why is it that people always say too young?

Question

I had my first baby a month before I turned 20 (married) and just had my second child 10 weeks ago (2weeks before I turned 22) We are happily marrried, are kids have everything they need, we own our own business, we bought a home last year, we have two nice cars not new but nice (a 99 4runner and a 98 landcruiser) we have a peice of land for investment. So whats to say someone my age is too young???? I think I have achieved more than some people that are in there 40's. I have been a stay at home mommy since my daughter was born and I personally think I am doing a good job at it both kids are happy and learning at the same rate as a 30year olds child. So why why why is everyone putting down all young mothers? We are not all the same! No smart @ss comments either please

not insecure what so ever. just wanted people to know that young people can acheive what older people do also. hubby is almost 26

Answer 1

girl im in the same boat u are i gave birth to my daughter i just turned 2o when i had her i graduated from high school and became a stay at home mom ... i now just had my son 11 months ago i was 23 when i had him in about 4 more months i will be 25 and people tell us that where too young .. my husband just turned 25 do what i do .. let it go in one ear and out the other .. there just jealous ... and cant handle that we may have alot more expierance with kids then they propably did at our age...


good luck and god bless

Answer 2

I know exactly what you are going through. I think it is just because most young people don't show the responsibility that some do. I graduated high school a year early (when I was 17.) I got married 5 months before I turned 19 and I had my first child 5 months before I turned 20, so conceived shortly after marriage. I am 25 now and I have 3 wonderful children that were all very much planned. I have been married 7 years, am a stay at home mom, and my oldest child is one of the top in his class. I think we are doing pretty well for ourselves also. We are working on buying our 3rd house currently. I do think that some people tend to get jealous b/c you are so young and have achieved so much so fast, but I also think that some people just stereotype, kind of like when someone says all men are dogs. We know, that all men aren't dogs, but some people think that way. Sorry, bad analysis, but best I could come up with right now.

Sorry there is nothing I can say that can help, but I just wanted you to know that I know how you feel. Best of luck!

Answer 3

First of all i want to say " U GO GIRL!"
Secondly, I don't know why people bash young mother because i think that nowadays young mothers have more common sense than the older ones. You just keep your head up and continue to prove everyone wrong. I'm 18 and i talk about being a young mother all the time and only because ,like you I think outside the box.
I know right from wrong and I am educated and smart enough to make the right decisions. You are just another inspiration.

Answer 4

You are right! I just had my 3 and 4 child and I am 20! I had my 1 at 13 and he is doing just fine! And I can understand being 13 and 16 a little young, but all of my kids are doing fine!

Answer 5

Some people are jealous. I have 4 kids. My first was at 19. I heard the same remarks. Believe it or not the same people that said what they did has either divorced, lost their jobs, homes and children. So the way I see it. As long as you are happy and the kids are clothed, fed and have a roof over their head and you are a happy family like mine. Then keep your head high and overlook peoples ignorance. Thats what I did, What goes around comes around. I believe that with all my heart.

Answer 6

I think you're just the right age for bearing your children. You didn't say how old your husband was.
I do feel since you felt the need to justify your means in detail, you're feeling a bit insecure about it all yourself.
Read a lot and continue doing what you're doing and the four of you will do very well.
When folks make the "you're so young" comment, take it as a compliment and respond with "yes, isn't it great? Or put the comment back on the person with "thank you for your critique of my life & family. Since we're being so honest, aren't you a bit old to wear that______?" Zing!

Answer 7

You really shouldn't care about what others think or say. It's none of their business. You are married, you have every right to have a child if you feel you are ready!

I constantly hear the same... also been told by people... "Oh, you don't want a baby.." Yet they have a kid and one on the way. VERY hypocritical if you ask me. Besides, they can't tell me what I do and don't want. I know my body, my mind, and my financial situation. No one is going to tell me or my husband what we are or are not ready for.

Answer 8

I am only 20 and pregnant. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years ( he is 24) We have always talked about marriage and now we are gonna wait till after the baby was born. I am very mature for my age and I know I can handle a baby. Some girls though that are my age I know they wouldn't be able to. I think it is different for everyone. I'm sure you were mature too when u had your first. I think being a young mother is great as long as you can handle it and we obviously can!

Answer 9

I am 48 and starting a new family. we adopted 4 more kids and we already had 4, my oldest is 24 and my youngest is 3, my husband is going back to school in radiology because he has had the worst luck in jobs. he has had three careers, and we are renting, in the process of buying our third home. I am glad you are having life so easy, and good, give yourself a pat on the back. be greatful for what you have and keep going.

Answer 10

I was 18 when i had my first and then had my second 2 years ago i am now 27..... your not too young! Don't worry about what other people say all that matters is that your happy and your kids are taken care of!