is it unreasonable to finish with somebody because of their temper tantrums?

Question

given that no-one is perfect and we have to tolerate people's faults. this guy has a habit of shouting aggressively in response to the slightest provocation + giving verbal abuse in order to provoke an argument. he seems to be unaware that the behaviour is offensive, therefore is unable to alter it. does this sound like i am being unreasonable. can a person learn to get a grip of their emotions? am i expecting too much out of this guy?

i have told him it upsets me but he says it's my fault for winding him up

Answer 1

no. tell him when u want a child u'll get pregnant

Answer 2

He seems like an angry person, if is not too late, it's ok to get out of such a stressing relationship. We human beings are created to put up to so much.
And yes, a person can grip of their emotions. Some animals do :=)
We human beings know how to reason, and act accordingly unlike animals that act by instinct only. Would you tell him that?

Answer 3

If you even question this, than you must know the truth. No one deserves to put up with that kind of crap. I understand that there are some things you have to give and take on, but this type of behaviour does not count. We give and take on things like snoring and chewing with your mouth open, etc... not yelling and starting arguements. I would finish this one off. You've put up with enough already. Good luck to you!

Answer 4

You ve already answered this question for yourself...either accept this is his nature or move on.
Do you think you can tolerate his behaviour??

My boyfriend has a similar nature and when he gets too much to handle i just leave him to deal with it on his own after all these are his issues and i dont see why i should have to have negative feelings forced onto me.

Answer 5

Temper tantrums aren't acceptable in a 4 year old let alone a grown man. Show him where the door is and make sure he's got his vest on so he doesn't catch a cold.

Answer 6

You can 'choose' to finish with someone for whatever reason you have.

As for his behaviour, his inability to relate to life, to others and to see his own behaviour in the light of day, it is going to get no better unless he sees and acknowledges this. However, I doubt that this will happen.

I suggest that you let it become the problem that someone else has to deal with.

Best of luck.
Sash.

Answer 7

no it's not unreasonable to finsh someone with a temper like that, he shud realise that he's hurting u and not jus think of himself, u deserve better, no one shud be in a relationship with someone who can't have a proper one to one conversation without it getting verbally abusive all the time.

Answer 8

Ask him if he feels big and clever shouting at a woman, if he says yes just say your pathetic and walk out and don't go back till he comes crawling kissing your a55.

Answer 9

he could get a grip on his emotions if he really wanted to, and don't think for one second that he does not know he is acting this way... he knows he is going to get some kind of response out of you, and more than likely the one he wants... you need to be aware that most people who act this way will become physical abusers... he needs to get a grip on himself, or you need to get out of this relationship. he can go to his dr. and get referred to a therapist to learn to control this and to find out what causes him to act in such a manner. no matter what, you need to know you can not change him, you can not fix him...

Answer 10

People can learn to control their aggression, but they must first know that their bahavior is offensive. Some people may not realize that what they're doin it offensive to others, so they continue to do it.

Answer 11

He has issues. You need a real man, not a spoiled child. Kick him to the curb!