What will u do.......???????

Question

console me n tell me something that can really divert my mind from d agony n pain n restlessness that i m going through as d person is getting married tomrrow whom i love d most......i just cant concentrate on my work,,,,,,,i just keep thinking bout his marriage his honeymoon his wife.....etc.....help me out.........

Answer 1

Since you feel so strongly about him, it's hard to just "get on with your life".

Try taking some time off work and take a vacation. If you can't then schedule a day at a salon, spa, shopping, or something that you enjoy. Even a weekend trip could help you to relax and put things in prospective. Have your closest friend(s) there as much as possible to talk to. Sometimes a friend can put thing more simple than how you are seeing them.

I know it sounds trite, but you will find somebody that will love you as much as you loved this guy. You have to get past the "what if's" and "could have beens" or you won't be open to new men.

Answer 2

I can actually feel it to the core. But the best way out is to keep yourself busy. I might be saying in stereotype manner but it actually works. Spend most time with friends. Try to do more of physical work that tires you. Get into spiritual stuff. Read books. Listen to hip hop songs. And first of all FIND A NEW GUY. But this time make sure from the very begining itself that you are not serious. TRY FLIRTING. Its really good. Again I might sound corrupt but these A** H**** deserve that. Share this with any one of your family members or relatives with whom you can. It gives you ease. Cry once as bad as you can but let yourself know that you are crying for the last time. You are a wonderful person i am sure... Good Luck sweety....

Answer 3

I guess i can empathize with you and its even more agonizing when you think of what you mentined above. For a moment let me play the devil's advocate and maybe it might sound harsh but i guess it could kick you back into reality. Step back and for a moment look at the life your are living. The guy has gone ahead and he is happy. You are self sympathizing and that will only hurt you in time to come. If this is affecting ur job then u cud lose ur job, and if u chose to remain like this then friends are going to start avoiding you and u start losing friends. Overall u r going to be the biggest loser. everytime you start thinking about him ask yourself if it is going to change anything for you. And the answer will be no. All this is tough and you may face this for maybe years to come but you need to pull yourself out of this for yoursake. Just be happy for him and and dig yourself in your work where you will earn appreciation and go out and have a good time with your friends. Try and meet more people. U could just let a really nice person pass you by just because you chose to be stuck in the rut you made for yourself. You live life only once and and its yours to live. So live it well!!! Cheers

Answer 4

As per my opinion u should now concentrate over the negative aspects of the past relationship. It will help u to forget that person. Dont think about your good time which you spent with him.It cant reduce ur love for him
Try to get out with family coz they are the one who love u most. At this moment u need love n happiness and remember happiness cant come but it has to brought. So try to have smile on your face even u dnt feel it. But it makes ur family happy.
May be that person dont deserve you. The best person is still to come out in life which the destiny has written for u.
Be happy, bye

Answer 5

He's moved on with his life, you had better move on with yours. Get out with other people, make yourself available to other people. Find a new guy, and start dating again, something tells me you haven't even gone out on dates. Maybe tomorrow you can go out with some girlfriends to dinner, a movie, or to a club or whatever you enjoy doing. Just stay busy, that's my only suggestion. If it's to the point though that you're having a difficult time functioning, you might want to seek some professional counseling for this.

Answer 6

I am with you Darling. But all these emotions are related with the growing up phase. After a few years you will be laughing at yourself.
Take them lightly. Shift your attention toward brighter things. And join the 'Art of Living ' Basic course. You will get details on net.
Your life will suddenly have a new meaning.
Best of luck.
May God bless You.

Answer 7

Come on, you know he was a BH anyway. You just held him out as a back-up (well if so and so doesn't work out, there's always good old X around to pick me up). You need to get to work on your next back-up guy, then you'll be in your happy place again. Feel free to stop by tonight and get some consoling.

Answer 8

BAD for us, we have the same problem.... You know, One thing I really want to do is to see my girl and talk to her for the last time. Hug her and kiss her! But I can't cause she getting married in other country.
Talk to him fot the last time and accept the fact that he will get married. Then try to move on little by little. Its up to you if you want to keep all the memories with him or throw every thing.

Answer 9

act as if u r not bothered n will not make any difference about him getting married infront of the mirror n go out for shopping n keep urself engaged in some work in which u r interested

Answer 10

Girl just leave him alone it will be okay to do that, there plenty of men/guys out there no need to hang on to someone who is fin to get married that's just bringing you down in life. your making woser for you to get some where in your life just let him go, you could be his friend but nothing else if you want or just forget him completely and let him go.... Look for someone who loves you and chase you around and think of you the way you think of him...