i have a fractured testicle as a result of my wife coming home to a dirty house. how do i stop the abuse?

Question

i am in excruciating pain every day dispite the extensive surgery and i am scared. she told me herself if i displeased her again she will knee me again, even though the stitches havent been removed yet. i weep when i think of the agony that would cause.

Answer 1

Physical abuse is unacceptable. If you stay, you will definately get hurt again.

Answer 2

I'd start seriously considering getting out of this relationship, or at the very least visiting a marriage counsellor. Professionals generally agree that if there is any physical violence between a couple, they should split up immediately, because things are only going to get worse. Especially considering what your wife said, I think the potential for more violence is very real and you need to do something about it before it happens.

Answer 3

As tough as it may seem to start over you must. Quickly pack a few things and find a friend or relative that will let you crash there for a while. Get a restraining order against her for your protection. Don't accept any calls from her! There are councelers that will help you get started over again in another city or state. Hopefully, you have a job that will transfer. Don't kid yourself that things will get better. THEY WON'T! Also, get counceling so you don't end up in another abusive relationship once this one is ended.
Good luck in your new safer life.

Answer 4

Unless you want to live the rest of your life in misery and pain your best bet is to separate yourself from the abuse and seek counseling! Do not let this avenue of abuse continue - what is next? Your life??

Answer 5

Get out!!! Just like a bad horror movie, get out!! And another thing, I bet you didn't report her, huh!!!
Your right, you should be scared. She has a real anger problem.

Answer 6

call the police (spousal abuse) , get a lawyer
this is abuse, and unacceptable.
If she did this to you she does not love you, and it is pointless staying their.
When it comes to physical abuse leave before you loose your ability to make babies

Answer 7

WOW, she is very sweet, the perfect WIFE. I do not even want her as a friend. Divorce her, and press charges. RIGHT NOW.
Are you mentally disabled or something!

Some facts about testicle trauma:
-It may cause the victim to throw up.
-It may cause the victim to passout.
-It may cause “testicular torsion”, by initiating a muscle spasm; this is rare but is a medical emergency, testicular torsion may not happen immediately after the trauma.
-Testicles move freely and are slippery to avoid trauma, but if the trauma sustained by the testicle is hard enough (50Kg), the testicle will POP(rupture), and then probably must be removed. This is rare, and usually is associated with sport injuries when not wearing a cup. Even when can be repaired, the resulting inflammation will turn most of the contents into permanent damaged material.
-Even a medium force trauma will cause the destruction of spermatozoa-production cells. It will not cause sterility because those cells are in massive quantities, however those cells do not regenerate, it is permanent damage. And if hit many times or too hard, it may cause infertility, because the sperm count/mobility must be acceptable in order to get a woman pregnant by natural means.
-Will also reduce spermatozoa production as a result of hormonal changes, one of those changes is testosterone reduction.
-May rupture major blood vessels, and draining the scrotum will be needed. Or microscopic veins inside the testicles, this will permanently destroy cells indirectly.
-In case of very extreme trauma, the testicle/s can swell for more than a weak, with resulting excruciating pain and severe damage from prolonged heavy inflammation. The swelling reminds me of mumps, but in the case of mumps it will cause sterility for sure, and the testicles(usually just one) will shrink too, very sad and scary.
-In some cases may cause the antibodies to start attacking the person own sperm.
-It even may cause death as result of PAIN, heart will fail right away or will begin to fail(heart beat will became fast and irregular, usually face and lips very white) until finally stops, this is called “neurogenic shock”, and it is not that rare like people think, most of the times the victim is saved because gets medical attention on time, it will need shocks to the heart using the defibrillator!.
-Among other symptoms, the victim will feel shock/panic/confusion/anger, violated/abused, embarrassment/humiliation; those feelings will be stronger if young; especially if they do not know or never heard about “kicking in the groin”. The victim may seem ok, but will try to hide those feelings. It depends on the person and from the situation. This will lead to Post-Traumatic Stress, the worse symptoms may only reveal a year later! People forget about emotional trauma, but it is the worse, and will not go away like the physical suffering. All men that “like” the fetish called “ballbusting”, have some kind of mental or emotional disorder; and the most common cause for that is because it happened to them in the past, they are physiologically very ill, it may change their life’s completely. The emotional trauma of being assaulted in such a private area, or the physical suffering, or the fact that it is a barbaric act, should be more than enough for girls not to do that; but the sad truth is that the only thing that make some(not all for sure) girls think twice before doing that is the permanent physical damage. It is a form of rape, male rape.
-Physical violence it is only acceptable if you are trying to defend/escape yourself from someone that is trying to use physical violence on you, and you may only use the necessary violence to ESCAPE harm. And kicking someone in the groin is only “acceptable” if someone is trying to kill you, or rape you(only extreme EMERGENCIES), not because you are pissed off, and most certainly not for fun like it is most of the times, keep it a fantasy. Why you girls don’t tell your Dads what you did, I am sure they will be PROUD of you.
-Ironically, if someone is trying to kill you or rape you, probably is expecting that defense from you, and so you will not be able to kick him.
-This is becoming too popular, specially in schools, girls get sexually aroused by that!. Women look sweet, but…….they are very mean and cruel by nature, they just try to hide it, it is very sad. Lucky for women men are not very vindictive like women are, and men are not very aggressive towards women like women are towards men, in fact men are very protective towards women. Men do not even hit back after getting kicked in the privates. Men like to see and touch women sexual organs, they do not like to hurt them or to see it happen to women.
Women are so much sensitive about their sexual organs and sexuality, but then do that to men and laugh!
-And nothing happens to these sex offenders because they are women, just one of many double standards and laws that always treat men worse!

“women justice” is sick, how about if it was the other way around?!!!!!!!
Girls answers regarding this issue are always disgusting!

Answer 8

dude -- I think some counselling might be in order. Life is short you don't need to live in pain and fear.

Answer 9

Are you serious? Don't hit her back you'll probably end up in jail. Leave her, she sounds like a b*tch.

Answer 10

Maybe next time you'll clean the house.