2006-08-28 03:25:53 · 13 answers · asked by Golgo-13 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I mean I physically don't feel well, I mean insisting on sex when I physically don't feel well doesn't exactly make for good or comfortable sex...
2006-08-28 03:35:19 · update #1
trying to make you happy
2006-08-28 03:27:58 · answer #1 · answered by D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is telling you something important about your girlfriend, yourself and your relationship. But it's impossible for us to know what that is with so little information.
Look at what is going on with the rest of it. How are you getting along otherwise? How are your conversations? Do you initiate sex when you're feeling good? Does she want it then? Maybe she doesn't initiate when you're feeling good because you do before she has a chance, or maybe her timing is just different or her approach is slower.
There are always 'power' issues in a relationship, who tends to decide what you do and when, who usually gets their way. Sex often becomes a battle ground for power struggles and withholding sex can be a kind of silent protest for the one who usually loses. Try to understand the power dynamic in your relationship, it might give you some insight into this question.
Another possiblitiy to consider -- and remember this is just a guess -- is that for some reason she doesn't want sex and this is a way for her to avoid it while also avoiding the reasons why she doesn't want it or perhaps the intimacy. That's just a guess though.
And the most important part, have you spoken with her about it? She might not even realise that she's doing it. Or maybe she's not and it's actually just your perception.
Well that's some things for you to mull over. I hope you get it sorted out.
2006-08-28 13:47:41 · answer #2 · answered by The angels have the phone box. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason the questioner is feeling ill is because his issues with his parents and family is manifesting itself through illnesses.
I doubt that he will ever admit that he needs help because he is so troubled and in such denial. So the sexual problems he is having now is only the tip of the iceburg.
Think it is bad now? Get some help.
2006-08-28 20:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by MoMattTexas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is insecure and mistakes your "not feeling good" is about her. She then wants sex to be sure that she is not losing you. Then, when you are feeling good, she feels secure enough to refuse you. Sounds like this girl has emotional issues that you cannot possibly fix for her.
2006-08-28 10:30:34 · answer #4 · answered by Painter Lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. She's not really listening to you. Nor does she care.
2. For some reason, sickness is a turn-on for her. Don't make it yours.
3. I would look elsewhere for a girlfriend. You don't need the aggravation, resentment and discomfort.
Good Luck!
2006-09-01 00:18:21 · answer #5 · answered by mitch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that something you need to discuss with her, before it becomes a problem in your relationship. Why are you not "feeling good" so much? Do you ever try to initiate it when you are feeling well?
2006-08-28 10:28:49 · answer #6 · answered by Appolnia_76 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You people lack the chemistry
2006-08-28 10:31:29 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Luck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is the sky blue? Why is water wet? Dude, excuse me, Duke please! If man could figure out women there would be no such thing as adultary or divorce.
2006-08-28 12:43:16 · answer #8 · answered by scorpion187us 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
shes trying to make you feel better
2006-08-28 10:33:44 · answer #9 · answered by san_ann68 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you insist on it from her when she doesn't feel good...
2006-08-28 12:51:22 · answer #10 · answered by chays 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋