do you think that suicide is the answer??

Question

i have tried and failed at this and i believe i was supposed to go the first time, my life is completly empty and i am numb, i have no feelings for nothing...nobody can understand me and i can see from there point of view what they are talking about but still i am numb.

Answer 1

Given time, even the worst things can improve. If you ended it all, how could you ever know what was around the corner for you?
People must care for you.....even just one (I am responding to you with empathy and advice!)
Life truly is a gift no matter how desperate we can feel. Even the slightest talent or passion you have can be put to use to make your time on this earth valid.
I suffer with depression and know 2 people who committed suicide. They probably thought no one would even care, but they obviously didn't know how much they had touched people's lives in some way with their humour, kindness or talent or how devastated people were in the aftermath.
The key is to find someone to talk to about and share your feelings rather than bottling them up to let them fester and thus cause you to spiral down into a deeper depression. You at least took the right path by posting your message on here for advice.
If you have close friends or family, don't be afraid to confide in them. They would be horrified if you took your own life. It ruins innumerable lives in the aftermath and sometimes causes those left behind to commit suicide themselves as they cannot cope or feel so guilty. What a mess that could, in time, be overcome!
I don't think anti depressants are necessarily the answer but finding a good psychothrapist or having cognitive behavioural therapy to try to alter the negative thinking patterns are truly beneficial. Try Googling these for therapies in your area.
They help you to understand yourself better and to recognise when you may be going into a depressive phase so you can take measures to reduce how bad it may be.
Like Winston Churchill who also suffered terribly with depression, I call mine my "Black Dog" and have learnt what I need to do to stop it from barking too loudly! My therapy is music and singing. I know that I will always be tailed by my black dog, but I have learnt ways to distract him for a while!
If you don't have a terminal physical illness, then your life is a gift.
Don't throw this away. learn to share your despair and look at your passions to drive you forward.

Answer 2

Well, you've seen all of the answers so far, and each and avery one of them's in the resoundingly negative. Suicide, it would seem, is NOT the answer.

I have thought about this subject, and how I could approach it if, in my capacity as a Tarot reader, I was approached by a client asking for advice on committing suicide. I've still to work out an approach on talking a client out of it, but in the meantime, I've found the site below a good start.

It begins with the assertion:

“Suicide is not chosen; it happens when pain exceeds resources for coping with pain.”

The site then continues by reassuring the reader that you aren't weak, or flawed, or crazy for thinking such thoughts. You're not a bad person.

The site then goes on to tell you how to escape the trap of suicidal thoughts: you can either:

(1) find a way to reduce your pain, or

(2) find a way to increase your coping resources.

There then follows 5 points for you to think about. There's also a link to a page which contains contact details on how to get in touch with The Samaritans (they're on email, now. Isn't the 21st Century wonderful?)

If you look at where you are, make a note of the date.

We are in the Twenty First Century. When my parents were growing up, it was the last century. This century seemed like something impossible. All sorts of wonders were waiting to be discovered here and now, in The Future. And The Future was shining.

I look around; and you know what?

Despite the war, this last gasp dying vestige of Twentieth Century barbarism, this final paroxysm of bigotry before the world Wakes Up ...

The Future, now The Present, IS shining.

And if you let yourself live, you can shine along with it.

Just follow the links below, and have faith in others, and in yourself.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Firstly, let me say that I sympathize and empathize with your pain, but I do feel that suicide is not the answer. There is always something to live for, from the tiniest thing like that new favourite song you'd never get to hear, to watching the world's technology change, to being alive to witness a cure for cancer, or the birth of a child. There will be low points in your life, but there will be some incredible high points again. Would you want to miss the changing of the seasons, or your best friend's wedding? Would you want to mis out on helping someone who really needs you?
Things always have a way of sorting themselves out. Life is an adventure we've been blessed to receive. Keep living. You are a valuable part of this world.

Answer 4

No, suicide is never the answer.


About Depression and Suicide

The Bleakness of Depression


"The bleakness of the landscape is unimaginable. It is as friendless and alien as a Dali painting. Ordinary concerns, such as work or friends, have no place here. Futility muffles thought; time elongates cruelly. Who is to blame for this situation? Those with depression think it must be them. Pointlessness and self-loathing govern them. So the natural final step is suicide. People with depression don’t kill themselves to frighten an errant boyfriend. They kill themselves because it is the obvious and right thing to do at that point. It is the only positive step they can think of."


Kay McKall
an Ipswich (UK) general practitioner
and consumer with depression,
writing in the British Medical Journal
(NAMI Advocate, winter 2002)

Untreated depression is the #1 cause of suicide. Depression IS treatable.
Suicide IS preventable.

Depression - The Invisible Disease
Suicide - a permanent solution to a temporary problem
Education - What to do?
go to this link....
http://suicidehotlines.com/

Call 1-800-suicide and/or 1800-273-talk

Answer 5

I'm sorry you feel that way. When I'm feeling down and depressed I think about how good my life is.

I have a roof over my head. I have a job. I have food to eat. I have the ability to help others by donating my time to make the community look prettier (landscape committee) I donate food to feed the hungry. I volunteer to help with the special olympics.

Yes, I wish I lived in a 2,000 sq. ft. home with a Mazda CX-7 parked in the garage but instead I live in an 800 sq ft home with a escort parked in the driveway. I wish I had new clothing instead of clothes I bought over 10 years ago. I wish I could get a better paying job but the dollars a day I make are good enough.

Yes, I wish everyone that I met loved me and wanted to be around me all the time but some people don't like me for whatever reasons and I accept that. I just spend more time with those that I love and those who love me.

God has a plan for you and an untimely death isn't it. Keep searching and follow your heart.

Answer 6

It sounds like you are in a lot of pain over something. I think feelings are only temporary... feeling empty or numb WILL change with time, even if it is hard to believe that right now. Search for a therapist or counselor or anyone who can help you see a better perspective on life. I know I wish I had done that once.

Answer 7

When I was 15 years old I came to the conclusion that I needed to eliminate myself from the face of the Earth, since my sould searching up to that point came up nil.

I was suffering from an existential crisis since I was about 4 years old, or so all the therapists/psychologists/mind shrinks kept saying.

Point is I was suicidal from day one of my puberty, and things actually becan looking looking better after I turned 18 years old because I realised there's no point to "off" myself.

It took many years (at least a decade after that) to finally come to terms with the whole concept of suicide versus enduring life and survival.

Basically (I won't go into detail here; already explained somewhere else) life is out there to get you; life's whole purpose is to make yourself kill yourself. If you kill yourself, you give into life and let it get the better of you. The trick is to resist life at all costs and be free of life's destructive nature.

So a big part of me believes suicide if for the "weak", or at least those who cannot find strength enough within themselves to fight against the presures of everyday life. I am not saying it's easy (far from it; I am still struggling daily) but at least you don't give in without a fight.

I hope this explanation made sense because I've been repeating this similar speech to many friends and other people over the years, and it's gotten to a point where I don't even know if the way I am explaining it makes any sense anymore.

PS: I don't believe in "god" or other concepts of organised religions, and I am also a mysanthrope, so I don't believe in humanity either. This sounds selfish at first glance (especially in today's individualist world) but I believe in myself above all else, because if I don't, any old sucker around the corner will crush me.

Cheers

Answer 8

Take it from me, I have lost 2 cousins to suicide and it is not the answer. No ones life is as great as it may seem, everyones life sucks at one time or another. You need to find something that puts a smile on your face and focus all your attention on that. Get professional help, if you can not afford it, go to your local university hospital, they will be able to help you. Start going to church and hang out with positive people. Take a new outlook on life, and say to yourself I am better than this, I can make it. God has a purpose for you or you wouldn't be here today.

**I tired to commit suicide many years ago, I kept all my feeling locked inside, and shut myself off from the world, then I found out I was going to have a baby. I knew at that point, God had a reason for me to be here, and I had to live my life no longer for me, but for the daughter I would be bringing into the world. I'm glad I failed at suicide, because I would not have a wonderful husband and 2 beautiful daughters in my life**

Answer 9

Suicide is never the answer. There are support groups available, and counseling services available as well for you to talk to. I don't believe in suicide as an end to all means, there are other solutions out there that aren't as selfish. Suicide is forever. Talk to a counselor or admit yourself into the hospital. They have different alternatives that may appeal to you and be able to help you better understand what is going on in your life that seems unbearable or empty.

Answer 10

Suicide is not the answer and never will be.

You are not on your own the way that you feel right now. I think you would be surprised as to how many people feel the same way.

Ive been through a rough patch and at one time I too thought about it, but I decided to not let the bastards get me down and forced myself to be mopre cheerfull and after a while it became a habbit.
It's not easy but it's better than what you had in mind.