I'm 27, he's 29, we went to high school together, and our paths have crossed again briefly. He's divorced, I'm divorced. We have so much in common, but he didn't ask for my phone # or anything. Should I make the first move? If so, how do I do it? What's appropriate?
2006-08-28 05:40:45 · 20 answers · asked by Karla W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Make the first move. At the very least, you'll know for certain
2006-08-28 05:43:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
well its always difficult when you don't know whether they feel the same way because you risk getting hurt and embarrassed, but is it likely you would see him again if he blew you off? maybe he doesnt seem interested because he has had a divorce and needs some time to sort things out but you dont know unless you ask him. if you dont ask you will always be wondering what might have happened. on the other hand, if he appears totally uninterested then maybe it is a bad move. assess the situation and if you think there may be a chance, then go for ti
2006-08-28 12:49:24 · answer #2 · answered by Charlie T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not? Whats the most he can say...No. And if he does so what. If you think that you might have a connection, you should try. He may be shy or think that maybe your not interested. Just ask him if he wants to meet for dinner or drinks or something causual. When you guys get together you should be able to tell if he has any interest. You dont even have to make it a date, but a get to know eachother again dinner.
2006-08-28 12:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, it's OK for the girl to make the first move. secondly, you'll never know what he thinks till you ask him. and if he doesn't seem interested, then he might turn you down.
but this fear shouldn't stop you from finding out the truth right?
so this is what you do, next time you see him ask him simply, would you like to go out to dinner sometime?
the worst that can happen is that he'll say no. and the best that can happen is that he'll say sure, where?
BUT YOU'LL NEVER KNOW IF YOU DON'T TRY!!!
2006-08-28 12:49:35 · answer #4 · answered by hey_finny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make the 1st move - just ask subtly for dinner together and talk about who's interested in who over dinner. If the dinner lasts a while, move on to talk about the possibility of you 2 having a relationship and if he doesn't want that, just act like you never asked him and carry on being friends.
good luck!
2006-08-28 12:44:04 · answer #5 · answered by justageneralguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he was just not in the mood when you saw each other. Give him time to ask you out. Just keep the friendship for sometime until you believe it is taking quite long. Then you may take the first move.
2006-08-28 12:47:10 · answer #6 · answered by MenudoPie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make the first move. If he does not respond, read the book called "he is just not into you". It was written by one of the writers from Sex in the City.
2006-08-28 12:44:30 · answer #7 · answered by ilovegne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i always taught not to go for a girl who chases men, but the other way around. but then, i guess you could ask him to like hang out and eat lunch together or something. Best of Luck!
2006-08-28 12:45:40 · answer #8 · answered by an oriental guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might as well ask him out whats it going to hurt? Just ask if he wants to get dinner and catch up, that way you'll be able to see if he's interested. Good luck
2006-08-28 12:44:58 · answer #9 · answered by horrorfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck yeah, go for it. Just ask him out casually and don't make a big rpoduction out of it. Casually, you won't be nervous either, and will be able to talk more to find out what his situation is. Don't ask him out without first learning about where he stands.
2006-08-28 13:23:46 · answer #10 · answered by bjsmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure ask him out! Go grab drinks, or coffee. Spend some time together and see what happens.
2006-08-28 12:47:38 · answer #11 · answered by Beardog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋