what should i do?

Question

Hey iv meet this guy and we are from different back grounds and i don't know why but every guy i meet is only after one thing....my family suggested i asked if he would go on a double date...too see if his commited or not...but its out first date and i totally understand if he'll freak out as i will be dead scard as well....what do i do..i love my family but they wont give me space to grow and i don't want to fall out wit him either coz his a nice chap....but i have had a bad past and i know where my famils coming from...but im stuck can anyone help me?

Answer 1

u have to talk to ur family and tell them how u feel u need ur own space its best to say how u feel x

Answer 2

Be friends. If he asks you out, then he's interested. If you ask a guy out, then he's more likely to get the wrong idea and be after one thing.

So, be friends. Flirt with him a little. - Ask him if he wants a sip of your soda (through the straw) or a bite of your candy bar. You may be able to tell from his reaction if he's interested in you further. I mean, if he is repulsed by the idea of sharing a soda what is the likelyhood that he will kiss you. It may be that he just doesn't like VanillaCoke. But, you get my idea- touch his arm-
whisper something in his ear (Did you see that guy's hair!!?)
just lighthearted flirting. I don't mean sexy tease like low cut blouses or shaking your bootie and the like. Ask him what type of girl he finds attractive. Does it sound remotely like you? Don't change for him!

It might take some time, but during that time you 2 will get to know eachother better. It's all good.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Your family are trying to protect you from being hurt again but it sounds your family are being a little over protective.Just remind them that you need a little space and to make your own decisions and mistakes but assure them that you understand what they are trying to do.Let them know this is your first date with this person and if all goes well you`ll take it one day at a time.Assure them your date will be somewhere public and on neutral ground and that you will have your phone with you....Good luck.

Answer 4

Go out with the guy just make sure that both of you are in the neutral place, that there are people. Follow what you feel. Ask him straight in your date. Most guy rattled when ask in the first date. Even they planned everything, you will hold the pace of the date. Then tell your parents about him. Be honest with them.

Answer 5

Let him know up front that he's not going to get the "one thing" he's after, especially on the first day. Don't worry about backgrounds unless you get in a situation where you want to marry someone, because having a bi-racial child can be tough on the child. Your family may be right though about him (my rents were about my sorry-*** ex), but you've got to figure that out for yourself.

Answer 6

I am sorry but even if u love ur family but u should decide for urself so that if something bad happpens u dont blame them but on e other side they should not interfere into ur affairs so much but belive me that there is someone special who knew u before these people were even there just and i know God will find a solution for u .

Answer 7

A double date could be fun, have a couple of them until you get to know each other, Take it slow, start of as friend first, and let it grow into a flourishing relationship, Have fun.

Answer 8

Do what make you feel good,give everyone else the chance to accept your decision.

Answer 9

re think in point
n u will find that ur backbone is ur family not him
what ever ur past be

Answer 10

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