i was suppose to leave my hubby and go back to my moms but then on the way back i chickened out..was i wrong?

Question

my hubby and i got into a BIG fight so i called my mom and told her to come get me....so she got the money and left VA for OH 8 hour trip....but when she got here i told i didnt wanna go and now NOBODY wants to talk to me or have nething to do with me because i upset my mom....its my life and my desicions right or was i in the wrong and need to make a BIG apology? im lost and need help from serious ppl

Answer 1

Hunny, It happen always, we do things with out thinking, when we are upset we just do what ever we feel, and is not that you lie to your mom, is just you act in a arise way moment and when you calm down, you thoughts was clear enough to think straight. You are a human and YES!!! You need to apologies BIG time to your MOTHER and give her the money that she spent on coming for you. Even if she don't ask you for it. but ( the consequences ) you own her that for acting with out thinking. You are in adult, you need to work out your issues about over reacting for a fight ether you called, BIG or SMALL.

Best.

Answer 2

Dani, everybody is giving you a pretty rough time. You are right!
It is your life and your decisions to stay with your husband. I am glad you and your husband made up, and I hope that you two have a wonderful life together. Mom does deserve an apology and a great big thank you for coming to your rescue. Did you pay her back. Gas, eats, and did she miss work? I think you should offer to pay her back. Everyone is upset because Mom went way out of her way to come and get you. I have a daughter and I would move heaven and earth to go and get her from where ever she is. I might be a little upset if she changed her mind, I would be concern, but not mad. My daughter's happiness is the most important thing, not the money.

But, I would definetly talk to Mom about this. Tell her that you are so glad she came for you, and you are sorry that you put her out, but you think you and your husband can work things out. Tell her you love her, and you hate not being able to talk to her. When everyone see that Mom's ok with it, even they will come around, but you got see that they think and feel you took advantage of Mom. But you are right it's your life and your decision to be with your husband, but I do believe you need to apologize for the "911" call, and then not going through with leaving. Because if you have done this before or something similar, one day when you really need a ride, nobody is going to come. Sometimes it's ok to apologize even if you aren't the one competely in the wrong. I hope you understand what I am trying to say.

But please Mom and you need to be talking again. I would die if I couldn't talk to my daughter, so please pick up the phone! Take care and I will be praying that you and your husband continue to be happy!

God bless us all...................

Answer 3

Well obviously your family is going to be upset with you. And the only reason for this is because they care about you. If it was so bad that you needed to call your mom and ask her to come and get you, then they would obviously think that the relationship is not a very good one. They want you to be strong and stand up for yourself. But on the other hand as well, they shouldn't just ignore you. Every person does have a right to do what they want, and if you believe that everything is going to be ok then so be it. Don't hold anything against your family, because they too have a right to be mad, and of course you do too. Talk it out with them and explain everything. When the time comes for it to be over it will be over. Have an open mind and accept that they are mad - and hopefully they do the same for you.

Answer 4

First off, I think that you where very immature for even calling your mom. You took vows that said for better or worse, you can not solve your problems by running away from them. You apparently came to your senses too late though and now your mom is mad. Well, I would be too , if i drove 8 hrs for no reason whatsoever. Remember that next time you have a fight keep others out of it, it will save you alot of agrrivation and troubles. For now apologize give your mom time to think about the situation, Im sure that in time all will be forgiven, but you need to grow up and handle your own business.

Answer 5

When you have a fight with your spouse it a good idea to keep it to yourself unless you are willing to accept what happens. Mothers especially take it to heart whe their children are hurting, even if they are adults. She took time out of her life to help you and you showed her that your husband was more important. If you were upset enough to leave things must have been bad, and if you have to ask us what you should do you already know the answer to that question. Moms will always be there. Tell her how you feel about hurting her and work this out. You are only given a mother for a little while, don't waste it. As for everyone else, don't worry about it, when mom is feeling better they will too. Good luck and keep your marriage to yourself unless their is serious abuse. That way no-one is mad except you.

Answer 6

I think you do owe your mom an apology and be careful next tme before making such big descisions in haste or the heat of the moment. Not all fights are worth leaving over. Sit back and really think about the situation next time before making any calls that you may later regret. After you apologize then leave it alone-if noone still wants to talk to you then it is their problem not yours anymore and they will have to deal with it if and when they are ready/mature enough to see that you made a mistake and took responsibility for it. That's all you can do. Good Luck!!

Answer 7

Yes, it's your life, but you should have thought things through before asking Mom to spend money to bring you home. Of course she's upset! I would apologize. A lot! She'll think twice before coming to get you the next time.

Sorry, but you were wrong. Mom deserves an apology and you should figure out how you're going to pay her back the money she's out.

Answer 8

I don't know how old you are, but you are certainly very immature and are not taking marriage seriously. We all have problems, but running away from them is no answer unless you are being abused. If you can't resolve them yourself, get professional help through social services as a couple, as it doesn't cost anything. Hopefully your husband is more mature and willing to help you work this out. If he doesn't support you in this way, it definitely is time to get out, as he obviously doesn't care enough and it would be a losing battle. Unfortunately too many young people think the physical attraction they feel for one another is love, but it's not. It takes maturity and a dedication of two people to make a marriage work and unless you really understand that, you have no business being married. Apologize to your mother and let her know you appreciate her being there for emotional support, but grow up and stand on your own two feet.

Answer 9

You made a big mistake and owe your mother a serious apology. You are obviously very immature and not ready for marriage. Regardless, do not involve others in your relationship, settle your problems yourself. I can certainly understand your family's feelings. What you did was very rude and insensitive and what I call "playing games". How dare you! Don't expect your mother to come running when you decide to play your little game again. I'm sure that her time is very valuable and she has more important things to do than to be pulled into your drama. Grow up!

Answer 10

You were so wrong. You made your mom get together money and drive, take a bus or however she got there only for you to tell her that you were going to stay with your husband. If you want to make your own decisions then do so keep your mother out of it. Furthermore you need to apologize to your mother ASAP.