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Any advice much appreciated. I started going out with a guy recently and i really like him. Only problem is i don't find him sexually attractive whatsoever. That whole side of the relationship is a disaster really. I know its so shallow but he isn't very well endowed at all. He is the type also that would get so embarrassed if i mentioned sex. I do believe it is big part of a relationship but this guy is perfect otherwise. My friends say to end it but i don't know. Any advice? Or is there anybody out there who has the same prob??

2006-08-28 04:37:31 · 31 answers · asked by sarah h 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

31 answers

was with my ex 4 3 years had same problem its a shame but i had to end it in the end

2006-08-28 04:41:42 · answer #1 · answered by nikki 3 · 0 0

Give it a chance. Is this why nice guys finish last? They all have small privates?? If you really want to make it last, show him how it's done without letting him know that you are "teaching" him. I have found it to be true that size doesn't ALWAYS matter. It really is a lot about how the person "works" with you. I do agree that this is a part of a relationship that needs to work in order for the whole thing to function, but it can be perfected with some time and effort:) Good luck!

2006-08-28 11:44:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

He's perfect except for the one flaw? Since he isn't well endowed, experiment with various positions to see which work the best for you. Something like this isn't easy to talk about, so I wouldn't. It'd just make him feel self-conscious and put a distance between you two. If you like this guy, I wouldn't end it. He can't help what he doesn't got. I dated a couple guys who weren't well endowed AT ALL but there were some tricks they knew that compensated for it. They gave GREAT oral!! Either way, just experiment with different things and you guys will find a thing that works for you.

2006-08-28 11:45:08 · answer #3 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0 0

Well recently I came across the same problem...The guy was perfect in every way except sex. He wasn't the bggest in the world, but he tried so hard even though it still wasn't the best still...But...I didn't give up on him because his personality aroused me. I think over time he may be able to satisfy you if you stop looking at the physical stimuation and look toward the mental stimualtion. Sometimes a close bond can make sex better. Just like...if you start to dislike a person's character sex can be the same but not feel the same because you are losing attraction.

2006-08-28 11:44:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Sorry but unless you both talk about 'sex' the relationship is going to go nowhere, it is just as important as any issue in a relationship, he might just be very inexperienced and just too shy to admit he is no stud in the bedroom, you can buy books and read them in bed together and take it from there, 'sex' is something that happens with experience, you don't come with a manual at birth, lots of people are just very shy or inexperienced and having no one who cares or who is prepared to work it out together is going to help them, telling each other what you want in the bedroom is part of a relationship and if you love him then why be ashamed of telling him, he just might be very grateful you have spoken to him about it thus giving him the confidence to do the same.

2006-08-28 11:54:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I think you should just give it a little time if you really like him. It will not hurt you...maybe he just has to get a little more comfotable around you and then it will just happen. That is a good thing you know if he is oh so perfect and isn't quick to jump in the bed with you that must mean he just doesn't go and sleep around like other men. Just have fun and good things come to people who wait and you might just enjoy it and teach him some things.

2006-08-28 11:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by MZ.LANDA 2 · 0 0

I can't believe we're at the place where we would ditch someone because they're not good enough in bed. What about putting something into the relationship that makes it better? What about committing to long term unconditional love? What about working at the sex? What about being the perfect woman for him: a woman who will love him and believe in him?

I don't mean to be rude, but I just can't believe that's where we're at.

2006-08-28 11:50:57 · answer #7 · answered by antfaz 2 · 0 0

You can help him get over any shyness and teach him ways to give you pleasure in bed. How well endowed he is doesn't really matter if he can learn how to listen and respond to your body and it's desires.

2006-08-28 11:43:06 · answer #8 · answered by grizzly_r 4 · 1 0

Well all you got to do is help him, have more sex! it should improve, give him a little chance we all have something which where not good at or get worried about. If you like him and trust him then stick with it!

2006-08-28 11:42:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

my ex was the same he was amzin perfect gentlemen wen we went out and stuff always teat me like a princess but he was **** in bed.i was with him 7 months and only had 2 orgasms.i finished it even tho sex isnt everything it aslso takes a important role in how close you can be and how intermate.

2006-08-28 13:59:27 · answer #10 · answered by bex j 2 · 0 0

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