foreplay and no intercourse?

Question

i was with a guy but we broke up because i said i was not ready for sex he said that its important to have sex in a relationship. i seem to always have this problem as nowadays everyone has sex within a few weeks of dating and i dont give it up.I do have foreplay just not intercourse as for me intercourse is what you do to the person that your really with and love in a commited relationship. im not a virgin i was married for a very short time a few years ago. what should i do? im 27 and have not been in a serious relationship as i dont have sex and men seem to get scared that they will never get it.

Answer 1

Good For You Girl Don't Give In Just Because Some Guy Wants You To If A Guy Really Likes You He Won't Worry About That Until You Feel Ready! If He Cant Wait Until You Feel Ready You Are Better Off Without Him

Answer 2

I remember as a teeneager once beign told that if you do everything but have fullintercourse there is actually no moral difference.......I kind of think thisisthe case. To me if you are not going to have sex you kiss cuddle and feel close but if you are goingto have sex youindulge and enjoy the foreplay in the lead to full intercourse. I think where you are at with lots of foreplay is neither one thing nor the other. Is it a commitment thing....you have trouble with or have you been hurt before. Could be called a tease.....be clear in your own mind with the next man and either be prepared to commit to a full blown relationship or make itclear sex including foreplay off limits until such time as it feels right for both of you. Not playing at it.

Answer 3

so what if they r scared. they r big babies sometimes, if the guy seriously loves u he will respect ur feelings & will know that when the time is right, he will get something so pleasurable & intense, almost sacred, because he has something that only belongs 2 him. dont u ever feel that u have 2 do something because everyone else is doing "it." u do only what is right 4 u. u r not in school anymore, where u should feel pressured 2 do things out of fear of peer pressure. u r an adult.. u know what u want & what u do not. this is your body. u r in control. u will always b in control. if u dont want it now, then that is the way it is. this may not b the guy 4 u. once u give in, then there is nothing 2 ever look 4ward 2 anymore. so then what do u do if he gets bored? he will move on 2 someone else, then u will really b upset with urself. sex was meant 2 b with the one u loved & want 2 spend the rest of ur life with. i know that isnt so true anymore, but 4 some it is. u r that one & u hold ur head high, & continue with what u believe & u will b able 2 live with urself. i totally applaud u, never give in because of someone else. good luck in all..

Answer 4

I've gone through that. My childhood boyfriend- when we grew up- would come at me for sex, and when he didnt get it, he would try every line in the book to see if I would budge, and when I didnt he'd move on to other girls who would give it up...saying "he has needs" and he needs to fulfill them. Then he'd keep running back to me when the women actually used him and left him. After some time of trying to help him see that it is not all about sex, I moved on. I ended up finding a man who valued friendship far more than sex. He realized that once the relationship is solid and we both choose each other, then sex will come naturally. Since him, I've kept true to my belief that sex doesnt come first, friendship does. I'm married now, and my husband made sure to point that out. If there is more than one man in the world that sees things that way, I dont think you'll go too much longer without meeting one. Blessings always. Keep the faith, and be patient. He'll come, or you'll find him.

Oh, and foreplay and no sex will make a man frustrated and feel like you were leading him on. Don't go there.

Answer 5

It's good that you have a sense of moral values, but STOP the foreplay. Foreplay is the play before sex and you sending the wrong signals. That can be frustrating to a man if it's something you do often. I don't think a man would mind waiting that much if you are not get him excited and overly aroused and that is something foreplay does. Stick to basic kissing and cuddling but no foreplay if you're not going to have sex.

Answer 6

Why don't you have sex? have you been emotionally damaged by others? If you have, you need to maybe get some counselling to rid you of any hang ups you may have, you need to be able to move on with things in the past being just that, in the past! There is nothing more sensual than a man wanting to sleep with his woman, and teasing with just the foreplay is rather teenagerish, you are already being intimate with the guy, whats wrong with being completely at ease and having great sex?

Answer 7

Men are obsessed with sex as far as I can see, the ones I meet all seem to think that foreplay within 24 hours of meeting you is the norm. Perhaps explaining to them that actually sex causes women to risk pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases every time they have it because of men's inability to put condoms on properly, will make them back down a bit. I don't think any of them actually think about this.
Don't let anyone bully you into sex against your wishes, if they try to they aren't worth it.

Answer 8

Must seem to be an impossible situation. Sorry. My first reaction is that your screening of the candidates may be part of the problem. Around here there are quite a few guys who are gentle, caring, and would understand your situation and concerns and would wait to get "it." Where are you looking for guys? I rather think guys who'll participate in foreplay will not be ones who'll be patient for "it."

Answer 9

At last someone with morals! I am certain any truly genuine males out there would much rather be in a long term relationship with a female who hasn't had sex with everyone she has dated just for the sake of it. You will meet someone who deserves you and when you do he will be pleased at the fact you have these values .take care xx

Answer 10

its a nice thinking to have intercourse with the person whome u r committed. u can have foreplay with men who are not really interseted in having intercouse also.
both the partners can give and take so much enjoyment to and from each other that u can reach to orgasm and climax even without having the intercourse.
you are only 27 u should really think of re-marriage now.SERIOUSLY