my mom is overweight, and i'm a very concerned about her health... she as anemia which is an iron deficiancy..

Question

and slightly high bloodpressure... she tries to diet, which is great, but always refuses to excersize... she knows she's overweight and when she says it, i always say "no you're not" just to not hurt her feelings. i don't want to tell her she has to diet or excersize because i'm afraid it'll hurt her feelings... please help, and no mean answers!! what do i do? what do i tell her? thanks so much. xo

Answer 1

maybe you should try things that she likes to do, which will help her get more exercise, walking swimming, rideing a bike, etc, i don[t know how old she is , so i don't want to be impolite, my mom was alittle heavy too, but now she 79years old, and skinny, my mom would walk alot, she could not drive, being active is very healthy! i hope the best of luck!

Answer 2

First, realize you are not your mother's keeper. She is an adult, you are the child, it is not your place to try and change your mother.

Second, you need to know that most of the data about the seriousness about being overweight is exaggerated! Much of it is downright false. People have been overweight since the beginning of Western Civilization and they have done just fine. Don't believe the hype you see on television, just because a person is heavy or overweight or has mild hypertension doesn't mean they're going to die tomorrow or are not perfectly healthy otherwise.

How do you feel when your mom gets on your case to do something you know you "should" do? Think of that before you try to get your mom to do something you don't even know for sure will work for her (like exercise).

Answer 3

Well when dealing with a person especially a family member who is overwieght, its very hard to convince someone to do something they are not set on. She is not going to do it until she feels like its time to get up and do soemthing about her wieght. You can do nothing to convince her, all you can do is stick by her side and let her know you're there for her if she wants to go walking or join a gym. Also if your mom is dieting by herself that is very hard also, so everyone living in that household should eat healthy, so she doesn't feel so alone. But all in all its up to your mother to make up her mind and do whats right. Just tell her your concerns, don't lie but don't sugar coat the situation either. And make sure she gets a regular check up because she's at risk for alot og health problems like diabetes, CAD especially because her BP is slighty elevated.

Answer 4

Tell her you love her very much and you want her to be around for a very long time. Encourage her when she diets, compliment her when she dresses up. Tell her she needs to start any exercise regimen slowly!! Don't try walking 5 miles the first time out. If she walks every day and increases the distance every week, she will see the weight just fall off as long as she continues to follow her diet.

As for the anemia, that will drain her of the energy she needs to exercise. Being anemic does make it harder to get motivated but she can do it. Has she seen a doctor? I was severely anemic and was given injections once a week, plus I was prescribed iron tablets (ferrous fumerate). I still take both medications to this day and without them, I would sleep my life away.

Good luck!!

**Dee - anemia is definitely a sign of kidney disease however there are other more prominent signs for kidney disease - headaches, high blood pressure, weight gain, nausea, vomitting and fatigue. I know because I am currently on my 3rd round of dialysis and awaiting a 3rd kidney transplant.

Answer 5

Why don't you ask Mom to go to the mall with you and you guys could take a stroll around and she won't even realize she's exercising? You can't pressure someone to diet and exercise; it doesn't work. But you can ask her to go with you somewhere and that will get her moving. And don't lie to her about her weight; she knows she's fat. Next time just say, Mom, I love you and I'm concerned about your health too. So what do YOU want to do about it? Then listen.

Answer 6

Get her the South beach book.... Have her take iron tablets and It wouldn't hurt to have a check up because sometimes anemia is a part of the start of Kidney failure... The south beach will help with the weight loss

Answer 7

Quit lying to her.
Start walking with her. Start exercising with her. Get her up off the couch and move. Help her cook healthy dinners. Do something. Forget hurting her feelings.

Answer 8

go shopping,to the pool,get her a dog to walk,exercise doesn't have to be a chore....just moving more helps

Answer 9

joint the gym with her and go yourself . Adsk her to go with you
Cook her meals high in iron and bring it to her

Answer 10

what you need to do is take long walks with her, take her to the mall to walk around , it will help