My "boyfriend" totally played me. I fell for everything too. Now his other girlfriend is pregnant, and living with him and his parents. Whats the best way to cope with this?
Normally I never let my gaurd down and always the "one who wears the pants in the relationship" But with him- My first ever real love... i let myself go. Now im stuck because im heart broken that he could have done this to me. We were together for 3 years and he had only known her for like 4 months and now look.
How can I get myself to be where I was before him and get my life in order?
2006-08-28 04:19:53 · 14 answers · asked by keep your head up 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am 20 years old. He is 22 and she is 25
2006-08-28 04:24:38 · update #1
The best thing that I can tell you to do is live and let go. Dont let things bring you down cause in the long run he will need you before you need him. So dont let this be the end, life is to short
2006-08-28 04:29:11 · answer #1 · answered by trap_or_die23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it never a bad thing to let your walls down - painful and risky some times yes - but though that you learn, grow, and become stronger. I'm really sorry you're going though all this hurt, but know you're a better person. The best thing to do now is take things one day at a time. You will meet the man that's supposed to treat you right - just think of it this way: when you first start dating you have this block you kind of know what you're looking for so you chisel away until you get an imagine - after a couple crappy boyfriends you chisel some more - eventually you have a more precise image (better than you could have ever imagined in the beginning) of what you need / want. Be glad you cut loose dead weight, have fun, recoop, and then get back out there.
not to mention - living with a gf with a baby on the way in his parents house?? you wouldn't want to end up in those shoes - she did you a favor.
2006-08-28 11:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by Starting a Journey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took you three years to get where you were in the relationship, so naturally it'll also take time to get things together after you've been hurt. I'm not going to lie and sorry you'll feel better soon, but eventually the pain will subside. Unfortunately, since you loved him it will take a while. The best medicine is to keep yourself busy. Sometimes a distraction will help heal more than anything else. Sorry you have to go through this. Good luck .
2006-08-28 11:25:20 · answer #3 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not what you want to hear but the only thing that heals is time. Take each day as it comes and make the most of it. Broken hearts heart like hell and take time to heal. The guy sounds like a real jerk! Don't blame yourself and don't jump right back into a rebound relationship take time to heal your emotional side. This jerk just wasn't the one for you but there will be one someday.
Now is a good time to take up a new hobby anything to get your mind off him, exercise, shop whatever it takes.
2006-08-28 11:27:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be in love means letting yourself go. Unfortunately you got burned. It happens to all of us. The best way to cope is to remind yourself that although you are heart broken, thank god you found out what type of guy he was before it was too late. You shouldn't look at the last 3 years as wasted time, you should look at it as a learning experience. Just imagine what this other girl got herself stuck in now. She's pregnant by a guy who cheats. All you should be thinking to yourself is good riddens and thank god its not me who got pregnant.
2006-08-28 11:25:28 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a very short pity party. Then revamp your life by removing anything and everything about him, his girlfriend, and the life style you shared with him from your immediate world. Change your hair, find new interests at work to improve your work performance, and don't go to any of the same places for recreation that you and he used to do for awhile, just long enough to avoid seeing him in familiar places. until you can handle seeing this non-discriminating zipper-brain of an ex-boyfriend.
2006-08-28 11:24:29 · answer #6 · answered by Teacher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to get away for some time. Do you have any friends or relatives that live in another town or even state? If your not in high school (there were no details), then I think you need a change of scenery and get into church to let God help you heal from this. Good luck!
2006-08-28 11:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i m sorry to hear that
he mess up on something special
however u need to be strong for yourself
u need to build up ur self esteem and love ur self
not every man is the same
dont go out n rush into a nother relationship
get ur self together take some time for yourself
do what u have to do
and leave the baggage behind n meet someone nice for u
2006-08-28 11:28:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get your hair done buy a gorgeous outfit and do what it takes to feel super confident, then "accidentally" bump into them looking super great while she's all fat and pregnant bask in the moment and move on there are more fish in the sea!
2006-08-28 11:29:16 · answer #9 · answered by dreamgirl4myboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well consider yourself lucky. The one who is stucked is the new girlfriend and him! They are the ones who need to get their lives together.
For you? Thank your lucky star that you now have a new life and let them worry about the baby and miss out of their young carefree lives.
Move on. There are heaps of boys on this planet.
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2006-08-28 11:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by joeblog 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋