you are sitting at the table during the cutting of the pies on Thankgiving day and my aunt yelled at my grandmother in like this evil voice, "You're not doing it right Mother!" This was the first time my cousin brought her fiance over to meet them. Then my grandmother slammed down the pie cutter and rushed out of the room. I just sat there and hung my head and looked at the floor. My husband was just astounded with this behavior. I was kinda embarrassed but......I mean what can you do????
2006-08-28 03:03:44 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Several years ago my mom brought her boyfriend and his mother to our family Thanksgiving dinner. We all sat down at the table and started to tuck in and when he pipes up, "Ha ha - you all remind me of pigs at a feeding trough." He and his mother were guffawing at themselves and we all just sat there with our jaws hanging open. My husband had to work that night which was a shame, he would've taken the dude outside and had a chat with him about manners, he doesn't need to get physical with anyone, he just looks intimidating enough that people clear outta his path when they see him coming.
2006-08-28 03:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can do now. Just smile at the fiance and say "There's a crazy one in every family!"
I would reassure Grandma though. NOBODY, but NOBODY yells at Grandma!!!!!!
Talk to your parents about how your aunt reacted. Screaming at someone over the way they were cutting a pie?...well obviously it wasn't about the pie. It was something else, perhaps a control issue (don't know since we don't have any family history to go by)
Anyway, if this happens in the future, I'd say something to the person doing the screaming, but keep it light, like "Geez Aunt Barbara... its only a pie! It doesn't matter how its cut, its still gonna taste great!"
Good luck, families are the biggest pain in the tukus, but they are still your family :)
2006-08-28 03:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by lolo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything. Everyone has these clashes at family gatherings to one degree or another.
Your cousin's fiance needs to know right off the bat that he is marrying into a very normal family, not a perfect one.
Of course you were uncomfortable for a moment, but you can move on and just do your part to make things pleasant at the next gathering....that's all anyone can do.
2006-08-28 03:10:19 · answer #3 · answered by Puzzler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was holidays everyone is so either nervous, pissy, tired, upset, hyper, made at someone else, stressed out about christmas or what ever is going on in their personal lives.
Your aunt may have wanted it done just right and your grandmother evidentally wasn't doing that. Your Aunt might always be on your grandmother about this and your grandma was embarassed and quite upset with your aunt. Or vice versa and the aunt was just getting revenge.
My family won't speak to each other at all we all attended the last funeral we will all be expected to attend. Then my dad was told if he didnt move they were going to run him over. Real mature huh? My husband's family well let's just say the pie cutter would probably have been imbedded in a wall next to a china hut.. now my imagination is making it miss teh china yes... cause that would be more drama to explain lol.
Its just family and your grandma didn't yell at her or anything she just left. Kudos for her :) i punched my Aunt at one holiday. It didn't go over so well... I should have just threw the turkey as mad as she made me honestly. There isn't much you can do wait and see if they get things resolved if they still aren't resolved just know the two of them will have friction.
2006-08-28 03:30:21 · answer #4 · answered by KayAlley 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That was surely a sorry situation. One member of a family disses another member of the family in front of everyone. I'm really sorry that happened.
There's nothing you can do about it now. Just put it to the back of your mind and move on with your life. Learn your lessons from the situation as best you can.'
2006-08-28 03:10:50 · answer #5 · answered by Bluealt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There isn't much you can do. It's something that needs to be handled between your aunt and your grandmother. I would be upset, too, if someone disrespected my grandparent like that, but it's not up to you to get involved unless things get out of hand or you're asked to.
2006-08-28 03:08:38 · answer #6 · answered by meyouokay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares, all families are crazy! Me and my brother got into a huge fight one Thanksgiving where we threw mashed potatoes at each other from across the table. It seems the holidays bring out the worst in people. Makes for good stories years later.
2006-08-28 03:07:44 · answer #7 · answered by Doreen A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No family has perfect gatherings...Someone always starts trouble. That's why I always volunteer to work holidays. I figure if I avoid it, there will be no conflict.
2006-08-28 03:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by pipi08_2000 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have your pie and eat it. Somebody made the bloody thing, so don't let it go to waste.
Mothers & daughters will always have their spats - it's for them to work out. Like the saying goes, "If it's not one thing, it's your mother!"
You can do nothing, so eat your pie.
2006-08-28 03:08:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Laugh it off and cut the pie. Every family has those moments. Just keep things moving on so no one has time to dwell on it.
2006-08-28 03:07:12 · answer #10 · answered by walkingdisastr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋