Is this normal?

Question

there is this guy that is friends with my ex that I ran into one night and we hit it off real well in conversation, I was still bitter about catching my ex cheating on me. He listened and understood, he drove me home that night and I invited him to stay and asked him sleep in the bed with me, he was a complete gentlmen and did not try anything, I asked him to put his arm around me and he did till i slept. This was 6 months ago. I still think about him. Is that crazy? I saw him once a few months ago and he came to me and said"your killing me", but my ex was also there so we had to keep it quiet. i have seen or spoke to him since. It has been 6 months since that night, am I crazy for still thinking about him? Is that normal?

Answer 1

That's not crazy! Sounds like you have real feelings for this guy. Too bad he's your ex's friend though, because it's not cool to go after your buddie's ex girl (or guy). I would try to put it in the past if I were you. Only because it would be awful to come between them as friends. Maybe somewhere down the line they're friendship will wither some and you can have your chance:)

Answer 2

Is this sincere or are you playing head games with the EX?

Is this guy taboo? Close friends are loyal to each other. Find another dude.

Otherwise, claim your territory and defend it.
You need to make a blatant move on this guy.

You know what's funny about this? I feel this guy would be totally loyal with you. Lust and love are two different things. Both are a good time, but which do you want?

Answer 3

I do not think you are crazy, but I do think that if you don't check yourself and handle the situation maturely that you are in for a pooh-load of drama. You should be up front with your ex right from the start if the two of you want to hook up.... otherwise, I think you should think about whether you are tantalized by doing something that would freak your ex out. If that's the case, avoid the drama, save it for your mamma. Peace out!

Answer 4

It's normal. You just want what you can't get. He seems like he has morals and takes his friendships seriously. Either forget about him or do something about it. Next time you see him tell him you have been thinking about him and would like to see the relationship progress into something, but if he does not feel that it is worth ruining his friendship (if it will) then just to let you know and you understand. Atleast this way you are not left to wonder all the time.

Answer 5

Yes it is normal. If you love the guy then you won't be afraid to show it around your ex. The same goes for him. Or if you don't want to do that call him or email him. Invite him over some time.

Answer 6

I don't see what the problem is here. It has been a long while since you were with your ex, and if he cheated on you who cares what he thinks anyways. Why don't you and his friend simply start seeing each other?

Answer 7

You are not crazy; and you found someone who seems to be a real gentlemen--someone who is into your for more than just the sex. Proceed with caution; but by all means you need to clearly communicate where you two are at with one another.

Answer 8

I think you should get over your ex and call his friend. You aren't crazy but you will be if you don't find out what you're missing!! Go for it!!

Answer 9

It sounds normal to me.

I always sleep with my friends ex's. Only I do bang the B-Jesus out of them.

Answer 10

not crazy ,he was there for you when you needed someone,that's why you have these fillings, the fact he didn't, try to have sex with you ,just makes things more interesting,,see him again