if one's deeply in love with another person and she's christian and he's muslim, it was right of me to end it? we're so much in love but it'll hurt more if we continue at it coz he wishes his future children to become muslim and my wish if for them to become christians. it's a hard decision to make coz we both respect each other's religion. i can't see things working out so it hurt me much when i ended it last night. i was right wasn't i?
2006-08-28 04:15:47 · 24 answers · asked by evanescent_eclipse 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if u are truly a believer in your Christianity then you did the right thing even if you love him and he loves you. i tell u this because i am a christian and i am married to a Muslim woman and it has been nothing but hell for our kids we love each other but when it comes to their religious upbringing we are fighting all the time and it hurts out marriage but we have to much time and effort invested in our marriage to give up, pray for wisdom but u did the right thing. providing u did not get married yet
2006-08-28 04:22:40 · answer #1 · answered by DAVID G 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe your thinking a bit to much about the future... I mean not every relashionship lasts forever... Most people have lots of bf's and gf'd before they settle down and get married. Maybe you should stop thinking about children and stuff and concentrate and having a good time, and making memories together.
However if your older and wanting to marry and stuff, you either maybe have two weddings to keep each other and both familys happy.
As for the children, why not, just not give them a religion, religion is a persons choice, it should not be forced upon a child.
What if you made them muslim and when they were older they wanted to be christian, they should choose when there of a deciding age, wether to be within a religion or not to be.
I think if you both love each other as much as you say you do, there are ways around this. If you love each other and have children you will want whats best for them.
Rember, it's your life, dont let anyone, or social comformities ruin it.
Good luck.
xx
2006-08-28 11:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by Bob 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the age long question I think. Well if you're a Christian, as am I, then you'll know that the Bible tells you that you're deep in sin if you're having affairs with men outside of your own Christian faith. It's not neccicarilly sinful to know him, but to get married to a Muslim I believe would be a wrong thing to do. I think that if you could somehow stay with him and perhaps guide him into becoming a Christian, then yes, by all means do that, but remember that Christianity isn't a cult or a religion either, it's a relationship. You can't join up just cause you want the benifits and excpect to get them. You have to develop a deep love for your Saviour, just like you two obviously shared.
I wouldn't just disown him, but I wouldnt take that leap into marrige just yet either.
I know this must be hard for you, but I hope that helps. Good luck in whatever you choose.
2006-08-28 11:22:20 · answer #3 · answered by bizzle_89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have doubts.
It's hard, if you really love each other.
There is nothing wrong with either religion. Is there any way for your future children to take something from BOTH religions? Because, as you said, you respect his religion as well. And if he respects yours, as he says he does, can't there be some kind of compromise?
But if you don't think you can compromise, there may be no solution, and maybe what you did was right.
However, for me personally, if I was REALLY in love, and knew that he was THE ONE, then I would try my darn hardest to find some kind of compromise.
And to the IDIOT who thinks all Muslims are suicide bombers, suicide bombers are usually parts of small sects of militant groups or radical extremists, NOT normal Muslims. Before you open your mouth, read up on it. Muslims, MUCH LIKE CHRISTIANS, believe in one true God.
Here; Read the information on this link:
http://www.muslim-answers.org/Introducing-Islam/miscons.htm
It has some misconceptions that ignorant people may hold against Muslims.
2006-08-28 11:23:25 · answer #4 · answered by AnswerMom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u r asking us this question then i must not be feeling right to u that u decided to end ur relationship with the man u love. love is all about compromise and happiness, so if he made u happy and loved, I would say it was wrong that u broke up with him but otherwise I would tell u to dump the loser. But, i am not one to tell people that which they want to hear, I tell that which needs to be heard and I am telling u this, u let go of someone whom u clearly loved just because he is a Muslim and only just because he wished that his kids would grow up to be Muslims,and so, what if the man would like his kids to grow up and be Muslims, that was very foolish of u and i bet u, this will one day come back and bite u right where it will hurt u the most. Wake up and smell the coffee, the man is no murderer, he is just a Muslim who happen to be very proud of his belief. So why condemn him for that?
2006-08-28 11:37:54 · answer #5 · answered by Nthape 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad.. that you guys broke up because your religion :(
Both you guys fel the same way so yes, you were right to end it.. even though it hurt both of you guys.
Religion plays a big part in people and it's not wrong for you to want.. er christian babies. This guy wasn't just for you and you'll find some hot christian guy and you'll have pretty christian babies :)
Don't worry! You did the right thing. Don't beat yourself up.
2006-08-28 11:30:14 · answer #6 · answered by lovergirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although your decision does hurt I bealive you did the right thing. No matter how much you lon eachother it could only get harder and tougher for you as time goes by. Take it from someone who's parents were in a similar position(mom was christian and dad was hindu).
2006-08-28 11:20:13 · answer #7 · answered by jacee_jo7910 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you did the right thing, rather than cause strife down the line. the best thing to do is find some kind of compromise with someone else, or date someone of the same faith. its a difficult situation, i know, because i face the same with my g/f who's Catholic; I'm Methodist. Yes, i know its not quite the same because we're both Christian, but she wants to be married in the Catholic church and have the kids raised that way, while i'm very proud of my Methodist faith. i may decide to convert for her sake, because they're mostly the same, but its hard to tell. tough question. hope it works out for you.
2006-08-28 11:20:21 · answer #8 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its tough. I was in a similar situation but our kids took my religion but if you all are both strong in your faith it will be a difficult relationships.
Relationships have so much stress already but with these added situations is additional stress and it will break up eventually.
So i think even if it very difficult u made the right decision.
2006-08-28 11:38:08 · answer #9 · answered by precioustt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your probably better off if Religion is important at all you really should marry within your own religion or you'll suffer years of heart ache down the road.I'm sure there are plenty of good Christian boys out there for you .Good luck
2006-08-28 11:19:54 · answer #10 · answered by zazzooba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋