Can someone explain the difference between the two? He said's he loves me but he doesn't know if he is in-love with me. We are attracted to each other but he finds it hard to open up completely like a friend. I find he doesn't show true interest but what does he mean? he saids, "I don't know"... This questions is for the guys out there, what does it mean when the guy say, "I don't know how I feel about you", "I know I love you, but I am IN-LOVE with you". I broke up with him but he still wants me around.
Should I wait or not?
2006-08-28 03:13:11 · 16 answers · asked by Treasure 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I must add that after we dated 2.5 years we broke up to 9 months later he asked me back. We work together and I think it was hard for me to forget him. On the other hand, he was living the single life. I couldn't stop calling him and letting him know about my dates and all. Now that I'm looking at it, I think he asked me back because he felt sorry for me. His sister-in-law once say, he has moved on and that he was socializing... Now we are back together but I see him further and further away. He decided that in 1 week he'll come up with the answer as long as I don't mention the relationship this entire week. What does that mean? I thought communication was important, right?
2006-08-28 15:36:16 · update #1
oh! by; the way, I"m not a child I'm a grown adult. I've been in love before but every man love is different but the signs of love are all the same.
2006-08-28 15:39:30 · update #2
Well i am a girl but I know the answer to this question very well. The difference between loving someone and bing "in-love" with them is actually a lot. I love a lot of people, all in different ways of course, but when you find someone to be "in-love" with you will know. It is a feeling like you can't live without each other and everything you do you want that other person there with you. You are just so happy sitting and hugging them that it seems like you are the only two people in the world. You can stare in each other's eyes and not feel dumb or weird about it. I am 25 now, I thought I was in love 2 times before I really found out what it was like with my current bf, who is soon to be my fiance. I loved those other two guys with all my heart, biut I wasn't "in-love" with them. I guess it is the feeling that people talk about when they find "The One". It is an amazoing feeling and when you find that person, neither of you will have to ask if the other isin-love with the other, you'll feel it and and know it 100%.
2006-08-28 03:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by lynswil_25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you that means he really likes you because he thinks your cool you look hot all that stuff. If he's in-love with you that means he thinks about you every second and he loves your personality and your thoughts. He can't get you out of his mind (which is good for you). Not showing true interest means he just loves you for your looks mostly. This also runs with just loving you. True interest is wanting to know more about you and your thoughts which runs with being in love. When he says he doesn't know how I feel about you it can mean to things. 1. He thinks that your really hot. The goddess of hot girls. Your really pretty. Mostly just that he is so in awe of you (means the most amazing girl on the planet) he can't describe you. 2. He doesn't really know if he likes you. He does but he doesn't he has his eyes on somebody else. He has mixed feelings about you, like; well is she that pretty, she is only a girl but yet she isn't any girl i seen hotter girls though... If he still want you around after you broke up the means he's at; high mixed feeling. This means he has truly mixed feelings. Probably because he needs comfort from somebody more then anything. But then that means he might be a wimp. No don't wait unless if you think you really like him. Or just become his friend.
2006-08-28 03:50:00 · answer #2 · answered by Jesus Freak!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't sweetie- he more than likely would like to continue the physical side of a relationship.
...don't go there- takes longer to heal.
being "in-love" only describes the "infactuation stage" of a relationship- it CANNOT be maintained. It is replaced with a deeper, more secure stage that includes the "friendship" you so wisely noticed was absent.
Just review the "signs" you overlooked or missed and move on...good luck.
2006-08-28 03:21:12 · answer #3 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need to have someone BANG, falling down stupid in love with you, go looking. Feelings just are and it's pretty clear that you're not satisfied with whatever the guy feels for you. If you were my daughter, and you asked me, I'd say that it's much more important how YOU feel about him. That's first and foremost. Second, if you are comfortable with him and his actions toward you, continue and see if deep feelings develop. You will be forever dissatisfied if you depend on how others feel about you to know how you feel about them.
2006-08-28 03:33:45 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not quite sure on his part. But for me, I had been with my ex for 4 and a half years dating........and now I've begun to lead a new life for myself without her. I will always love her, but I'm no longer IN love with her. I find its easier to talk to her as friends now anyway, and the woman I'm IN love with now is very supportive of everything so you know when you're in love with someone when the trust, friendship, and compassion is always at hand.
2006-08-28 03:26:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt wait more than 3 months in that circumstance He isnt feeling deep love or he would know it Thats when they want to be with you all the time
2006-08-28 03:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes boy don't really want to answer this kind of question,
If he loves you and really cares you, you can feel it by your self, can't you?
And when the relationship go strong ( need time ), he will tell you himself
Good luck
2006-08-28 03:22:00 · answer #7 · answered by Petite fleur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its sounds like you are just kids, so neither of you know what true love is, most adults don't have a clue. Just worry about school, love is very complicated
2006-08-28 03:19:44 · answer #8 · answered by Tim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he is saying to you, is he wants you for sex and this is the easiest way to say, "I am not using you." When he really is.
No you shouldn't wait. Find someone one who will treat you better.
2006-08-28 03:17:53 · answer #9 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont wait around till he can tell you something definite, usually by getting distant it makes the guy come back. dont worry!
2006-08-28 03:17:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋