My gf is always complaining that Im not with her enought.
I go to her house 1 day in the midweek, cause I have a job from 9:30 am to 7:30-8pm (my boss is a workaholic). so I get to her home around 8:30 and I stay till 10pm cause it takes 1 hour to return to my home.
fridays I get to her house around same time, but i stay till 1-2am.
On saturday I stay there from 5-5:30pm to 1-2-am and and sunday I same "arrival time" but i leave around 10pm.
My gf says that her cousin's boyfriends visit their cousins everyday.
One is a loser that is afraid to say no to her gf and the other is not in good relations with his family so he prefers to stay out of his house.
Im a right? should i visit her or what i do is enough?
I hardly see my family on weekends and i get really tired from work, and is a long way back home.
2006-08-28 04:36:59 · 33 answers · asked by Mr. E 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She has too much time on her hands. Prioritize.
Spend time with her. Spend time with your family. Spend time ALONE. You know how many spare hours you have a week. Divide it up by three and give everyone their share.
2006-08-28 04:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get where you are coming from. My position isn't as bad - I leave for work at about 5:00 a.m. and get home at about 5:30 p.m. I don't see my girlfriend (she just said that she was - I know; but it's a weird word if you are over 40 - I'm widowed and new to dating again) everyday, but I spend most or all weekend with her - I don't have to work the weekends and get everyother Friday off. I have seen her about once during the work week, sometimes spending the night; since she lives 30 minutes further from my work than my place that adds time.
The thing is you must talk to her; let her know how you feel, how it is harder for you to spend time with her becuase of your job and how all those others she mentions don't have a job.
Also, if you don't see her; there is always the telephone. Plus I find that not seeing my gf everyday makes it that much more enjoyable when I do. It builds the excitment.
2006-08-28 04:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by dje 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her and you really want this to work........ then I say that you call her everyday and if she can't answer, leave her a sweet message letting her know you miss her and send loving emails when you are at home before you go to bed at night, or an instant message is somehow even more personal feeling. I say visit her on the one day a week you do anyways......... on Fridays I suggest when you leave for work you take a carry bag with you that has a change of clothes, razor, deoderant and whatever else you need and when you get off from work go straight to her house for the night.......... sleep on the sofa or in a spare room if you don't feel comfortable in the same bed and room. Spend all of Saturday with her and leave at about 6-7pm to get back to spend time alone........ On Sunday spend time with your family. Or if you like start spending every other weekend with her and the other weekends with your family and time for yourself......... If this is too much work and its really bogging you down, then I say this relationship isn't ment to be and she is asking alot concidering you live an hour away from eachother......... she could tote some of the load and come see you at times and even stay nights with you once in awhile. If this is the case I say drop her and find someone closer to home and that isn't so demanding of time that you are stretching out to be with her in the first place. Good luck and Blessed be......
2006-08-28 04:49:51 · answer #3 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u don't work, u will have no gf, u will be miserable and not to mention blame her 4 the state of your affairs which will in turn lead to ur breaking up,so i say explain to her the place u're at right now and try to make her understand that u r spending as much time with her as u possibly can. Call her, atleast each day on the days that u r unable to b with her,just to tell her that u love her and that u r thinking of her and that u r missing her and that u wish u were with her (doing whatever it is that comes to ur mind at that time). Make up 4 not being able to spend more time with her by taking her out 4 a walk on days that u have the time to spare,make sure that u atleast have time to urselves, just the two of u even if it is only on sundays, that ought to make up for ur not being there all the time.
2006-08-28 04:58:34 · answer #4 · answered by Nthape 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you need some time to think about your relationship because you are feeling overwelmed with pressure to spend a certain amount of time with her. Explain you really don't want to break up but you CAN'T TAKE THE MOANING AND COMPLAINING ANY MORE. This should do it... Hopefully she will come around...
2006-08-28 04:41:08 · answer #5 · answered by PoolRoomPaintings.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide what is important to you. Obviously family is pretty important, and besides she shouldn't be comparing your relationship with someone else's relationship. Your sleep is also important and you are doing the best you can. If you spend too much time together, you may get bored. One more thing, I hope you aren't just going to her house, I hope you guys are actually dating. Spending time at her house is going to be boring. Quality versus quantity, tell her that. What kind of time you spend with someone is then how much time you spend with someone.
2006-08-28 04:45:03 · answer #6 · answered by curly98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl is CLUELESS!!! It isnt about how much time, but how good are the times you are together.
And it sounds to me like you can't POSSIBLY get enough sleep in this scenario. She is immature and spoiled and doens't understand what a relationship is really about.
and why doens't she come to see you? Why do you have to do all the driving?
2006-08-28 04:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't she come see you some? Since there is such a distance between your house and hers it only seems fair for her to come your way atleast once a week. She could meet you when you get home from work.
2006-08-28 04:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by not meant to be tamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should explain to your lady that you are trying to make something of yourself, and that takes time away from everything, including her. Make sure she understands that this is going to be a ongoing thing until you get another job, or go to school etc.
If she is unwilling to accomdiate your schedule you should consider a breakup.
2006-08-28 04:40:49 · answer #9 · answered by magerious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, have her visit you. Don't do everything in the relationship. If she wants to spend more time she can come see you after work right.
2006-08-28 04:40:33 · answer #10 · answered by omvg1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋