Love with out passion....?

Question

My co-worker and I have only ever been in one long term relationship (4+years). After a while we found that the passion was gone and our sexual desire diminished. We love the person we were with, we actually couldnt see ourselves without this person because everything about them was what we wanted in a mate. Yet we found ourselves in a conundrum.

Is it possible for two people to be together for years and continue to have a healthy sexual relationship? Or is every relationship destined for disaster?

Is it possible for there to be love without passion? I mean, we know theyre two different things but is it possible for them to survive without eachother???

Answer 1

Look I love my mother, sister and brother but I don't want to spend my life with them

Passion and love go together in a relationship

Answer 2

It depends, I am into astrological signs and that usually can define how long a person can be together and be truly in love with each other and want to be together for always. Though, it is always the simple thing that most relationships have to do and have to last with is the answer of compromise. If you can't compromise it will not work. Sexually it all depends on both, if one is more sexually active than the other than the other person has to compromise if they want to continue the relationship and meet the other person's sexual urges. Sex is a big part of a relationship whether it is true or not. Usually it is said "the best part of breaking up is making up" making up meaning sex. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 going on 4 next year and sex is better and better by the day. We are very sexually compatible with each other because we know what we love from one another that makes it really good. Though, to answer the question is is possible for ther to be love without passion yes but that is the type of love for lets say your parents, sister, best friend etc. The answer for a continuous relationship is compromise and love for just loving and not expecting that person to give you something in return. Also, if you are not happy then why continue? for the other person and be miserable? Happiness is the most important key as well. If you are not happy neither of you will be happy with no passion and just love is better of just being friends or not being friends and continue with someone that can bring you that happiness and passion and love.

Answer 3

I have been married 7 years.
Relationships go through stages. The beginning awesome and everyone thinks that's the best part. Its not

My husband and I have gone a yr without having sex, we have just co-existed as roommates. Their was no passion at all, just a mutual love and respect.

Within the past yr and a half we have been working on our marriage. We now have something so much deeper then I could have ever imagined. We do have to work at keeping our sex life interesting.

It is so amazing to know that I have someone who lives me more then anything. It is such a deep love.

I think that all relationships get to a point where people feel as though they have "lost it". It is a crucial time in a relationship. A lot of people just give up.

You have to work at it. Use toys if needed, books and anything that may spice things up. Send dirty emails during the day or something like that.

If you are not fulfilled emotionally then you will not have a healthy sex life.. that's just the way it goes. Make sure that you are emotionally taken care of first.

Good Luck and God Bless You!

Answer 4

First off ppl can be together for many years, but if you don't have a sex life at all then there is nothing healthy about that, its just dead. And no not every relationship is destined for disaster if you are willing to work on it. Like getting some couples counselling or something. And yea you can have love without passion, its called friendship. And in your case since you both stayed with guys because you liked the qualities in them, that is just getting a glimspe at what you want but not being woman or man enough to go after it. So you'd rather play it safe and stick with the persont that is nice and safe and platonic but have the qualities you like. I personally believe that love and passion can survive without each other. But that puts ppl on different levels, I mean if you really love someone and are deeply passionate about your feelings and not just the sex part then, that will be a lasting relationship. Where as you just love someone based off their good qualities. Thats more like having a friendship or an at home model of what you want, but not going out to seize it.

Answer 5

To any good relationship there must be passion and romance and above all love. I would never want to be in a relationship where there is no passion once that is gone it just seems like the relationship is dead. Things become boring and seems like routine especially the sex if there is sex at all. If the passion is gone and you aren't married then maybe its time to move on unless you are willing to try new things to get the passion back in your life. Your relationship can survive if you want it too but you are going to have to work hard at making it better like it was when you 1st started dating. PRAY, PRAY, AND PRAY ABOUT IT AND MAY GOD BLESS THE 2 OF YOU.

Answer 6

It is totally possible to continue having passion in a relationship, it is totally a mindset thing.

You continually work on doing new things together and keeping the fire going.

I know, I have been married 23 years.

Answer 7

Ok...bare with me on this....Imagine your sexual desire like a huge buffet of food laid out before you full of all kinds of yummy things to eat. Your first instinct might be to go directly to the items you find the tastiest and eat only that, lets say its corn. Well before you know it you start getting kinda sick of corn. The rest of the food on the buffetis super tastey but you might have never tried it before. It may not be as exciting as corn but still pretty good. After a couple of days of this, corn starts to sound good again. You get where I'm going with this?
You have to kinda ration it out if you want it to last longer and when you do get to the super yummy bits you will enjoy it even more.

Everybody gets burned out, you have to find ways to spice it up. If thats not possible, then I would find someone new who can make you happy and keep it exciting.

Yay for Corn!!!

~Q~

Answer 8

hi.. i'd like to tell u somethin iv felt.. every relationship has its depression periods.. sometimes u feel there is no passion.. sometimes u don feel love.. sometimes there is nothin else.. but the meaning in the rel comes only wen u get thru the rough patch together.. sex isn't everything rite ?? wel that depends on waqt u want.. so decide if its passion or love taht u want.. an take ur decision accordingly..

Answer 9

SO buck up take control of your relationship and bring back the passion. Are u bored or just tired in the relationship. Look within yourself and see whats lacking and go about fixing it.

Answer 10

' who says " is every relationship destined for disaster?"

just our unfortunate relationship doesn't mean all relationship is destined for disaster .. but if love without passion ..should we still call that's ' love' ?