I need help with my 3 year old please help?

Question

my daughter is 3 years old soon to be 4. I give her and make sure she is happy in every way you could name. When she's with me she is always crying for no reason but when she is wiht others she acts like a big girl she doesn't cry or any of the things she do with me. Am I missing something is she just doing this with me becaue I'm mommy or what. Please someone give me some good information because I really want to know do all kids act this way with their parents. or is it just a stage.

Answer 1

No you are not missing something....This is what kids do their parents.....Just hang in there with her.....My daughter is now five yrs old and when I would drop her off to Nursery.....they would say oh she was no problem and blah blah blah....and I'm thinking are they nuts??? But I think what happens is there are other kids there and other people, so she may not be the center of attention and she just adapts.....

Answer 2

It just something she knows she can do with you cause my son is 3 and he does the same thing. He cries all the dang time I do my best to make him happy but nothing I do works. But when he is at the babysitter he is fine he doesn't cry at all. He alone does it when I'm around or when he is around other family members like his father and grandmother. But even when he does it around them it isn't no where near as bad as it is when he does it with me. It's frustrating at times mainly because you feel like there is something you are doing wrong. But it's not at all the case I had to figure this out on my own. I believe that it's just a stage that they go through but will eventually grow out of as they get older. All you can do is just deal with it the best you can and continue being the best parent you can be. Sometimes what I do with my son when he starts crying and acting a fool is ignore him. When I do that he stops crying sometimes but most of the time he just still carries on. But don't be discouraged it shall be over soon for the both of us. I hope LOL Good Luck !!!!

Answer 3

Of course it is most likely a stage, but there probably are things you can do to make the stage shorter or easier to deal with. Do you give the attention she needs normally and if she is getting enough attention is the crying getting her too much attention? Does she participate in activities at home, maybe she's bored with you( I'm not trying to be rude I just know I sometimes don't feel like doing anything and my son just whines and whines). Maybe playing with play-doh, maybe painting, playing with shaving cream, running around outside, etc.
Is she getting enough sleep? I wish I knew more details, maybe you could give a list of things she does all day. Maybe she needs more structure and rules. How about you tell her to stop crying or else she can't do this or that or atleast talk to you about why she is crying. Have you tried ignoring it?

Answer 4

Your child will always behave differently with others than with you. One measure of how good a job you're doing is how the child behaves when you're not around.

If you don't like the way she treats you then you have to look at how you are raising her. Small children will act in such a way to evoke the response they are getting. When she starts crying do you (1) lose your cool, (2) give her what she wants, (3) ignore her, or (4) send her to her room until she gets herself together. if it's # 1 or #2, you are playing into her hands - she wants to provoke those responses. Try #3 or #4 - after a while, she'll stop the behavior.

Answer 5

When children act this way, they are really expressing the emotions you are suppressing.
Think about how you feel as a mother. Are you upset about anything? Are you frustrated? Angry? Are you a single mom or married but dealing with stress?
You know how you can tell how people are feeling at work or at home? You just feel that tension?
Your little girl is feeling something off of you. These emotions she expresses are really emotions you're pushing down. What you're missing is that she is your mirror. She is you.
If you want proof, if I'm right, the next time she does this, you do it too. Break down and cry in front of her and watch what happens.

Answer 6

Actually, babies who are 3 to 5 years old are very cute and
they are loveable and funny. Being a grandparent, I must say
that it's natural for your child to cry when she's with you. She
wants your (mommy's) attention always and try to attract her
with video clips of children singing lullaby songs or large poster
of animals and fruits in A-Z order. I hope this may stop her from
crying. However, if the crying is persistent and prolonged, she
may be ill or having slight fever. Then take her to see a child's
specialist for the crying.
Please do not worry too much as you have done your best
for her. I hope my explanation will stop your worrying.

Answer 7

Your daughter is almost 4 she is a big girl.
She cries when shes with you because you are probably babying her.
Treat her like a big girl. Let her help you in the kitchen by giving her things to do while you cook like set the table.
Let her help you pick out her own clothes. You put out 3 outfits and she picks which one she wants to wear that day.
Let her help you shop for food. Make a grocery list and leave off a few things and make a second one with pictures of what your going to buy so she is helping you.
Tell she is doing a good job. Show her how big girls act.
Treat her like a young girl like other people do because she is no longer a baby.GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 8

I think all kids do the best they can to push their parents. This is how they find out if things are acceptable or not - this is their comfort zone. About the crying, talk in a calm voice and don't baby the crying. If it is something that doesn't need to be blown out of proportion, let her know. tell her, "You're fine, this isn't something to cry over."

Believe it or not, they will respond to things that you do. If you are coming to her rescue every time she cries, this is what will happen. If you can determine the difference between things that she should cry about and things that are blown way out of proportion, it will go easier for you. The trick is being consistant with her. She will try and get away with things that she can.

Answer 9

NO!!! your not a bad mom you just want what is best for her. Maybe she is crying because she is afraid of something or someone.....if she is around more people she might feel safe..then when she is alone with you...maybe she thinks something bad could happen when she with you....and not saying you would not protect her in anyway but maybe she just scare and don't want you to get hurt or be mad at her for something that might have been said to her like don't tell mommy... I don't think she is spoiled rotten like if that was it she would only cry when you said no. I think she is really scare or something is bothering her and she don't know how to handle it..... Good luck

Answer 10

Children are much smarter than most people give them credit for. If you have always given into her every want (not just needs), she's picked up on that and knows how to get to you. Sounds like she is fully aware that when mommy is around she gets what she wants. My b/f's mother is that way with her daughter, who is now 11. She's a demon!! If you don't want your little girl to become a spoiled brat, it's the perfect time to set boundaries and make it clear to her that you are the boss. She'll respect you more for it later in life:) Aren't kids fun?!

Answer 11

My son used to do this at this age around his grandparents because he knew they would just jump up and give him anything he wanted. It was a total trick.

Whenever they were around, he would bump himself in the littlest way, then start screaming and bawling like he was attcked by a bear or something. They'd run immediately, coddle and deliver candy, showers of kisses, promises of gifts... you name it... just to get him to stop crying. And belive me, he'd hold out until they offered soemthing good.

It drove me insane, because he'd normally recover pretty quickly from any hurts around anyone else after a quick check for broken bones or blood and a hug.

I even saw him trip on a root in the yard one time while I was inside the house watching through the window and it looked like it hurt bad, he slammed on his hands and knees and I was about to run out and see if he was OK, when he got up, brushed himself off without a peep and went back to running and playing with the dog.

So long story short, she knows she has you wrappedaround her little finger and until you show her that you think she is a big girl and can handle some things without your coddling her, she will continue to behave this way. I had to have a sit-down with my in-laws about it. When they toned down their response, my son stopped making such a fuss. End of problem.

Good luck... be strong. It is for your daughter's own good.