My Bipolar Wife: Part 3?

Question

She did spend some time in a psychiatric care unit a few months ago. The doctor put her on a mood stabalizer. I am absolutely sure that this is not working though. Since she got out of the care her moods were better but her behaviors did not change at all. They actually got worse. Is it possible that she is not medicated properly? At this time she thinks she is just fine and everything is working for her, but the behaviors are just getting worse. She is getting more distant and more secrative. I do not plan to give up on my wife, I will carry her cross with her, as this is what I am called to do as God's servant. I just want to get her well again. In my State you have to prove she is a danger to herself or others to have her committed. She has not tried or talked about suicide yet. This really scares me. Should I be concerned?

Answer 1

Keep your faith strong, and don't let Satan make you abandon her...she is ill...and in a way,..keeping you closer to the Lord..sometimes I think the Lord allows things to happen to keep His children a bit stronger for something else He has planned down the line..and I speak from experience...Pray,..be strong...love her, and stand by her..if she is really sick...and forgive her all the time..you will recieve the patience you desire....

Answer 2

I have read your other questions and from what I gather you and your wife are already getting a divorce. You can let her go without "giving up" on her. She has obviously chosen her path. I understand she is mentally ill but she is still an adult and unless she has psychotic/ schizophrenic episodes she makes her own choices. You have to consider your CHILD. You have no idea how much your wife's illness is affecting your child. Watching you chase behind your wife is not helping your child. What you need to do is be the stable force in that child life. When your wife is ready for a change be there for her but realize you cannot make her get better and by feeding into her sickness you are only hurting yourself and your child unnecessarily.

Answer 3

My brotherinlaw was bipolar and for 20 years he did horrible thing to my sister.he beat her ,placed guns to her head,went thru all her money on one stupid scheme after another,he tried to kill himself and her countless times.He had sex with any one when in the manic stage for weeks on end,he destroyed my sisters life because he wouldn't take the lithium the doctors gave him,when he was manic he felt he didn't need the medication and when the depression came it was too late.The person must want to not be bipolar or manic/depressive if they don't there is little help except in a controlled enforcement such as a hospital.Many people lead normal productive lives while dealing with this illness so there is help so don't give up on her and try to do whats best for yourself too ,my sister finally got away from her husband and he killed himself about 6months after she divorced him.He lived all his life with this illness and never wanted to change it.Not taking the meds is what killed him ,not the divorce.My sister passed away last year a broken woman .I think she died from a broken heart because she was not at all fighting to live....don't give up on yourself at some point in life you must think of only yourself.

Answer 4

Sorry, but I am unaware of her "behaviors". Is she a control freak, a spendthrift? Does she fly into rages over nothing? Does she use alcohol or other drugs? Is she all wrapped up in herself?
Does she seem to be without a conscience?
My "ex" was thought, for years to be bipolar, but she was also a "borderline" personality.
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Answer 5

Yes, talk to her and her doctor immediately! I mean it. GET OFF OF THE DAMN COMPUTER AND PICK UP THE PHONE! You shouldn't even have to ask.