively/aggressively. This means he will overreact to something to make up for his lack of response from the original situation.
Your best bet is to talk about the original situation right on the front end so he can diffuse his negative feelings. if he said something rude that prompted you to tell him to shut-up discuss that as well.
Communications is one of the keys to a healthy relationship.
2006-08-28 05:58:34 · answer #5 · answered by spidertiger440 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was not a good thing to do, you just embarass him in front of his peers.
It really depend on what type of man he is to determine how he would react, but its probably not gonna add to your relationship.
That was a bad move.
2006-08-28 05:59:08 · answer #6 · answered by thsiung 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you had a problem with something a man has said to me i would pull him to the side and talk about it. i wouldn't try to emasculate him in front of his friends. But if he was disrespecting you then a lack of respect deserves a lack of respect in return. His reaction in person would depend on the type of person he is.
2006-08-28 05:58:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Apologize.
2006-08-28 05:58:14 · answer #8 · answered by Emily 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time maybe you should give him a look versus embarrassing him in front of his friends! It would be wise to massage his ego before you all get in private so that you don't catch a lashing!
2006-08-28 05:55:16 · answer #9 · answered by M D 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why would you only ask a guy's opinion on this? Anyway, if he has the balls to lay a hand on you I hope you will strike back. Don't let him intimidate you.
2006-08-28 06:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋