he cheated and i broke it off but he wont stop calling me after i have asked repeatedly for him to stop ...says hes sorry made a mistake wants me back ,,why now after hes hurt me does he realize he loved me ,,sigh !
2006-08-28 03:16:02 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lets get something straight right now: Older wiser man to silly girl - you ask "why now after hes hurt me does he realize he loved me"
The answer is simple - he doesn't. He wants a girlfreind or he needs "nookie" and that's all there is to it. He thinks he can "con" you again so he's a rat, he's going to give it a try, what does he have to lose? Even if you are sincere about breaking it off he still has a chance to get a little "break up" sex and by the sounds of the guy, he'll take anything he can get!
The guy lied to your face. He promised you he wouldn't sl*ut around behind your back and then he did it anyway. This is NOT actually about SEX. Its about trust and honesty. He is dishonest by nature, and you simply can't trust ANYTHING the guy says! That is HIS PERSONALITY. How is that EVER going to change?
He never "realize he loved you," he just got caught, that's ALL! Every word out of his mouth does NOT mean "I love you" "I'll never do it again," "I never realized how much you mean to me.."
The words he's speaking ONLY mean, "Come on, gimme some more, " "Gimme, gimme, gimme..." "I need sex REAL bad, gimme, gimme, I promise I won't get caught again....."
Your choice, but if you want advice from someone who's been around the block a few times, Make yourself a HUGE sign and put it on the wall over your kitchen table where you can see it every morning:
"MEN ARE LIKE BUSSES! IF YOU MISS THIS ONE, THERE WILL BE ANOTHER ONE ALONG IN 5 MINUTES!"
2006-08-28 03:54:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're serious about it, let the phone ring. Don't answer it, turn the ringer off. Don't give in. He shouldn't just now be realizing how much he loves you after the fact. He should have known it all along, known it enough to not do what he did. You don't need that.
Avoid his calls.
2006-08-28 03:21:40 · answer #2 · answered by meyouokay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember once a cheater always a cheater. If he realized he loved you, I would still say sorry buddy to the curb. If you let him get away with it once, he will do it again. I think that he thought he could get away with it and got caught. That's all.
2006-08-28 03:20:15 · answer #3 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you will take charges out on him for phone harrassment,and in America you can actually be sentenced to ten years in the federal pen if convicted ,some people do not get that much time for murder,wierd ainT it?
2006-08-28 03:25:08 · answer #4 · answered by Iceman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because hindsight is 20/20! Tell him that you hope he learned a valuable lesson that will benefit him in his next relationship - with someone else. Let him know that you have moved on, and wish he would do the same
2006-08-28 03:21:17 · answer #5 · answered by buggsnme2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater...he won't change so don't fool yourself into thinking he will. Tell him the next time he calls you that its over and not to call again. If he keeps it up, you might have to report him for harassment.....
2006-08-28 03:19:42 · answer #6 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, tell him he needs to learn from his mistake, like you have. Once a cheater, always a cheater, no matter how sorry they are. If they get away with it once, they are much more likely to do it again.
2006-08-28 03:23:34 · answer #7 · answered by mmmpal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop harassing you and that there is no way you will ever like or trust him again and that its over. If he really starts stalking you, go to your parents or the athorities or your brothers friends lol.
2006-08-28 03:29:45 · answer #8 · answered by Thumper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they never realize wat they are giving up when they are ******* around until it is actually gone, i was always told that if you want a bad relationship to get better you need to break up with s/he and then they will realize wat they are missing, if you truely love him too then id try it one more time but he has a trial period if thing between to 2 of you arent 10 better than what they were before say "i gave you a chance and u ****** up, Good bye...try to contact me and ill have the whole city on ur *** u loser".
2006-08-28 03:22:18 · answer #9 · answered by Shy Town 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made the right decision. Stick with it. Change your number; block the call or just keep ignoring him!
2006-08-28 03:19:32 · answer #10 · answered by bethiswriting 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋