gay m 21 depressed need advice please help?

Question

just am finding it hard to cope with life, also for all the people saying its wrong to be gay its not a choice

Answer 1

Same as above.
Being Gay is not making U happy, is it?
Read the Bible & find UR true path.

Answer 2

First off, ignore the well meaning but totally useless and/or unrealistic advice from the bible thumpers above. Denying your reality is a really bad thing. If this were my question I would email Malachai who sounds like a good person.
If your depression is associated with your being gay then you need to take a realistic look at what you can do about what it is you need and what you can't. If it all comes down to looks - you don't like what is in the mirror because you think you don't match up to the millions of better looking guys out there. Understand that they have the same concerns - no one matches us to their own expectations. Also, that's a shallow concern. Get on with making a contribution to this life and magically the rest falls into place. In other words, stop focussing on yourself and get out there and do something.
There are millions of people who are clinically depressed and that requires therapeutic counseling and medication. The solutions are all out there. Being gay has nothing to do with it. You are one kind of man and another guy may be yet another kind of man. Same 'ol, Same 'ol.

Answer 3

We all get depressed at some point in our lives but it this is caused by your sexuality don't pay much mind to it. You need to learn to deal with people, to have tolerance and stand by your own without the support of others, and live by your own standards. Although you may get panicked due to fear of rejection and shame, being gay is no different that being straight, regardless what people say. The American psychiatrist association removed it a diseases way long ago. By working hard on your self steem you need to construct a strong building that will help you stand strong in the future. Go with the flow and do not pay attention to religious ignorance or bashing crap. Reality is, people love to get attention and would do anything to stand out from a crowd. If you feel you cant handle depression by your own please seek professional help. Depression is a serious ailment that could escalate to non desirable levels. Try not to be alone, find friends that identify with your believes and or convictions. They not need to be gay necessarily. In time you will adapt and grow stronger, but for now just work it little by little and be careful OK

Answer 4

Let me give you my general advice for depression, since you just got spammed by angels. Sleep and eat on a sensible schedule. Eat a diet rich in vitamins and minerals, high in protein, fiber, fruits, colorful vegetables (not starches) and beneficial fats, low in saturated fat, devoid of additives and preservatives, and sensible in caloric intake. No pop or sweet drinks. Supplement with a good multivitamin and calcium/magnesium/zinc. Get sunlight and vigorous excercise whenever possible. Caffeine only upon waking if at all. Stay hydrated. Look into relaxation techniques like yoga. Some of these changes will take months to start to have effect, but I think they are good long term bets. If you can do some of these things, they will help you narrow down the cause of your problems. I wish you the best of luck and offer my sympathy.

I'm sorry you feel out of place. It takes all kinds of people to make up this world. Love is love.

And you just have to laugh at these Christians answering your question, thinking they know something about it. They're irritating and dangerous, but they're also pretty god darn funny.

Answer 5

Geez, people are harsh this morning! Everyone feels a little down from time to time, wish you had said what is bothering you. I, unlike many people here, feel that being gay is part of nature and is nothing to be ashamed of. I had a best friend who was gay in highschool, and I can honestly say he was one of the most awesome people to be around because he did not care what other people thought, he was who he was. I have always envied that self confidence and have tried to model myself in his example. Your life is what YOU make it, not anyone else. Get up and do something with it. You only have one life, being gay does not define you or what you will contribute to the world, it is just part of you. Hang in there! (Hugs)

Answer 6

edit your question and submit it. We need nmore info, like what you want advice on ? If its general depression you want advice on, try your gp, or try get out and about more doing things you like doing, looking after yourself, and have a healthy diet, and a bit of exercise can only help you to feel bit better. Have you got stuff on your mind, with being gay ? its not that unusual these days, so dont worry.UPDATED: I know someone in your position, it was so difficult, but he came out, it was upsetting for close family, but now its a different story, hes got a fella, hes fine, just be honest, you dont need to discuss it, and if people dont like well, well its there problem, you have a life to live, make the most of it, firstly you must take good care of yourself, hold your head up, take a deep breath, and find things to live for, you can do it, there is light around the corner, promise. hope your smiling, and for they anti gays, stuff the lot of em ! they just nasty.

Answer 7

It would be wrong to assume that you are depressed because you are gay. I know gay men that are no more depressed than a regular male.

Are you depressed because you are gay?
Are you depressed because you are a male?
Are you depressed because you are 21 ?

Take a moment, sit still, and say a prayer. Pour your heart out to God and tell him what your problem(s) is. He told us that we need not be ashamed to stand in front of him, no matter what our problem(s) is.

Last, I have been depressed before, please don't do anything to hurt yourself or anyone else. You will always feel better the next day. Hang in there...............Please !

Answer 8

need help with what? Your self esteem? Getting your coffee pot going in the morning? Buck up and go volunteer somewhere. You'll see the pain people really go through at a homeless shelter.

Answer 9

think of things this way. if you tried to hide your sexuality, youd be living your life as a fraud. ought to be happy your brave enough to know and say who and what you are!!! be proud!! most ppl who are gay hide it for years. at least you know it and arent afraid to say it!!! be proud of what you are, no matter what that is!! as long as you love yourself, who cares. in the end, what will it matter if anyone else, or no one else loves ya! you are the most important person. dont let other ppl bring you down.

try looking at urself in the mirror, and tell yourself that you love yourself. i know it sounds corny. but trust me. it will make you feel better.

Answer 10

What are you depressed about? If you can't find true love, then don't worry, because somehow you will find them.