2006-08-28 03:30:21 · 13 answers · asked by lovehorse4evr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know it seems like you're always wrong, but you have to admit that sometimes you may be wrong and sometimes she may be wrong. Moms and their kids fight. Its part of you learning your independance and her learning to let go. Remember she thinks she knows whats best for you and chances are, she probably does.
But, I want you to try something. Next time you find yourself in an arguement with her, stop yelling and say something like "you know mom, all we do is argue and yell, lets try to get over this by just talking. You hear me out and I'll hear you out and we can try to have a conversation instead of yelling"
Your mother will probably be very impressed with you maturing and may be more willing to see things from your point of view.
Good luck
2006-08-28 03:39:15 · answer #1 · answered by lolo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your mom is trying to make sure that nothing happens to you. You don't realize that all the shouting is her way of telling you she cares and wants you to be safe. I did that with my daugther when she was in high school. It's something that I couldn't seem to stop either.
She moved out a few years ago and we are much better now. She's older, and I realize that she has her own life. She will do what she wants now that she's an adult, and I have a small input in it. Anything we argue about is just to make sure that everything will be all right.
You can try to talk to your mom. She probably is very frustrated. It might help your situation if you can communicate with her. I know it's not easy. But she is your mother and looking out for you. Try to make the first step. You both will feel much better after. At least it will be a start.
2006-08-28 03:44:49 · answer #2 · answered by fran c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a power struggle. She wants to still feel in control and you want to feel you have control. You feel you are trying to defend yourself. She feels you are talking back to her. Everytime this starts, decided if it is really worth fighting over. You can still defend yourself. Do it in a way that does not esculate the problem. Example: Say, "I Guess that wasnt the best way to handle that, where do we go from here? or Do you really think I wrong, I worked so hard on that, I was really proud of my work. or Well maybe if you show me again I can do it right next time, you mind showing me? Its called defusion: You stop the cycle of conflict by having an unexpected come back like this. You will really gain the control and she will learn to liten up or you just keep handling it that way till she understands her approach has not been so good.
good luck, have memorized responses made in advance so you can just rattle them off at will, have a normal voice tone when you do it, or it wont work... cheers, have fun being the new empowered person in the family... do that with anyone for great results..
2006-08-28 04:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't beieve you are always wrong. Maybe it's time for you and your mom to sit down and have a heart to talk with each other when she isn't mad and corigable. Sometimes it could be something small that is bothering her. Work on it together and maybe you two can get through these rough times. If this doesn't work then might I suggest some conselling? Good luck. Remember this.....she is your mom and you only get one real mother in a life time.
2006-08-28 03:49:52 · answer #4 · answered by Gez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom and I always fight too and I just try to avoid her. She has ber abusive moments and I just know when to stay away. I would suggest you try to pick up when your mom is in a bad mood and give her space or I would pick my batlles. If it seems like a topic that is not going to get you two anywere I would just drop it. For example topics like if someone took the garbage out. I highly doubt you are always wrong. No one is ever always wrong since there are two sides to it and two people.
2006-08-28 03:38:51 · answer #5 · answered by Kaish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i also fight with my mom, its fun, but whenever you start fighting we dont have control over ourself and speak out whatever crap comes to the end of our tongue, which we shouldnt and later we feel bad abt it and feel sorry, but we cant do anything abt it bcs its already been spoken out by you, all you can do is apologize and they will also let it go bcs however big you maybe but you are still a child to your parents :D
2006-08-28 03:52:09 · answer #6 · answered by Skyn3t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In future u will have 2 fight many more people.but only ur mom will ever forgive u.this is just a phase.let it pass.dont blow it out of proportion.be nice 2 her.
2006-08-28 03:53:19 · answer #7 · answered by archie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this isnt very specific Did you break her rules? She will be upset if you dont listen to her. Try to realize she does things for your own good. I remember how hard it was raising teenagers. Im sure she loves you. Try to cooperate with her.
2006-08-28 03:49:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly wrong then learn from what your mother is saying.Do'nt get mad.Don't repeat the same mistake twice.
2006-09-01 03:30:50 · answer #9 · answered by thirsty mind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eh, when it comes to moms us kids are always wrong. get used to it, your gonnahave to deal with it as long as our mommas live
2006-08-31 19:42:16 · answer #10 · answered by juicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋